Thank you Dstructor, and everyone who has posted here so far. Your posts are all very informative and offer me a wealth of information as I'm sure you no doubt know. I plan after this post to take a look at the things I do and try to analyze them with your formula, I'll post back here after a few, hopefully I have success.
On another forum I was asked to post a detailed example of what I mean, and I posted two. In this post are a few important realizations I made about my behavior, and that I would really like opinions on as well as the rest:
With my parents I'm now realizing more and more that their comments are such to help me, and your input has helped calm me when I think of such events. It seems the determining factor there was anger clouding my vision. Perhaps such could be the same with my peers.. (thanks very much to you guys for helping me understand this)
It is mainly these 2 guys in my classes (all but 1 of my classes) and who I see together constantly around the school. When there is nothing to make fun of, they will make fun of my weight. Otherwise, they will make fun of just random things I do. When I make an action, for instance, do something like drink water "how much water will he drink", clean my shoe off "whisper whisper hahahahahhahahahaha" look up and theyre laughing at me. Sometimes from them I'll hear random snickering and look and theyll be looking at me. When I look at them its like the tension I feel around others times 100. Its always been some kind of bully since grade 7, these are the latest and the only now. Its gotten to a point where it doesn't even matter if they're actually making fun of me or not - I hear their laughs and feel bad. Also, and this is important, when I laugh or enjoy something myself - or feel really really good really quickly - it is ruined soon or instantly by a feeling of "cancellation" like I don't deserve to feel good..
When I see people its basically in two categories, the people I want to meet and those I dont. Those I do want to meet are basically limited to girls I feel attraction towards, I think my experiences with all male bullies for the past 6 years may have done something towards my want for male friends, although I do have a few our relationships are in decline. Those girls I wanna meet usually (and these beliefs have been changed by me into what they are now) I think they want to meet me too, and recently since I have been saying "Girls I like want to seduce me" more and more girls have been coming up to me all the time. The people I don't want to meet - everyone else, I feel has some negative intention somehow to me, or they themselves are feeling bad.
Yesterday I went to a mall behind my school and saw 3 people frm my school - 2 who currently go there but are in the "i have no interest in" category and the other in the same category who doesn't go there anymore - two girls and one gay guy(admittedly). So I order my food and sit away from them, watch tv and mind my business. I go up to get my food and I start putting condiments on my food and some asian guy who was there commented on them and said "haha you know how to eat" and gave me a pat on the back. Then some more small chat but I wasn't really into chatting - in fact when these people, girls included, come up and talk to me, I'm not much for convo whether I wanna be or not, its like hard to go from thinking to acting - and I went to eat my food. About 5 minutes later I hear the voice of one of the girls shouting "Loner!" at me.
Bless us all,
Chris