dude this is just simply last minute rejection... its so fvckin common bro, and its easily delt with.
one thing, the title of this thread is totally wrong, sounds like you got a lot of action.
I think you certainly have this one in the bag. Maybe she wanted you to take totally control and just hump her so she didnt feel like a slvt. Maybe she wont sleep with you the first night cause of her own priorities but might ride it like a cowgirl on the second play night.
Its hard to tell... But either way you sound like youre taking this personally, like an ego hit and it has nothing to do with you.
The best thing to do is ALWAYS BE OK with not getting sex from a girl on the first night. If you really think about it, thats a major jump for A LOT of girls. I think you handled it perfectly, its just your attitude about the whole experience is wrong.
Just always be cool. Be aggressive and go for what you want, but try not to be forceful or pushy about sex... just casually keep escalating towards it, and if it doesn't work today keep the escalation going the next day too...
... I myself have been working on NOT thinking in my head that i'm about to get some. Its such a let down when I'm with a chick and everything is going great and I start thinking "ohhh hell yeah im about to get laid", cause they tend to pick up on your vibe and for some reason it can make them want to stop like they are being slvtty and don't want to be easy.
Its best to not care, just enjoy everything and keep escalating. If you get it then awesome, if not, ohwell you still enjoyed your time with her...
Plus this carefree attitude will be less intrusive and make her more relaxed and comfortable with sleeping with you. It makes her feel like you arent judging her, youre just going with the flow and doing whatever it natural.