be definition, it means the one pair of male/female in the pack that is allowed to breed. the pack can't support more than one litter of pups. If any occur, they starve, or the alphas kill and eat them. If you're not an alpha, the odds are very badly against you ever becoming one. In a dog pack, all have to be ready to 'step up" and become the alpha, if the original is hurt, sick, or dies. the way modern society is, the alphas not only don't get out of the way, they actively (in many cases) do their level best to screw up as many betas as possible. It's going to take massive effort for you to overcome betaness. That's why I say get a black belt, become a Class A combat match competitor, and go overseas for a woman, where your mere US citizenship makes you special, lets you take your pick of women.