jophil28
Master Don Juan
ONE of the most glaring gender double standards which you younger men will encounter is how society treats men and women differently when each is faced with adversity .
Men are rewarded with admiration when they push through their fear and ACT in the face of threat or danger. WE are expected to get the job done even if it brings injury, loss or personal damage. Men are NOT applauded for failing, doubting themselves, weeping about their upbringing or making excuses.
Women,on the other hand, are not burdened with such lofty expectations.
When a woman fails we find "reasons" for her lack of success, When a woman retreats we seek to "understand" her . She is showered with attention and sympathy and is relieved of accountability for her "failings" which are often cunningly transferred to another person - often her B/f or her husband.
Women are treated with kid gloves and wrapped in cotton their whole lives. Their whims are catered to, and their tantrums are overlooked from early childhood. Why would anyone who was raised like that take personal responsibility for the progress of their lives ? It takes a rare women to NOT exploit all that license and free rein.
So it falls to us, men. We are the ones who just cannot afford the self indulgence of endlessly discussing our "feelings" .We are the ones who must take charge and take responsibility for all the world's forward motion. WE are the ones who "put things right" while women enjoy the luxury of their beloved victimhood .
The next time you expect a woman to act with rationality or grace or honor remember that they were never trained to do so. THis is not to say that they do not grasp these concepts- they do. They just prefer not to have to act accordingly.
Men it is OUR job to LEAD and to take the reins and hold fast to that which we seek.. The next time that you hand over control of any part of your relationship to a woman remember that you are placing the reins in unskilled hands.
Now go out there and make life happen.
Men are rewarded with admiration when they push through their fear and ACT in the face of threat or danger. WE are expected to get the job done even if it brings injury, loss or personal damage. Men are NOT applauded for failing, doubting themselves, weeping about their upbringing or making excuses.
Women,on the other hand, are not burdened with such lofty expectations.
When a woman fails we find "reasons" for her lack of success, When a woman retreats we seek to "understand" her . She is showered with attention and sympathy and is relieved of accountability for her "failings" which are often cunningly transferred to another person - often her B/f or her husband.
Women are treated with kid gloves and wrapped in cotton their whole lives. Their whims are catered to, and their tantrums are overlooked from early childhood. Why would anyone who was raised like that take personal responsibility for the progress of their lives ? It takes a rare women to NOT exploit all that license and free rein.
So it falls to us, men. We are the ones who just cannot afford the self indulgence of endlessly discussing our "feelings" .We are the ones who must take charge and take responsibility for all the world's forward motion. WE are the ones who "put things right" while women enjoy the luxury of their beloved victimhood .
The next time you expect a woman to act with rationality or grace or honor remember that they were never trained to do so. THis is not to say that they do not grasp these concepts- they do. They just prefer not to have to act accordingly.
Men it is OUR job to LEAD and to take the reins and hold fast to that which we seek.. The next time that you hand over control of any part of your relationship to a woman remember that you are placing the reins in unskilled hands.
Now go out there and make life happen.
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