Scars
Master Don Juan
A quick little tip I found by accident while dealing with my current girlfriend.
While in an argument, or while she decides to "express her feelings." here are some key tips you should follow:
1.) Let her do most, if not all the talking. Don't be so short that you come off as a d!ck (remember, this is damage control) but keep your words minimal. Woman often just want to verbalize their feelings, and just want someone to listen to them.
2.) Play aloof. Act like you had no idea something was wrong until she brings it up herself. Through time, this will train her to just verbalize her problems whenever they arise. This should be a key factor in any relationship (straight forwardness), but some men aren't so lucky.
3.) Repeat what she says back to her. What I mean by that is, take the part that she wants hear and retort it back to her but add some stuff of your own around it, and comfort her. Example after next tip.
3.) Get her to say what she wants to hear. How? By carefully constructed questions and words. An example:
Scars: Hey!
GF: Hey..
Scars: How are you?
GF: Good.
Scars: What's wrong?
GF: What do you mean?
Scars: You're being short with me.. what's wrong babe?
GF: Nothing..
Scars: Just tell me.
GF: Well, idk.. nothing feels right, I'm sad.. blah blah *whatever surface talk a normal woman would say*
(A woman, will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS start or end using the word "feel" or "feeling" or "feelings" during an argument. It's guaranteed.)
Scars: Why do you feel that way?
GF: idk.. I just do.
Scars: Why though?
GF: Well lately I just feel like you don't care.
Scars: Why do you feel like I don't care?
GF: Because you haven't been as communicative with me lately, and I just wonder about things and blah blah blah.. woman talk.
Scars: I'm sorry I haven't been as communicative lately.. I've just been so busy lately with work and this and that..
GF: I know you've been busy.. I just feel like you don't care, and I see all these other girls posting on your profile all the time.. (Woman will often repeat themselves and run around in circles.)
Scars: I know babe, I'll try and be more communicative but you must remember I still have to follow my goals and blah blah (Remember to pitch your side of the story. And do it firmly. But at the same time, tell her what she wants to hear. She put the words right in front of you for you to say.) And I'm sorry about those girls, I can't help what they say.
GF: I know, but it just makes me feel like you might be having something on the side.. I just don't want to be played. (Once she gets one issue out, she'll bring up something else that's been at her mind for awhile, but has repressed.)
Scars: You aren't getting played. You know you're the only girl that I want.
GF: Really?
Scars: Yes..
GF: Awh & make-up session ensues.
In this example, she just felt neglected, and just needed a bit of attention. She's not an attention ***** by any means. But she saw some things on the facebook profile that she reacted negatively to. All she needed was a little bit of comfort. I took her words and fed them to her exactly how she wanted to hear. By playing aloof, and asking her questions until she finally told me what she wanted to here.
And if all else fails, "I'm sorry you feel that way," works wonders as well. Anything with the word "feel" in it.
So in a nutshell:
Play dumb.
Ask them how they feel.
Get them to verbalize what's wrong.
Take from that what they want to hear, and retort it back to them with your own spice.
Mind you. Sometimes you have to ask a woman what's wrong 18 times before she says anything. But if she's been short and giving you sh!tty attitude, chances are she has a lot to say. She's just waiting for you to dig it out of her.
Cheers.
-Scars
While in an argument, or while she decides to "express her feelings." here are some key tips you should follow:
1.) Let her do most, if not all the talking. Don't be so short that you come off as a d!ck (remember, this is damage control) but keep your words minimal. Woman often just want to verbalize their feelings, and just want someone to listen to them.
2.) Play aloof. Act like you had no idea something was wrong until she brings it up herself. Through time, this will train her to just verbalize her problems whenever they arise. This should be a key factor in any relationship (straight forwardness), but some men aren't so lucky.
3.) Repeat what she says back to her. What I mean by that is, take the part that she wants hear and retort it back to her but add some stuff of your own around it, and comfort her. Example after next tip.
3.) Get her to say what she wants to hear. How? By carefully constructed questions and words. An example:
Scars: Hey!
GF: Hey..
Scars: How are you?
GF: Good.
Scars: What's wrong?
GF: What do you mean?
Scars: You're being short with me.. what's wrong babe?
GF: Nothing..
Scars: Just tell me.
GF: Well, idk.. nothing feels right, I'm sad.. blah blah *whatever surface talk a normal woman would say*
(A woman, will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS start or end using the word "feel" or "feeling" or "feelings" during an argument. It's guaranteed.)
Scars: Why do you feel that way?
GF: idk.. I just do.
Scars: Why though?
GF: Well lately I just feel like you don't care.
Scars: Why do you feel like I don't care?
GF: Because you haven't been as communicative with me lately, and I just wonder about things and blah blah blah.. woman talk.
Scars: I'm sorry I haven't been as communicative lately.. I've just been so busy lately with work and this and that..
GF: I know you've been busy.. I just feel like you don't care, and I see all these other girls posting on your profile all the time.. (Woman will often repeat themselves and run around in circles.)
Scars: I know babe, I'll try and be more communicative but you must remember I still have to follow my goals and blah blah (Remember to pitch your side of the story. And do it firmly. But at the same time, tell her what she wants to hear. She put the words right in front of you for you to say.) And I'm sorry about those girls, I can't help what they say.
GF: I know, but it just makes me feel like you might be having something on the side.. I just don't want to be played. (Once she gets one issue out, she'll bring up something else that's been at her mind for awhile, but has repressed.)
Scars: You aren't getting played. You know you're the only girl that I want.
GF: Really?
Scars: Yes..
GF: Awh & make-up session ensues.
In this example, she just felt neglected, and just needed a bit of attention. She's not an attention ***** by any means. But she saw some things on the facebook profile that she reacted negatively to. All she needed was a little bit of comfort. I took her words and fed them to her exactly how she wanted to hear. By playing aloof, and asking her questions until she finally told me what she wanted to here.
And if all else fails, "I'm sorry you feel that way," works wonders as well. Anything with the word "feel" in it.
So in a nutshell:
Play dumb.
Ask them how they feel.
Get them to verbalize what's wrong.
Take from that what they want to hear, and retort it back to them with your own spice.
Mind you. Sometimes you have to ask a woman what's wrong 18 times before she says anything. But if she's been short and giving you sh!tty attitude, chances are she has a lot to say. She's just waiting for you to dig it out of her.
Cheers.
-Scars
