MisterMcGee
Master Don Juan
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I'd like to ask this girl out, we've known each other for a while and dont see each other often. I'm not looking to date right now, though, as I've got other things going on. I'm forced to see her around once every twoish weeks.
If I don't ask her out, do I essentially lose out on this opportunity? I mean, I don't want to be friendzoned just because I didn't make a move. I'm not making a move because I don't want to, not because I'm afraid or whatnot. There are other things in my life that take priority right now.
So, by not making a move, do I essentially become unwillingly friendzoned and lose all chances with her? Remember, I'm forced to see her every now and then in a certain environment. I'm not being all friendly and getting close to her in the meantime, of course. I'm not an AFC, I'd just rather ask her out on my own terms in the future.
So is there a difference between a DJ who doesn't make a move on a girl, and an AFC who is passive and wusses out of making a move on a girl?
One of my friends (a girl) told me that girls don't cement guys into the friendzone unless they are ridiculous or AFC (she gave me a prime example lmao). She said it's not impossible to start talking again to someone you used to talk to and have them be interested in you - it happens.
Another friend of mine told me something like:
"it wouldn't really matter if he asked after a while because the girl would just think "well i guess for a while there he just wanted to be friends and now he's interested in more". if you're not all wimpy and obvious about liking the girl, she's not gonna be like "geeze i know he's interested, he needs to just ask already"
If I don't ask her out, do I essentially lose out on this opportunity? I mean, I don't want to be friendzoned just because I didn't make a move. I'm not making a move because I don't want to, not because I'm afraid or whatnot. There are other things in my life that take priority right now.
So, by not making a move, do I essentially become unwillingly friendzoned and lose all chances with her? Remember, I'm forced to see her every now and then in a certain environment. I'm not being all friendly and getting close to her in the meantime, of course. I'm not an AFC, I'd just rather ask her out on my own terms in the future.
So is there a difference between a DJ who doesn't make a move on a girl, and an AFC who is passive and wusses out of making a move on a girl?
One of my friends (a girl) told me that girls don't cement guys into the friendzone unless they are ridiculous or AFC (she gave me a prime example lmao). She said it's not impossible to start talking again to someone you used to talk to and have them be interested in you - it happens.
Another friend of mine told me something like:
"it wouldn't really matter if he asked after a while because the girl would just think "well i guess for a while there he just wanted to be friends and now he's interested in more". if you're not all wimpy and obvious about liking the girl, she's not gonna be like "geeze i know he's interested, he needs to just ask already"
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