Duracell_Bunny said:
"I'm just feeling a bit unsure of this with us. I like you VERY much but im not sure I want to be in a relationship. I thought I did but I think I want some time to to other stuff. Will talk to you Thursday, if you don't hate me that is. X"
This is the offical ending isn't it? Where no longer together
Reading this just burns me up on the inside with a reckless abandon. The rage I get when I read this knows no bounds... simply because it's HER that's breaking up with you yet SHE'S portraying herself as the victim here.
First of all, yes, it is OVER.
Begin to deal with that fact and begin to move on.
Second, when a woman says she is not sure if she wants to be in a relationship with you, what that means is that she DOESN'T want to be in a relationship with you anymore.
Third, stuff means MEN. Stuff means, stuff without YOU.
I'm thinking of responding tonight with something like "Server went down this morning, got called in early and it looks like I'll be working late to fix it. I want to continue our relationship and look forward to spending the bank holiday weekend with you. Although if this is not what you want I respect that and hope everything turns out well for you." After that just ignoring any request from her to "meet for a chat".
I really don't want to loose her.
Fourth, you already lost her. Deal with that fact as well, but deal with it as THIS: SHE LOST YOU.
Of course she wants a reply from you. Don't give it to her unless you absolutely need closure with the situation, but know this... no matter how hard you try... no matter how much you beg... you two are done, so conserve your dignity and swallow your pride and move on mentally starting NOW.
The only response she is looking for from you is that you are okay with this... she just wants to make sure that you haven't killed yourself... which is why she threw in "If you don't hate me"... that's a way for her to protect herself from her own mental blame.
If you get mad at her or even the tiniest bit of upset... she'll validate herself as the victim. Don't give her that.
You got her text. ALL of us are telling you it's over.
So what else do you need?
She didn't even have the decency to do that over a PHONE CALL, so don't dignify her with a response. You already know you need to move on.
And yes, you will bump into her again... and when you do, you just smile and say HI... very casually. You do NOT show her that this has affected you, you do NOT ask her WHY, you do NOT beg to have her back. None of this is worth it.
Now is time to move on and seek better ventures, better women.
I really hope you heed all of the advice here, because at this point in time, you are sounding really desperate, which can only spell trouble for you.