To respond to a couple of things...
@EyeBRollin your comment about short men or whatever it was makes no real sense. Either men or women will select a mate (in a sexual sense) based on the options available. I chose someone tall, handsome and successful who I found attractive; he chose me because he found me attractive as well. You are not a "high status" guy according to your own assessment earlier in the thread.
You are married, presumably to a woman who is a similar attractiveness and status to you. But if Halle Berry or Beyonce or some other really hot babe, Victoria's Secret model were to be available to you? Boom. You'd cheat in a hot second. Got it.
Now that scenario is obviously quite unlikely, but that's what you'd do. Your wife is likely not worried because women like that are not giving you the time of day. So I presume much of this discussion from where you sit is theory and what if on your part. If your hot neighbor is taking interest, that's different and would probably be on your wife's radar screen.
As to
@All_Kindz_Of_Gainz asserting that I'd accept my husband cheating? Um. Nope.
He'd lose me. Out of my own self respect as @JoyDavidson1990 eloquently pointed out earlier in this thread.
You see I have enough value that I can easily find someone else IF I chose to do so. My husband knows this and also knows that sure, he can easily find other sex, but at the cost of losing me, a quality woman, and that is for him, too high a price to pay for a lay.
And that really is the question OP is wrestling with, how high a price in terms of his relationships with his wife & daughter, is he willing to pay?
I know one player whose ex-wife took 100% custody of his children (a son and a daughter who were 14 and 9 at the time), and she used his sexual escapades through the courts to rescind all visitation. He has not seen his children, not once, in 10 years. Additionally his ex wife effectively poisoned his children against him. He has a strained conversation with his adult son once or twice a year; his adult daughter wants nothing to do with him.
Meanwhile he gets laid with various women regularly. He is a broken man however over his kids, and has a general mistrust of women.
Was his price for sexual freedom too high? Its a cautionary tale to be sure. These are questions only OP can answer in the context of his situation.
logically, women sleeping with guys who cannot not provide goes against the biological imperative of reproduction. without resources babies die... and ultimately so does her genetic makeup; out of the gene pool.
