Your top tips

[BadsnakeUK]

Just wanted to start a thread where people can put down the essential tips that they would identify as the mainstay of their game/DJness. For me they are:

1) Just do it!

Whatever it is you want to do to improve yourself or your game, just do it. Don't sit there and think about it because your old self-image and insecuritues will sabotage things. You will always be able to think of reasons not to do something and take the path of least resistance unless you just go ahead and do it straight away. This applies to everything from an approach to a fundamental life change

2) Get fit

The benefit are immeasurable to your mind and body. The body is a vehicle for the mind and if it is in poor working order the mind will suffer too. It will improve your looks, self-esteem, confidence, posture and body language and give you the energy that will allow you to change other aspects of your life and to improve yourself.

What are yours?

 

[Al Moh.]

Don't panic!

Works in every life situation, not just with women. Whatever they through at you, no matter how bad the situation seems, every situation is supposed to teach you something and no situation is "impossible" (because impossible is not a fact, just an oppinion). So stay relaxed and calm, don't let people dominate your mindset and you should be able to handle everything they throw at you smoothly.

 

[Mavrick]

Always use a condom.

More later...

 

[Eugene123]

Be playful...


Know that you are the man and that you cannot screw up her opportunity with you... but she can.

 

[I'm Charming]

Be Happy.

People will notice immediately, if you are happy the people around you will be happy, if you are bitter and uncomfortable people around you will be bitter towards you and uncomfortable with you.

Be confident and have good posture.

One day I was on a bus, and a girl I know HB7 comes on and immediately noticed I was sitting upright and confidently instead of slouching like I usually did before improving my knowledge on all things DJ, she was shocked at how happy I was and kept on asking "what is with you today" (of course I never told her) with a cheeky grin on her face, women are 6 times better at reading natural body language, so stand tall, look at the sky, not the ground, and be relaxed and take things easily - a true Don Juan will never rush.

 

[Mavrick]

My 20 top tips!

1. Never care more than the woman.
2. Never ask where the relationship is headed. Let the woman ask.
3. When first getting to know a woman, talk about her. She will think you're smart. Lead the conversation, but let her talk about herself. Everyone likes to talk about themselves.
4. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, and don't ever let a woman think that you have.
5. Women like a challenge. Once the challenge is over, so are you.
6. On the first date, just give out bits and pieces of information about yourself. As the relationship progresses, continue to be vague. Girls love mysterious men. (e.g. if she asks why you and your last girlfriend broke up, tell here it just didn't work out, but if you were a physiatrist you could tell her why).
7. Never say you love her first. Let her say it first, and say "thank you"' if you don't feel the same way.
8. Always control the tempo and speed of a relationship. If it's going to fast, slow it down. If you try to speed it up and it won't, stop calling, and it'll speed up.
9. Never convey your intentions too early. It's better to only speak them after she has done it first.
10. Do not rush a woman. Not for a phone call, a date, sex, or anything for that matter. This portrays desperation. You should always convey that you're fine with or without her.
11. Always keep her guessing. Never become predictable.
12. Always love your passions as much as you love your woman, and never her let her take any one of them away.
13. Always lead a woman.
14. Don't wait for a woman. If she's not on time, wait 15 minutes and proceed to leave. If she didn't have the decency to call and let you know she was going to be late, then you don't have to stay. She will gain respect for you.
15. If you call a woman and leave a message, don't call again until she has responded. Calling again will only portray your desperation.
16. Don't change yourself for a woman. If she doesn't like you, find a woman who does. She may be cute, but you'll be miserable if you can't be yourself with her.
17. Think you are the prize. Walk in to a bar, club, or room and think as the prize would think and be congruent with those thoughts. You might as well because it's a much better attitude than thinking you're not.
18. Never let a woman see you sweat. You're ok regardless of what she thinks or does. If she sees that you don't sweat it, her ego will get the best of her.
19. When she backs off, you back off. The natural progression would to be to latch on to those who back away, but the opposite will always do wonders in this case. Never latch on!
20. If a woman says it's not going to work out, AGREE AGREE AGREE!!!! If she says she says she wants to see other people, tell her that you agree and will pack her things for her. If you agree, she will second guess herself. NEVER fight it. Let her wonder why it was easy for you to see if her way. She will almost always come back crying.

 

[strey]

Always use a condom.

haha, yeah right. i have been condom free since '03!!!

 

[dannyegg4575]

1. Approach, approach, approach. Don’t give a f>ck about what she thinks or anyone thinks of you. Nike’s motto – “Just do it!”
2. Don’t think about the outcome, just get to know her. End result is always the same. But process is always different with everybody.
3. Don’t judge her. You’re not perfect, why you judge her? Screw your preconceive notion of who or what anyone should be. Treat her as a friend you want to get to know.
4. Don’t assume. Don’t assume you know who someone is. Don’t assume you know she has a bf. Don’t assume anything. (period) need I say more?
5. Talk to her, not in a ****y/funny way. But just have fun and shut your mouth once in awhile. Joke around like you would make fun of your own buddy. Let her say, “what the ****, you can’t do this to me. I’m much more attractive than this.”
6. Don’t rush things. It takes months to get to know someone. If she says she loves you in 2-3 months, don’t reciprocate. All the bullsh>t that you don’t see in the first few months will show itself right before your very eyes.
6.2 Don’t rush things. Whether it’s coworkers, friends you meet… it takes time. Read her interest level before attempting.
7. Golden Rule: you pick her but she chooses you. Be the one who stands out.
8. Easy on the jokes. Keep it light, keep it simple.
9. You want a tad bit of jerkdom but you don’t want to be a complete jerk.
10. Don’t try too hard. Neediness, anybody can smell it, it stinks.
11. BE in the moment. LISTEN to what she’s saying OR at least try to. Most of the time they don’t make logical sense anyway.
12. Movie dates are fine. Once in awhile. But it’s hard to get to talk in the theatres. That’s why lunch or coffee dates are awesome for it. Sit next to each other, don’t sit across from each other.
13. Women will not put up with boredom. There’s no further truth than this. Go out and do stuff together. You lead her. Let her see what a fun guy you are to be with. Not someone who stays home and play Warcraft all day long.
14. Get a life. She is not the prime reason you’re happy. You’re happy just by being you; with or without her. There are plenty of women in your arsenal if she doesn’t want any part of it. Do things for you.
15. Always have self respect. If she disrespects you, let her know. If she continues to disrespect you, next. She will have your respect until she loses it.
16. Always stay cool. No matter what, keep your mind clear and have DHV everywhere you go.
17. Finally, take it easy and don’t take things too seriously. Life’s too short for rules. Have fun. Make fun of things, make fun of people, make fun of yourself.

 

[Lanceroni3]

1. Be a man!

Above all you gotta be a man, in every aspect of your life. You don't have to go through life making every single person like you. If someone does something you dont like, or tries to get in your way, fcuk em! You gotta stand up for yourself! Just being a man sums up 90% of what is said on this site

2. Be fun!

After all, if you aren't having fun, she's not having fun. Then what's the point of it all? I hate dinner dates, I love the beach. If the girl doesn't like your date ideas, then you'll never be happy with her anyway, so get out! (see AD's machine )

3. Learn something new!

I'm still learning too, everyday learn something new for yourself. Whether its about women, tieing a tie, learning a few words of spanish (so you can approach that cute little mexican bunny at your work )

Now go out there, improve improve improve!

 

[suaveplayer]

confidence: assume attraction, you are the catch
eye contact: show interest and show that you are no AFC
smile: do it often and good things will happen

connect as much as possible: talk to everyone and try to make connections with them, make friends with them
playful: be spontaneous and tease her often, be fun
leadership: be a leader around guys and girls, be assertive

 

[Credos]

Oops posted twice by accident ---> delete this please

 

[Credos]

1) Stop caring about what others think, if somebody thinks you're an *sshole, FVCK em
2) Never say sorry for something you said or did that on that moment seemed right... You acted like yourself, and that something you shouldn't be sorry for. If you acted like a major *ss and you know you were wrong, then you can apolagize.
3) Money isen't everything, women aren't everything, having fun isen't everything... Having found the right balance between all, that is truely living...
4) If you wanna do something, DO IT NOW while you still can, make sure you never have to regret you haven't done something...
5) Wanna meet women? EC is the best technique to get a person intrest, it's not about what you say or what you've done... Maintain EC for a while and you'll see, that she'll have intrest (if she keeps looking at you aswell), bring a nice smile with that and she'll melt like ice to the sun... (if she smiles back, you know she likes you)

6) Be aware that people will use you, if you're aware of it you can avoid it
7A) If you don't feel right with something, make it stop, cause it won't change...
7B)That includes a relationship or any social contact, if you don't feel so right with a person, but you are "in love", it is better to end it, the longer you wait the more it will hurt, deep inside you already know it will end sooner or later, cause it doesn't feel right
8) Thrust your gut, if you're gut is telling you something is wrong, it will probebly be true...
9) If you think something is true, then it is true... Its up to others to prove you're wrong, not up to you to prove you're right!
10) There are no perfect people, only perfect moments. It's up to you to make them, in every aspect of your life

11) Succes is not the position in which you stand, but the direction you look...
12) Thrust in murphy's law, and you'll never feel stressed about anything, considering you already were expecting sh*t to happen
13) LUCK DOESN'T EXIST, it was just a perfect moment
14) Be yourself, if you can't be yourself or a person makes you feel down about being yourself, get rid of them, don't act like they are your friends, they aren't. They don't like you? Well then you especially don't like them!
And if you're not ****y and funny, don't try to be, it won't fit you and you'll come off as a retard
15) If you find yourself serounded with 40 moslim virgins, you're in moslim heaven... If you wake up with wings, you've been reincarnated as a Sh*tfly... Omg what does the christian get? clouds and people with clothes flying around... Thats just lame, I wanted virgins too...

16) In every failure lies a oppertunaty... Don't panic everytime something bad happens
17) If a woman starts cooking your meals every day of the week, YOU KNOW SHE LOVES YOU!
18) If you're GF has rich parents... that means nothing! The only thing that can happen is that you're stuck with a snob...
19) If you found a hot, smart, funny and social woman who likes to cook and wash your clothes, whois alwayse happy and is good in the sack, don't let her go, you hit the jackpot... If she has a twin sister who's exactly the same PM me!
20) Make sure you're not the fag thats on every picture of the party but that nobody knows. Nothing more retarded to have some dipsh*t on all you're pictures, but that nobody knows

Last thing, do try to stay friends with as many people as you can... There is no reason to be the biggest *sshole in town. Being rude is ok, just don't overdo it, just like being ****y and funny...

 

[BMX]

Unearth your flaws and shortcomings through trial-and-error and work tirelessly to correct them. These improvements are solely for you. As you think, you shall become.

 

[afrojiggles]

awesome post guys

 

[ballinNY]

have fun and enjoy life. Be confident. You are the man.

 

[playa99]

1)enjoy yourself and love what you do
2)dont overanalyze and trust your gut
3)Believe in yourself
4)Take the oppurtunities which are handed to you, they only come along once in this moment
5)Dont be afraid you're a man, act like one!

 

[DJCT]

haha, yeah right. i have been condom free since '03!!!

You're kidding right?

 

[gottiwill]

1.) No matter how rough everything gets, don't ever look down.












2.) What time is it? NOW Where are you? HERE Who are you? THIS MOMENT

 

[slaog]

Here are some of my simple ones:

-Treat women like little girls, tease them
-Don't be too serious, have fun,
-See yourself as being the prize
-Don't care about the outcome of meeting up with a woman
-Be slightly arrogant
-Let them know indirectly that you have high standards
-Don't agree with everything they say.
-Use push pull.

 

[slaog]

Unearth your flaws and shortcomings through trial-and-error and work tirelessly to correct them. These improvements are solely for you. As you think, you shall become.

Yes thats probably the ultimate tip... to become a DJ you must think like one.