Your single biggest weapon when looking for a long term gf

[captain55]

I really gotta say after being member here for a while now the most important thing I have learned with women is to listen to what they say about their ex boyfriends. When we really like a girl it's very easy for us to turn a blind eye and rationalize what she says about her ex.

I remember the girl I just broke up with recently telling me the reason the last guy dumped her was because he complained that she never wanted to have sex with him. She also told me the reason she dumped the dude before that was because he always was worried that she was cheating on him. Well she denied cheating on him of course...and I believed it.

Fast forward into the relationship and not only did she turn out to be a cheater but she also stopped putting out way too early in the relationship. The clues were right there. The signs are always there fellas...don't think with your **** all the time.

 

[TheCWord]

I don't know if this is a "weapon"

 

[jurry]

You are acting as if these are just inherent qualities of this woman. Both of these signs are obviously connected and caused by a lack of attraction/pvssy tingling.

Stops having sex with you = losing interest in you >> seeming more distant >> you worrying about her cheating on you >> beta neediness, making it even worse. So then she does go bang another dude. Relationship over.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Yeah, think with your head, not with your head....

 

[Bingo-Player]

again not sure if this is a weapon just some advanced screening methods

good stuff though will bear it in mind

 

[Krueg]

I can see your point, but your not her EX and what happened between them isnt really your business. Sure maybe take a few mental notes of what not to do or learn what she dislikes.. But, if you want a Long Term girlfriend.. She has to be crazy about you! You need to be screening her, or else you will be the one getting hurt.

 

[Meisterman]

So basically when you become attached and invested in a chick you take what she says at face value because you don't see the other side to her...yet. But the warning signs are always there, you just have to look out for them.

 

[El Payaso]

This might be gross generalization but honestly, never believe a woman when she badmouths her ex. Always look at it from the man's perspective when she does that.

An ex of mine told me that she broke up with her ex because he cheated on her. She said "I can't believe he did that even though I always gave him anything he wanted. I was always there for him".

I got into a relationship with her and this girl was clingy as hell. I had to breakup with her due to that. I bumped into her ex one day on campus and in the course of discussion, he let out that he couldn't stand being with her due to her clinginess and he was already emotionally detached when he "cheated" on her.

Go figure...

 

[GS750]

he cheated on a stage 5 clinger? what at surprise Lol. he probably had to cheat on her to end the relationship, that was his only way out.

 

[El Payaso]

he cheated on a stage 5 clinger? what at surprise Lol. he probably had to cheat on her to end the relationship, that was his only way out.

Yup. Spot on. This girl was so fvcked in the head though. She told me that "I didn't really want to break up with him. He never even tried to apologize or beg me. He just accepted it and left. I was so confused. If he had even apologized or showed a little remorse, I would have definitely taken him back."

What sick thoughts...

 

[GS750]

He took a breath of fresh air and was glad he was free from the clinger. I dated a super needy/clingy/insecure girl a while back. It became so exhausting. It was like being around a fvcking child. She claimed her ex cheated on her too, probably for the same reason...it was the only way he could get away from her crazy a$$.

 

[captain55]

I can see your point, but your not her EX and what happened between them isnt really your business. Sure maybe take a few mental notes of what not to do or learn what she dislikes.. But, if you want a Long Term girlfriend.. She has to be crazy about you! You need to be screening her, or else you will be the one getting hurt.

LOL you think that means ****? If anything I would say the opposite. A woman who falls too hard too fast is more likely to get bored with you quicker.

The last relationship I got out of, my ex talked about me so much to her friends that her own girlfriends didn't even want to be around her. Two weeks before she broke up with me she was .talking my head off about baby names... Sending me pictures of wedding rings on Facebook at one o'clock in the morning. Couple bad fights that I didn't handle right, was a bit mean to her... and three weeks later she told me she didn't love me anymore lol.

We preach being alpha here at don juan but really that only matters when it comes to one night stands, flings, and the beginning of relationships. It's man's natural instinct to fall in love and get comfortable once he starts feeling like his woman is "home", you'll get tired of being a challenge...youll be swamped with work some weeks and won't have time to flirt with other women. None of us want to be a challenge forever...and that point it all comes down to the quality of the woman you chose. I worked as a bouncer for a while, trust me Women cheat on alpha males .all the time. spewing from experience if a girl is emotionally unstable you can have the biggest **** in the world it won't matter, she'll run to the first white night who makes her feel good about herself the first time you hurt her feelings.

 

[captain55]

So basically when you become attached and invested in a chick you take what she says at face value because you don't see the other side to her...yet. But the warning signs are always there, you just have to look out for them.

Pretty much...my post applies to the typical guy who work full time who doesn't have the energy or time to be a real don juan and hit on women every chance he gets and NEEDS to be selective with the woman he choses. . If you got the time and are willing to put in the effort, **** relationships...and if your in one cheat on her ass every chance you get. Looking back I had the funnest times of my life being single and not giving a ****

workout, bang hot chicks, make money and never stop loving yourself.

 

[captain55]

You are acting as if these are just inherent qualities of this woman. Both of these signs are obviously connected and caused by a lack of attraction/pvssy tingling.

Stops having sex with you = losing interest in you >> seeming more distant >> you worrying about her cheating on you >> beta neediness, making it even worse. So then she does go bang another dude. Relationship over.

your talking about a normal chick who doesn't have emotional issues? then yes I would agree brother. But 't won't make a difference is the chick is a total basket case.

insecure chick= attention *****= constant need for validation- monkey branches.....and we all know how this ends. She will settle for a man of less value than the current guy if the beta fulfills her needs emotionally at that time.

bit off topic but This is why dating confident women is so important. If I notice a girl is insecure around other attractive women, insecure about her body in the bedroom etc, she's quickly downgraded to fwb.

Don't ever fall in love with a woman who doesn't know she's hot!

 

[Stugots26]

The real problem with this thread is the title: "when looking for a long term gf"

You don't get into any scenario with a woman looking for anything long term. You need to change your mindset. You should be focused on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up. If a girl likes you enough, eventually, after a couple months of you doing everything right and letting her come to you, she'll bring up being your long term gf.

You should be the one resisting getting into something long term, and she should be the one trying to reel you in and take you off the market for herself because she can't stand the idea of you with another woman, the sexy devil you are.