I thought I'd start a thread just to get some predictions on this situation, to see how close they are and put our DJ knowledge to the test.
Here's the scenario...
Two weeks ago a close friend of mine finally hooked up with one of his (hot) female friends after flirting with her and charming her for over a month. He's above average looking, but he's not in good shape and is a bit of a slob. He is, however, very charming, confident and charismatic, and girls love his sense of humour.
His girlfriend has said that she didn't find him attractive to begin with, but she started to fall for his charm and attention.
Now they are an item and my friend has started to break many DJ rules and turn into a lovesick AFC. In just two weeks...
*He has told her he has feelings for her.
*He keeps starting conversations about "where they stand" and seeking reassurance.
*He is getting posessive and jealous.
*He used to flirt with a lot of women and now he doesn't.
*He asks to see her at least 5 times a week and calls her regularly.
*He has said that he is in constant fear of her dumping him.
*He has stopped socialising and hanging out with his friends.
*He has placed her on a pedestal.
She used to be very shy and insecure, but since he's been feeding her ego she has been getting very confident and even flirts a lot and quite heavily with his closest friend (me), right in front of him. She also talks about me and other guys to him and her friends, undermines him slightly and generally appears to be taking him for granted...and he's allowing it and even encouraging it.
However, things are going smoothly at the moment, she is very happy to be with him, very passionate and shows him a lot of affection when they're together.
This really is a classic scenario of DJ falling in love, turning AFC and losing the girl, but will it turn out that way? I'm interested in your predictions, whether theoretical or based on experience.
(I'm considering this an objective study. It's interesting to see the textbook AFC mistakes and I'm curious to see how well the DJ advice applies. I'll keep you posted...)
Here's the scenario...
Two weeks ago a close friend of mine finally hooked up with one of his (hot) female friends after flirting with her and charming her for over a month. He's above average looking, but he's not in good shape and is a bit of a slob. He is, however, very charming, confident and charismatic, and girls love his sense of humour.
His girlfriend has said that she didn't find him attractive to begin with, but she started to fall for his charm and attention.
Now they are an item and my friend has started to break many DJ rules and turn into a lovesick AFC. In just two weeks...
*He has told her he has feelings for her.
*He keeps starting conversations about "where they stand" and seeking reassurance.
*He is getting posessive and jealous.
*He used to flirt with a lot of women and now he doesn't.
*He asks to see her at least 5 times a week and calls her regularly.
*He has said that he is in constant fear of her dumping him.
*He has stopped socialising and hanging out with his friends.
*He has placed her on a pedestal.
She used to be very shy and insecure, but since he's been feeding her ego she has been getting very confident and even flirts a lot and quite heavily with his closest friend (me), right in front of him. She also talks about me and other guys to him and her friends, undermines him slightly and generally appears to be taking him for granted...and he's allowing it and even encouraging it.
However, things are going smoothly at the moment, she is very happy to be with him, very passionate and shows him a lot of affection when they're together.
This really is a classic scenario of DJ falling in love, turning AFC and losing the girl, but will it turn out that way? I'm interested in your predictions, whether theoretical or based on experience.
(I'm considering this an objective study. It's interesting to see the textbook AFC mistakes and I'm curious to see how well the DJ advice applies. I'll keep you posted...)