Your father will make your life

[jhonny9546]

I have come to understand the root of my unhealthy behaviors and what has hindered my growth. I realized that I could never consider myself a mature man because a flower was born within me, yet it never blossomed.

At 26, I can say with certainty that I have not had a father figure worthy of the name. My father has always related to me in ways that I do not find constructive. I have observed healthy families and how parents nurture their children like flowers that need watering. While I can work to improve relationships within my family, I cannot change others.

For my own well-being and future, I need to address some fundamental questions:

- How can I maintain my relationship with my father without being negatively influenced?**
- Can I learn from the positive father figures I have encountered?
- How will the absence of fatherly guidance impact my life also after 26 years?

When I see children facing the harsh realities of life, I see reflections of myself. I also observe children who grow up in nurturing environments, encouraged to have meaningful experiences and learn essential values. They confront difficulties with greater resilience, while others may feel overwhelmed.

I wish I had someone to care for me—a strong father who could teach me about life step by step. Instead, I find myself here without a solid guide. The difference is stark and weighs heavily on my heart.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I wish I had someone to care for me—a strong father who could teach me about life step by step. Instead, I find myself here without a solid guide. The difference is stark and weighs heavily on my heart.

Find yourself a father figure.

 

[BaronOfHair]

- How will the absence of fatherly guidance impact my life also after 26 years?

As much as you allow it to

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Jhonny,
You can't expect much sympathy here,more than one in four U.S homes are fatherless,some demographics are more than half!...add to that the effectively Fatherless homes where the Father is a workaholic and is rarely seen...Then consider the guys rendered parentless by the need for both Parents to earn a living...You are one of the Heaven born well educated you live in a cradle to grave Welfare state... Don't feel sorry for yourself,just pick up your bundle and get on with it.

 

[GoodMan32]

It's been pointed out before on this forum that if a man lacked a father growing up or (like in my case) were raised primarily by our mom, we tend to struggle when it comes to soaking a woman's panties.

 

[GoodMan32]

Hi Jhonny,
You can't expect much sympathy here,more than one in four U.S homes are fatherless,some demographics are more than half!...add to that the effectively Fatherless homes where the Father is a workaholic and is rarely seen...Then consider the guys rendered parentless by the need for both Parents to earn a living...You are one of the Heaven born well educated you live in a cradle to grave Welfare state... Don't feel sorry for yourself,just pick up your bundle and get on with it.

I'm in the category where my dad worked long hours (and took frequent business trips). So even though my parents were married, I largely had a de facto fatherless home.

He worked as hard as he did so my mom could focus on raising us. Unfortunately, it came back to bite us romantically. I haven't had free sex in 3 and a half years. My brother (age 30) has, to the best of my knowledge, never had a girlfriend or sex.