Young woman going from hot to completely cold

[notgoinganywhere14]

I was at a co-worker party recently, met a 22 year old (works for same organization but not same location). I am 37.

The girl is also moving out of state in two weeks.

Girl was giving me good vibes all day and I finally made out with her a few times out on the lake in the dark. Even after that, she was still being sarcastic, brushing up against me and cuddling up against me. :rockon:

Some of us slept over, but nothing happened since other people were sleeping in same room.

In the morning, I escorted her outside and said good-bye

I did not get the number since my phone was dead. I friend requested her later that day and then started messaging her.

I told her she was cool and we should go out before she leaves and she said "yeah man, sure."

A couple of messages later I made an indirect sexual comment to her and I don't think she liked it very much, although she did not directly say it. I was the first to end contact, told her I would be in touch.

I check my facebook on Monday and I can no longer view her profile and it obvious that "she blocked me" Getting blocked is like getting banned from an establishment; all contact and viewing of this person is gone.

I am just perplexed, how can women go from 100% happy, flirty, make out with me to blocking me on facebook in two days?

Anybody else have this happen?

 

[asa_don]

I told her she was cool and we should go out before she leaves and she said "yeah man, sure."

doesn't sound like the greatest reply she had for a hang out, she wasnt that interested as you thought, next!

how come everybody on here always has a dead phone? charge the damn thing up so you can get the number. you shouldnt add girls to your fb

 

[hudpes]

The girl is also moving out of state in two weeks.

There you go.

 

[j.619]

My experience... young, attractive women have relationship and dating ADD. They have so many orbiting validators that they can c0ck hop at-will. They don't start smartening up and being TRULY tolerable until after their mid 20s. When father time starts to intervene.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

You may have come across as too needy. I realize she was leaving in two weeks but I'd never recommend chasing anyone around on fb.

Did you tell her that you would add her on fb when you're phone was dead, or was it somewhat of a surprise to her? If you told her you were going to add her then that's one thing. But if you do it out of the blue, that could be conceived as a mild version of stalking IMO. It's the opposite of "playing it cool". I realize people do it, and it may be an acceptable form of getting ahold of someone, but I feel the fb path is a dead end, and a good place to find yourself stuck in the orbiter category.

And like what was said above, it could have been that she's just young and has many "suitors". At the work party you were there to fill a roll and give her attention, but once she made it back home you then got moved down to #5 on the list.

 

[VladPatton]

Too much fluffy texting. All you should of sent was "great night we had, we'll have to do it again real soon",and that's it. Let her simmer with wonder, then your next move is to meet up and continue where you left off. Unfortunately the over-texting turned her off.

 

[El Payaso]

Too much texting will lead to an error at some point.

 

[DonGorgon]

yup she has 10000000000000000000 other men ..you are not high on her portions list is all... its the same story all the time men have less options that women ski men seem more needy and worried in modern relationships and situations

 

[BetterCallSaul]

I did not get the number since my phone was dead. I friend requested her later that day and then started messaging her.

This is something I really don't understand about people who are so reliant on technology. Was there simply no paper and pen (or pencil) available anywhere? Heck you could even get away with no paper and just write it on your arm...plenty of girls did that for me back in the day.

But anyway, I agree with what others said that if you didn't previously say something like "hey i'll hit you up on facebook" or something equivalent, yeah I'd probably not be surprised if you get the cold shoulder. Besides, as others have pointed out she probably has orbiters validating her every day, and she's moving. Focus your energy on poon in the nearby area who will be there for the long-run.

 

[jurry]

You guys were (presumably drunk) at a party and made out a few times - doesnt really count for a whole lot.

Doubtful she would have have hung out again anyways as the others mentioned, and your chasing her down on FB and overcommunicating didnt help the cause.

Sometimes you just make out with a girl at a party, enjoy that and let it go.

 

[Good Gao]

You are dealing with what I call an Ice Queen, in this situation you need to disconnect from her emotionally and if you see her again then talk more to the people around her as opposed to just directly talking to her. Try to pretend like she isn't there.