Stanley
Master Don Juan
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I think most guys understand this text nuance after some exposure and it certainly isn't new and existed in prior mediums aside from texting, albeit more pronounced now with communication technology being even more apart of our modern cultural zeitgeist. That said, reading into and caring about response times is a waste of time for me and I think many men with age/experience just don't bother with the 'game's.
-If I see a text, i'll respond when convenient.
-If i'm busy and looking at my phone isn't a priority, she may get a response a day or so later.
-If she starts pulling back and being distant I am unlikely to notice or care, why?
Because i'm focusing on other priorities and in all likelihood will be talking to other women. If I do notice the behavior and I don't feel like doing the dance? Silence, distance, indifference. Do not entertain the stupid behavior or enter her frame of control. I lectured a friend last night on deferring to a girl via text and he didn't listen. He played along with her games, when he should have simply not entertained it. What happened? He fumbled the bag and the girl said "Let's just have fun and be friends" to which he also agreed. From the getgo he could've saved himself the headache and initiated, escalated, and directly attempt to set up a date. He didn't do that and wasted time on a low interest girl who is much better at playing the text game then most men, just don't play the goddamn game
Too many guys get hung up on response time this, delay that, don't show interest too early, pretend your busy, and so on.
Anyone that actively or consciously thinks about these things and puts on airs to falsely appear more attractive to women is a dweeb. Yes, to some extent younger guys realize that they are doing some things 'wrong' in this dance and are stepping on their partners toes, but once they get the basic steps down and understand their mistakes they need to just move with it naturally, or simply decide this dance is not worth the effort.
I tell a girl either directly (or indirectly) very quickly my intentions and what I want. I do not waste time and mental anguish on trying to seduce or coerce behind a screen. If the shoe doesn't fit?... then it doesn't fit. Plenty of other footwear that slides on and lace up straight outta the box. More often I see, the men who pay close attention to the object of their desires response time and their own response time end up failing, or they chase after a low interest girl who wasn't worth the thought.
It is good to observe this behavior, but do not play their game. Do what is in your best interest
-If I see a text, i'll respond when convenient.
-If i'm busy and looking at my phone isn't a priority, she may get a response a day or so later.
-If she starts pulling back and being distant I am unlikely to notice or care, why?
Because i'm focusing on other priorities and in all likelihood will be talking to other women. If I do notice the behavior and I don't feel like doing the dance? Silence, distance, indifference. Do not entertain the stupid behavior or enter her frame of control. I lectured a friend last night on deferring to a girl via text and he didn't listen. He played along with her games, when he should have simply not entertained it. What happened? He fumbled the bag and the girl said "Let's just have fun and be friends" to which he also agreed. From the getgo he could've saved himself the headache and initiated, escalated, and directly attempt to set up a date. He didn't do that and wasted time on a low interest girl who is much better at playing the text game then most men, just don't play the goddamn game
Too many guys get hung up on response time this, delay that, don't show interest too early, pretend your busy, and so on.
Anyone that actively or consciously thinks about these things and puts on airs to falsely appear more attractive to women is a dweeb. Yes, to some extent younger guys realize that they are doing some things 'wrong' in this dance and are stepping on their partners toes, but once they get the basic steps down and understand their mistakes they need to just move with it naturally, or simply decide this dance is not worth the effort.
I tell a girl either directly (or indirectly) very quickly my intentions and what I want. I do not waste time and mental anguish on trying to seduce or coerce behind a screen. If the shoe doesn't fit?... then it doesn't fit. Plenty of other footwear that slides on and lace up straight outta the box. More often I see, the men who pay close attention to the object of their desires response time and their own response time end up failing, or they chase after a low interest girl who wasn't worth the thought.
It is good to observe this behavior, but do not play their game. Do what is in your best interest
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