"You look just like my old boyfriend!"

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What does this mean when a girl says this to you when she first meets you? I used to have this happen a lot back in the day, was I too dumb to pick up on something here or was it just her being friendly?
 

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It might mean your chances are good.

If you look like someone they found attractive...right?

I was told this once and everything was going great until I went to fast and she lost interest thinking I only wanted her for one thing.
 

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possible red flag, he"s still in her memory bank!

i wouldnt invest emotionally but if your a bada$$ beta your gonna do what you wanna do anyway
 
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Find another girl. I can't see that statement being a compliment or an insult without knowing the whole situation.

But what I can tell you with 100% certainty is she is still thinking about her exboyfriend and that's a flag.
 

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Don't really have context as this happened like 15 years ago, and I have no idea why I just thought to bring it up.

It happened a lot...basically I would be introduced to a new girl and would be talking to her and they would say this out of the blue...

"You look a lot like my old boyfriend!" or "You remind me a lot of a guy I used to date..."
Usually had a smile on their face after saying it...it got to the point I heard that so many time I started saying "I must have a lot of twins running around out here" or something similar when they said it...probably happened at least 10 to 12 different times throughout the years and usually within the first 10 minutes of talking to the girl...
 

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Should be a compliment. If a girl was seriously thinking about her ex and getting back with him, she wouldn't have told you about it. Telling someone that they look like their ex is the easiest way to show interest without being forward.

Or it can mean absolutely nothing and she was just pointing it out.
 

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marmel75 said:
Don't really have context as this happened like 15 years ago, and I have no idea why I just thought to bring it up.

It happened a lot...basically I would be introduced to a new girl and would be talking to her and they would say this out of the blue...

"You look a lot like my old boyfriend!" or "You remind me a lot of a guy I used to date..."
Usually had a smile on their face after saying it...it got to the point I heard that so many time I started saying "I must have a lot of twins running around out here" or something similar when they said it...probably happened at least 10 to 12 different times throughout the years and usually within the first 10 minutes of talking to the girl...
If this is the case then I think maybe they mean by personality or character. Something they liked in their old boyfriend they saw in you as well. It might not be a physical resemblance but something about the type of person you are.
 

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Erm..what brah? Not at all. Some girls just do this as a way to open a guy.

It's a compliment. One of the least subtle verbal IOIs I can think of.
There are other ways of giving "IOIs" than by mentioning an ex. She did it for a reason. You may see it differently but experience tells me it can definitely be a red flag. Not saying that the line alone means she's going to be a crazy cheater type, but I would watch for other flags.
 

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her EX Is an EX For a reason

you want to be associated with him and his behaviors

dont cry when she takes out her crap on you her aka EX!
 

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High Buying Temperature. Escalate Quick! Any play with half a clue in the club could snatch her up, act quick.

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Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Bringing up her Ex is never a good sign, squash out that behavior right away. If she does it again then drop her.
 

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If it happens again I'll probably say something like

"Yeah, except I am better looking and last way more than 5 minutes"
 

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Danger said:
Her: You look just like my ex
You: Let's give it another shot, I'll treat you right this time
I like this one! Adding it to my repertoire, if you don't mind.
 

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Think about it.... She's obviously talking about your physical appearance, and is tipping her hand that she's physically attracted to you. We don't yet know why she broke up with that boyfriend, but if you're interested, you're gonna want to find that out.

One exception would be that she says "You remind me of my old boyfriend" with a big frown on her face, while reaching in her purse for a can of pepper spray. I would tell her "Nice to meet you" as I'm running for the nearest exit.
 

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Order! Order! Stop overanalyzing this sh*t!

Judge nismo orders you take it as a compliment and advance! AFAIC, ALL women have exes, and whether or not they're in the picture, make a move on her! Do you really have time to worry about how many men a woman has had or currently has? I hope not, cuz I sure the f**k don't. :box:

At the end of the day, she still has to choose you. IOI's don't mean sh*t. Compliments don't mean sh*t. Read the actions. A woman can tell you sweet things, give you her number, and never answer when you call. :(

Also, stamp out the discussions about her ex. Too many of them and your princess will be back at his castle. That's my verdict.

Case closed. Take control. :rockon:
 

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Her: You look just like my ex!
You: Do you have daddy issues?

Her: You look just like my ex!
You: I don't want relationship, all I want is bang, bang, bang.
 

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flashpoint said:
what a coincidence, you just look like my new girlfriend
/future ex-wife!! :D
 
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