"You know we're just going as friends"

[Scorpio13c]

That's the statement I got tonight from her. She's coming to my Co. Christmas dinner next week..
Anyone ever get out of the Friend zone??
Tips so much appreciated!!

Thanks in advance!

 

[Tiguere]

drop her. just the fact she is rubbing it on your face is enough. i rather go alone than be all night next to some self-important brat.

 

[Scorpio13c]

drop her. just the fact she is rubbing it on your face is enough. i rather go alone than be all night next to some self-important brat.

Thing is, she Jehovah's Witness (practicing), I'm Catholic (non practicing).
She's the one who's been chasing me all along!?!

 

[Tiguere]

ok then you need to put your game up at the party. disregard her "friend statement and just with the flow.

make sure at the party you kino intensely. i forgot the line " dont listen to what she says pay attention to what she does"

applies real well here.

 

[Scorpio13c]

ok then you need to put your game up at the party. disregard her "friend statement and just with the flow.

make sure at the party you kino intensely. i forgot the line " dont listen to what she says pay attention to what she does"

applies real well here.

Thanks Tiguere!
I did try kissing her on the lips last week ( She comes over for guitar lessons, even though she has payed lessons) & I got stiff lips.. She mentioned that tonight just before saying the friends thing, so I'm unsure about progressing..

 

[Gangster Of Love]

That's the statement I got tonight from her. She's coming to my Co. Christmas dinner next week..
Anyone ever get out of the Friend zone??
Tips so much appreciated!!

Thanks in advance!

If she said that, there must be a good reason, or past, of which you are not telling us about.

Provide some background info on you, her and your interactions.

What she meant was: "I want to make it clear I am not attracted to you that way, so don't even think that this is anything more than me just acompanying you to your event. Don't get any ideas."

Sounds like you've made a move on her before and this has already been established. As if she's already told you or implied where you two stand.

Are you ok with you two just being friends? If not, I suggest you take somebody else; or just go through it and cut some contact with her.

 

[nismo-4]

Bro, you just need to drop her since you'll never get to see her naked. BTW, she'll be getting railed by some a$$hole after the party, just not you.

I think there's something you're not telling us. If I knew what your interactions were with this girl, we could be able to tell you where you went wrong.

The best way out of the friend zone is to never get there to begin with.

 

[SchoolBoy]

You got friendzoned, time to let her go.

Don't waste your time...
If you continue to approach something more, you'll be disappointed.

 

[Scorpio13c]

If she said that, there must be a good reason, or past, of which you are not telling us about.

Provide some background info on you, her and your interactions.

What she meant was: "I want to make it clear I am not attracted to you that way, so don't even think that this is anything more than me just acompanying you to your event. Don't get any ideas."

Sounds like you've made a move on her before and this has already been established. As if she's already told you or implied where you two stand.

Are you ok with you two just being friends? If not, I suggest you take somebody else; or just go through it and cut some contact with her.[/QUOTE

No, I don't want to just be friends, however, I didn't flinch or elude that when she said it.
O.K. Background:
-She's 45, i'm 40
-She started calling me after she found out I had broken up with my ex.
-]When we first started talking, I had the feeling she was seeing someone. I asked her about it, she said she was, but was going to drop him. She did it two days later. She'd prior said "I wish I knew this & that about you".
-She was taking paid guitar lessons (I'd previously offered to give her free lessons at the same time telling her I would court her), she then got rid of the other guy & called me for said lessons.
-I've given now the fourth git lesson.
-She emails every day
-She's been celibate for 14 years - doesn't want to remain, but only if it is moral.
-She went out for drinks with a guy from work, whom she admitted being attracted to, even though she said nothing would happen (he said he's got a girlfriend, but also told her he'd do her in the truck outside. She laughed when she told me this. I could tell it excited her!) but she would never do anything because of JW religion! This was tonight too!
-She alludes(via email) to sexy/kinky things ambigously with me
- Rrefers to me all the time as "Sunshine"

There's more..

So what do you think??

 

[Scorpio13c]

She also told me that she has to be friends first. This was when she talked about the guys that asked her out & whom she did go out with.
But she even says, they were not dates, nor did she have any intentions with!!??

 

[Scorpio13c]

You got friendzoned, time to let her go.

Don't waste your time...
If you continue to approach something more, you'll be disappointed.

That's the feeling I got, thanks School, but there seems to be more to it...?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

No, I don't want to just be friends, however, I didn't flinch or elude that when she said it.

She's thinking you are ok with that.

O.K. Background:
-She's 45, i'm 40

At 45 she really isn't going to change her spots at this point. What are you looking for? Do you have kids? If you do, are you done having them/want more? If no, do you want kids?

What are you looking for?

If you are looking at her purely to date and have sexual fun, keep looking. She's not the one.

-She started calling me after she found out I had broken up with my ex.

She wanted some male attention and didn't want to get it from someone who is taken.

-]When we first started talking, I had the feeling she was seeing someone. I asked her about it, she said she was, but was going to drop him. She did it two days later. She'd prior said "I wish I knew this & that about you".

What was the context of what she said? Was it good or bad the stuff she wished she had known about you?

-She was taking paid guitar lessons (I'd previously offered to give her free lessons at the same time telling her I would court her), she then got rid of the other guy & called me for said lessons.

Are you prepared to go without sex, until perhaps after marriage?
Doesn't look like she wants more than to be friends with you. "Courting", that has the wrong frame writen all over it. With this one, wether you court or or not, you won't escape the friend zone.

Have you kissed her yet? I didnt' understand what you said regarding kissing. How did she respond?

-I've given now the fourth git lesson.

You are courting her and you are giving her free lessons. Stop it. She basically is having her cake and eating it too. That is the equivalent to a guy taking a woman shopping or buying her drinks. She feels entitled when it comes to you.

-She emails every day

You are her new buddy.

-She's been celibate for 14 years - doesn't want to remain, but only if it is moral.

Moral off course, means until marriage. Are you willing to date her exclusively, no sex for months/years?

She's not looking to get freeky after 14 years, and if she is, it will not be with you.

-She went out for drinks with a guy from work, whom she admitted being attracted to, even though she said nothing would happen (he said he's got a girlfriend, but also told her he'd do her in the truck outside. She laughed when she told me this. I could tell it excited her!) but she would never do anything because of JW religion! This was tonight too!

I agree. She won't do anything. Are you ok with that?

She alludes(via email) to sexy/kinky things ambigously with me

Sexually/repressed women very often do.

- Rrefers to me all the time as "Sunshine"

Irrelevant.

There's more..

So what do you think??

What else is there to say? I think you know what this is and where it is going.

 

[Scorpio13c]

She's thinking you are ok with that.


At 45 she really isn't going to change her spots at this point. What are you looking for? Do you have kids? If you do, are you done having them/want more? If no, do you want kids?

What are you looking for?

If you are looking at her purely to date and have sexual fun, keep looking. She's not the one.



She wanted some male attention and didn't want to get it from someone who is taken.



What was the context of what she said? Was it good or bad the stuff she wished she had known about you?

She kept telling me, after things I described about myself, "I wish I knew that before"



Are you prepared to go without sex, until perhaps after marriage?
Doesn't look like she wants more than to be friends with you. "Courting", that has the wrong frame writen all over it. With this one, wether you court or or not, you won't escape the friend zone.

Have you kissed her yet? I didnt' understand what you said regarding kissing. How did she respond?

I went for the kiss last Friday, she was frigid lipped. She said it tonight, when she said "After what happend last week"

You are courting her and you are giving her free lessons. Stop it. She basically is having her cake and eating it too. That is the equivalent to a guy taking a woman shopping or buying her drinks. She feels entitled when it comes to you.

She was making me soup for payment if that's anything?


You are her new buddy.

You're are right



Moral off course, means until marriage. Are you willing to date her exclusively, no sex for months/years?

She's not looking to get freeky after 14 years, and if she is, it will not be with you.



I agree. She won't do anything. Are you ok with that?





Sexually/repressed women very often do.


Irrelevant.



What else is there to say? I think you know what this is and where it is going.

Thank you so much for your input Gangster, I really appreciate it, as much as it hurts & I feel bad...

 

[Scorpio13c]

Does it even matter that she emailed me back tonight after getting home, thanking me for tonight?
And that she told me she has a dresss she has for the up coming dinner?

 

[SchoolBoy]

Does it even matter that she emailed me back tonight after getting home, thanking me for tonight?
And that she told me she has a dresss she has for the up coming dinner?

No, she's being polite. Try not to over-analyze.

There's plenty more women out there that aren't sexually repressed.

Next this one and save yourself the trouble.

 

[Scorpio13c]

No, she's being polite. Try not to over-analyze.

There's plenty more women out there that aren't sexually repressed.

Next this one and save yourself the trouble.

Thank you School!

Now I have to still take her out to the Company dinner & she still expects guitar lessons, because I'm nice... great.. what to do now?

 

[SchoolBoy]

Thank you School!

Now I have to still take her out to the Company dinner & she still expects guitar lessons, because I'm nice... great.. what to do now?

Well you can still hang out with her as friends.

Having female friends are a great way to meet women. =)

 

[Scorpio13c]

Well you can still hang out with her as friends.

Having female friends are a great way to meet women. =)

Thanks again Man! Fellow Canadian too!
But I don't buy into that "Girls helping us out" thing

 

[SchoolBoy]

Thanks again Man! Fellow Canadian too!
But I don't buy into that "Girls helping us out" thing

You don't believe that having female friends are a benefit?

Almost all my friends are female (and no, I'm not a homo), I have received many hookups from them. Trust me when I say they are an asset.

Also hanging out with women, helps you understand how they think. At the same time it enables you to be physically comfortable around them.

 

[Prodigy746]

Thing is, she Jehovah's Witness (practicing), I'm Catholic (non practicing).
She's the one who's been chasing me all along!?!

lol so shes chasing you yet she says we just going as friends. If thats the case than you should reply ..."guess what we are not going"...