thefonz
Master Don Juan
"Think For Yourself, Question Authority"
The famous Tim Leary quote popularized by a band called Tool has been running rampant on this site for a couple years now. I've even included it in my sig for over a year because I truly believe it's all anybody needs to know. I choose to omit the last part only because people hearing the quote are likely to confuse and limit 'authority' to other people or those in the higher ranks of society, all the while not realizing that the authority in your head may be just as dangerous as any facist dictator or psychotic teacher. It's aimed at making people THINK. Nobody THINKS anymore, they just feel their emotions and go with the flow. How can you ever expect to become a confident, healthy, self-reliant person and still live like that? In the past, 75% of the questions I started to type on this forum I deleted before ever posting because I learnt to plan out in my mind all the responses I expect to hear upon posting it (I've read alot of material on this forum). After skimming throught those 'imaginary' replies I almost always find the answer I'm looking for and can trace the original source of my 'outside search for answers' to internal turmoil I was having difficulty controlling. But I'm getting much better, not completely, but I know where I want to get to. Emotions have driven me in the past to ask questions like, "should I next her? How do I talk to kids? Do women want alpha male or social butterfly?" The answer: Whatever you think. Learn how to put yourself in a relaxed state whenever you want and see if you ever post questions like these again. Your mind cannot function in a sea of chaotic insecurites. Nobody here knows your situation like you do. The most persistant and "field tested" poster will usually win the arguement to questions like these but they are only trying to help you through their personal persepective on the matter (Which is all it is, there is no reality). The truth is, they don't get nervous about the same things you do, they don't have the specific fears that you do. But, they do know how make the the other person seem WRONG and therefore win a logical arguement about methods and experiences that are 100% subjective to an individual.
What makes you think other people telling you how to be a don juan will make you happy? If you can't be happy with what you have now then don't expect the universe to give you much more. If anything you're unhappiness and displeasure with the way things are going will inevitably cause some of the things that you actually DO enjoy about your life (but don't appreciate) to disappear. If you really want something you'll get it, or if you don't want it bad enough you can learn to want it more. One day, and that day may not come until your 40, you will look back and realize that you spent more time than you needed asking the wrong questions, or questions that you knew the answer to but never bothered thinking about because you worried too much. And worrying is about as useful as trying to solve algebra problems by chewing bubble gum. Sit, relax, quiet, and think.
The famous Tim Leary quote popularized by a band called Tool has been running rampant on this site for a couple years now. I've even included it in my sig for over a year because I truly believe it's all anybody needs to know. I choose to omit the last part only because people hearing the quote are likely to confuse and limit 'authority' to other people or those in the higher ranks of society, all the while not realizing that the authority in your head may be just as dangerous as any facist dictator or psychotic teacher. It's aimed at making people THINK. Nobody THINKS anymore, they just feel their emotions and go with the flow. How can you ever expect to become a confident, healthy, self-reliant person and still live like that? In the past, 75% of the questions I started to type on this forum I deleted before ever posting because I learnt to plan out in my mind all the responses I expect to hear upon posting it (I've read alot of material on this forum). After skimming throught those 'imaginary' replies I almost always find the answer I'm looking for and can trace the original source of my 'outside search for answers' to internal turmoil I was having difficulty controlling. But I'm getting much better, not completely, but I know where I want to get to. Emotions have driven me in the past to ask questions like, "should I next her? How do I talk to kids? Do women want alpha male or social butterfly?" The answer: Whatever you think. Learn how to put yourself in a relaxed state whenever you want and see if you ever post questions like these again. Your mind cannot function in a sea of chaotic insecurites. Nobody here knows your situation like you do. The most persistant and "field tested" poster will usually win the arguement to questions like these but they are only trying to help you through their personal persepective on the matter (Which is all it is, there is no reality). The truth is, they don't get nervous about the same things you do, they don't have the specific fears that you do. But, they do know how make the the other person seem WRONG and therefore win a logical arguement about methods and experiences that are 100% subjective to an individual.
What makes you think other people telling you how to be a don juan will make you happy? If you can't be happy with what you have now then don't expect the universe to give you much more. If anything you're unhappiness and displeasure with the way things are going will inevitably cause some of the things that you actually DO enjoy about your life (but don't appreciate) to disappear. If you really want something you'll get it, or if you don't want it bad enough you can learn to want it more. One day, and that day may not come until your 40, you will look back and realize that you spent more time than you needed asking the wrong questions, or questions that you knew the answer to but never bothered thinking about because you worried too much. And worrying is about as useful as trying to solve algebra problems by chewing bubble gum. Sit, relax, quiet, and think.
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