You get the girl, get the puss then....

[NewMan]

Have you had this happen?

You meet someone your interested in - you go out with her - once a week for about 3 weeks - you become more interested in her and finally you bang her - only to find out shortly afterwards your interest level drops dramatically?

Thoughts?

 

[torqueboxer]

I like to think about it like when you go the video game store. You look at the back of all of the boxes of the games trying to think of what it would be like to play them. You take the game home get through the intro screens and then once you actually get to play it for awhile you put it on the shelf next to all of you other games to gather dust. You were really excited to play the game, then once you do finally do, the excitement is over. Its the same with me and girls.



"When the green flag drops the bull$hit stops"

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Simply put?

You've stisfied your lust for her, and now that sense of desire, which before was only stoked by the thrill of the hunt, is now only luke warm. Without some other sound foundation to build your relationship on, where does it stand?

BB King said it best," The thrill is gone..."

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by NewMan
Have you had this happen?

You meet someone your interested in - you go out with her - once a week for about 3 weeks - you become more interested in her and finally you bang her - only to find out shortly afterwards your interest level drops dramatically?

Thoughts?

That's not uncommon. It just another reason to date multiple women at once. It's easier to determine who interests you more when there are more to choose from. You can keep around the ones that you enjoy more so while letting go of the others, less the wasted time and effort.

 

[DankNuggs]

its the thrill of the chase, kind of like how you are more attracted to girls unavailable to you....


Happens to me all the time, go out with a chick, have a decent time, think about how great it'd be to bone her. Take her out again, get laid, then realize you've got nothing left other than to develop a deep relationship........RUN, RUN like the wind.....

 

[legolas]

As many posters before said "The thrill is gone..." Quite easy to understand. But I want to point out something else. A friend of mine asked me "Why do girls put up all this BS and avoid having sex when it clearly seems like they are having fun?"

Well this is probably an answer, added to the one about not wanting to look easy. They also know that if they went all the way with a guy, he may lose interest afterwards. The really smart girls will continually put up challenges and reveal themselves slowly, as should you, but most of them just put up some challenge and once you pass to that, she opens up. Interestingly this is also when guys lose interest.

And what's even more interesting is how this also works the other way. It should teach you about how to reveal yourself to girls and get them hooked.

 

[NewMan]

All to true - and I understand...

But I also find that I make plans to go out on dates with girls - sometimes I've not yet even banged them - and as the day comes I think of cancelling the dates.....

It's not like I'm not attracted to these girls - it's sometimes I think of what the night will entail - meeting the girl, making conversation - making things fun - having a good time - and I sometimes would just rather hang out with buds or at home alone.

Does anyone feel the same way? like at times women are just far to much work?

 

[Duke]

Yeah, Newman, I feel that way a lot. Sometimes I'd rather just sit at home, rent a video, listen to music, make up some songs, play some computer games, and read.

However, I almost always force myself to get out of my house because I know that any one of those nights could be bursting with opportunities.

 

[SDBmania]

I'm sure this might have been said before, but it is quite obvious why this had happend. You are to focused on the "sex." With out an emotional foundation, you won't have a succsessful relationship. Yes, physical intimacy is good, but you need more then that. Try looking at her personality. See if you can become attracted to her spiritually or emotionally or both.