You are not your mistakes (inspirational sh*t)

[disciple]

All of us f*ck up at times. Even the smoothest player or pimp's game can start leakin' (leakin' means to start losing game or hoes, ie. to start "fallin off"). It can happen to the best of us and how you respond to your mistakes, failures, bad times, and setbacks is what separates the winners in the game from the losers. A loser f*cks up and he's ready to hand in his Platinum VISA Players card and call it a day. A winner will analyse the situation and look for something to learn from the experience that will give him wisdom and knowledge to deal with future situations he'll encounter. The problem is that too many of us make the error of associating ourselves with the mistake that we made. For example, let's say a guy does something really stupid in terms of handling some chick. Now he feels that he f*cked up and played himself and he feels bad. Then he starts to think that since he did something stupid he must be stupid. Or, since he f*cked up, he must be a f*ckup. I know this may sound like common sense to some of you but believe me this is the thought process that takes place in alot of our minds. Oftentimes we are not even aware that we are thinking this way. This kind of thinking destroys your self-confidence and will to go after what you want. On the other hand, you can choose to think about why what you did was the wrong thing to do or maybe you might find out that what you did wasn't wrong, its just that whatever you did you did it with the wrong type of chick (like treating a ho like a good girl). So before you swear off women and move to the mountains, grow a beard and become a hermit or goat herder or something crazy, just calm down and look at the situation from a rational, logical viewpoint and NEVER act based on emotion because it clouds your judgement. Well, I think I said enough.

 

[Jay Gatsby]

Detachment and Depersonalization

Good point. Two mechanisms for being able to look at your mistakes objectively, and thereby avoid identifying yourself with your mistakes, is to emotionally detach yourself from the failure and depersonalize it. Detachment allows for analysis, while depersonalization removes the psychological impact.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Amen bro. I see that you have been studying Miki Royals book.

Preech on Diciple

 

[disciple]

Thanks for the shout out Player_Supreme. I do think this a major reason for frustration and lack of progress, especially among the younger or more inexperienced players in the game. Alot of people will do something that doesn't work and then conclude that they just have to do whatever they did harder the next time. That's just adding frustration on top of frustration. If they only thought, " Hey, maybe I need to take this as a learning experience and maybe I need to switch up my game or try something new". Unfortunately, alot of cats never think that far and so they never get too far. A damn shame.