Yet another example that women are confusing

The LadyKiller

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I believe my thread title is a given to everyone here; if women were not confusing, none of us would be posting. Even 2 of my friends the other day went out to a bar, spoke with 2 HB's for an hour and a half (very long amount of time), number closed and both girls remain interested - in fact, they initiated the texts. But it worked and I am happy for them. Meanwhile, I wind up in tacky situations like the one below...

...there is a HB who I recently met at my job (work is not the focal point of this post, don't dwell on it). When we first met, I had to show her how some of the things operate. The topic veered to sports, where she began teasing me about my favorite team. I fired back in a C+F way, I figured that would be it, she is a girl after all. But no - she keeps going! I was caught off-guard, but we kept going back and forth for awhile. Unfortunately, she does have a boyfriend, so I wasn't planning on making a move.

Since then, we'll talk a little when we run into each other, but I don't really try to initiate anything. She once needed my help on something quick, I helped out, then she began teasing me over a typo I made. That's just her, whatever.

Now the negative paragraph of the story: I don't feel we are even friends. Though this is a stupid reason (though my hunch may be right), she is refusing to friend me on a site like Facebook. Other people we know from work, she adds in 2 seconds. With me, it took 2 weeks...before she defriended me 3 days later. I barely checked out her profile during most of this span (and did not interact at all online). I checked with a couple girls I do know, they felt this was strange activity. I figure she thinks I "like" her when I do not. As an outgoing guy, maybe she took that as coming onto. This would also make sense because she's more outgoing to other people we know than she is to me.

So...fast forward to a few days ago. One of my good friends (who knows who she is because I told him about her) is working at a desk near hers. She doesn't know him and doesn't know he and I are friends. However, he was within earshot of her and tells me the following:
-She was working a shift with someone else that day.
-Out of nowhere, she brings up our back-and-forth regarding out sports teams. My friend heard my name mentioned and began to listen to see what is being said. Again, he is a couple desks over just doing his work.
-After she goes through this, she voluntarily tells the other person, "LadyKiller and I are good friends."
-My friend, confused at this point, intervenes. He introduces himself, tells her he and I are friends and that I am a really cool guy, and says it's funny because I had mentioned the same "argument" HB and I had with the sports. She smiles and tells him she "won" that argument.

When he explained this to me the next day, I was convinced he was A.) Making it up, or B.) Must have misheard something. However, it appears he wasn't lying.

Obviously, I'm somewhat confused myself. Because a couple of other friends I have know her and they get along well, I was hoping she would become a wingwoman down the road (she's been dating a guy for a year, they may be on the way down though because he is a bit of a loser). But when her antics picked up, I moved on. Maybe I misinterpreted something? Normally I wouldn't care, but some of my friends want her to go out with us, so if that happens I need to know what's up.
 

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Look man if I can take a crack at this -- it's probably because there is a mutual attraction there, but because of the BF thing she has going on, you're "really good friends". She probably doesn't want to FB Add you because of said interest, probably not the best thing for her to be mentally stewing over you or vice versa.

Probably best to let her go in the romantic sort of ways you see her; although if you are genuinely attracted this is difficult -- but just understand the BF issue is the primary issue here and that is where all of this confusion and friction is stemming.

Just find another woman to take your focus and be careful of giving this one too much attention ...it is clear you have a bit of a crush on her...that's fine...just meter it.
 

The LadyKiller

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Hmm mutual attraction? :woo: I guess that's possible. She is a HB9 after all. :rockon: You could be right, it is an intriguing take.

What I was initially surprised about here is that we aren't good friends. I don't even know if we're actual friends (acquaintances sure)! We haven't hung out outside of work or anything and I don't see her a whole lot at work lately, so I have no idea. The facebook theory may be correct, just not seemingly common.
 

The LadyKiller

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Buddha Mind's response made me think, as I am not necessarily great at reading women. Any other thoughts? Again, usually I do not need to overthink these matters, but if my friends start inviting her out, having a grip on what's going on could help. After all, we are "good friends."
 
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