X-BF in the way

[CoRVeTTe6699]

my girl friend constantly talks about her x boyfriend.. she claims shes over with him but she still has his pictures in her room.. she still talks to him on the phone...she still hangs out with him.... what should i do... she says he upsets her.. then why does she still hang out with him?

 

[christz]

Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
my girl friend constantly talks about her x boyfriend.. she claims shes over with him but she still has his pictures in her room.. she still talks to him on the phone...she still hangs out with him.... what should i do... she says he upsets her.. then why does she still hang out with him?

Here's something

THEY AREN'T e/x's in fact what's going on is she is playing you EXACTLY how this girl very recently played me.

she's good at her game she wants the attention of both guys, except he knows he's a chump because in the end she'll always go back to him, so he waits out chumps like you to move on with your buisness.

i had the same lines said to me as whats being said to you.

"me and him are better off friends, we always fight about stupid things.. nothing will ever change about that" (she even gave specifics and started to
"act" upset)

"Nothing happens when we hang out"

"we had an on and off again relationship, things just aren't the same between me and him"

Yeah all those lines, the chick still had her "ex" coming over to her house every single night, maybe she wasn't callin him over but he was still there every night bangin away. I knew this for fact but i denied it i tried to change her and in the end my actions dictated my emotions and i became desperate and acted foolish needless to say it wasn't worth the effort

SO JUMP SHIP NOW!

just wanted to also add

"he's not even really a friend"

"i hardly talk to him and if i do its only to get something"

"i don't care about him, i care about you"

 

[MixMaxster]

Ok well man with what you are saying with your situation I would say it isn't the same for everyone. Like I know I would LOVE to believe my ex would come back and all, but I know it won't happen. If she said all that stuff to her current bf, which I know she has in the past because she told me, to me I know already she aint going come back to me. I just KNOW it. With other girls I would say ya probably, but not this girl.

And actually I'm more interested in WHY she would say all that stuff for one, and why did she go back? That there might tell you or warn you how NOT to have that happen.

 

[christz]

Originally posted by MixMaxster
Ok well man with what you are saying with your situation I would say it isn't the same for everyone. Like I know I would LOVE to believe my ex would come back and all, but I know it won't happen. If she said all that stuff to her current bf, which I know she has in the past because she told me, to me I know already she aint going come back to me. I just KNOW it. With other girls I would say ya probably, but not this girl.

And actually I'm more interested in WHY she would say all that stuff for one, and why did she go back? That there might tell you or warn you how NOT to have that happen.

true, but were you at your e/x's house on a nightly basis and on weekends friday through saturday?

if you were then i retract what i say and put the blame on me. but since day one i've heard and then confirmed myself that he has in fact been at her house pretty much 24/7

i tested her to see what she would say about his car being in the driveway and she lied about it claiming it was a friend on top of the fact that they NEVER hang out at all, and that he is NEVER at her house anymore at all. because "she hated that"

which means that the lies and her game was all that was being said.

 

[DJDamage]

SIMPLE: IF HER EX IS LURKING IN THE BACKGROUND, YOU PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN AND SAY ITS EITHER HIM OR ME.

If she hestitant or wants more time to think, just walk away man because this chick is still hung about her ex and its not over for her.

You can still bang her, but she is not a good LTR material.

 

[flexion_]

Ditto - DJDamage.

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

she doens't even want to bang me, she banged her x bf that she still talks about though... she said she wants to wait until the time is right

 

[christz]

Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
she doens't even want to bang me, she banged her x bf that she still talks about though... she said she wants to wait until the time is right

that's a pretty bad sign, at least i got some ass outta the girl that was playin games with me

 

[NewMan]

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she doens't even want to bang me, she banged her x bf that she still talks about though... she said she wants to wait until the time is right
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It's very likely that she's bang'n her ex.

Either way, you need to get out of this situation.

She using you for sure.

Leave her - and tell her - that if she figures out what she wants - to give you a call.

Don't get emotional - and don't listen to her BS.

State the facts and get out.

And don't spend time with her until she figures this out PERIOD.

 

[DJDamage]

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Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
she doens't even want to bang me, she banged her x bf that she still talks about though... she said she wants to wait until the time is right
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You are out of the picture buddy, She is not your girlfriend, she thinks of you as you a friend and you are an emotional tampon to be used, abused and discarded. Get out of the situation now.

If a chick is intrested in you, the last thing she would do is make you wait - you are putting the ball in her court until she makes up her mind? what kind of sh1t is this?! so you are going to put your life on hold for this b1tch to make her mind?! 10 years down the road when she will have kids with that guy, she will tell you stuff like she doesn't like him and will ask you to do other favours by babysitting her kids while she is going to party in town with her boyfriend.

If you don't get out now and find yourself a girlfriend who respects you and loves you, you will be screwed.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=63501

I noticed you gave this guy some good advice in the above link, why don't you follow what you said too????

 

[Blue Phoenix]

This girl is leading you on man!

Don't let yourself be blinded by her words, look at her actions!

GET OUT of there before it's too late!

 

[TesuqueRed]

At first I assumed he was getting banged -- I would have advised that this is a rebound situation. Enjoy it while it lasts (that is, don't take it like a BF-GF thing, take it like a fvck-buddy thing).

But he's not even getting any.

Someone said it above -- you're being used to get the X back. You aren't her BF, you aren't even really her date since she's really thinking (and talking) about the X all the time. When she's with you she's really with him.

So just move on.

No theatrics, though, right? No need to explain yourself, so don't. Just say that you and her and right for each other and move on. She knows how to use drama and manipulations and is better at you at it, so don't even try to engage her on that level. Move on and don't make a show about it.

 

[Wyldfire]

If he broke up with her, she is using you to make him jealous and take her back. If she broke up with him, she did it in order to force him to do something he wouldn't do when she was with him. This is a common ploy of the devious/manipulate type of girl. You're being her tool and I would advise you to remove yourself from the situation as quickly and cleanly as possible.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Well lookie who's back.

Did you miss me? lol

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Well, my aim is getting better.

So is my dodging...

How've ya been?

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
That's a question for penkitten.

/mysterious

You don't say?

Poor pen...hehe...kidding, kidding...

 

[Wyldfire]

Okay Gio...it was nice sparring with you for a few minutes...but I gotta run. I might stop back in later if I have time.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Poor pen...h

nah, im a lucky gal

 

[TesuqueRed]

Sorry to join in the highjacking of this thread, but what's up Wyld? Been awhile -- what've you've done in the meantime (except stir up trouble somewhere else ).

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by TesuqueRed
Sorry to join in the highjacking of this thread, but what's up Wyld? Been awhile -- what've you've done in the meantime (except stir up trouble somewhere else ).

Not much Red. And I only stir up trouble elsewhere once in awhile. How are you?

And hey pen! How've ya been?