WTF is up with this girl!?

[AllOfIt]

Hey guys, I need everyone's opinions and thoughts!

I met a girl last year from my social circle, and about 6 weeks ago we started hanging out. I didn't intend for it to be a date, but it ended up turning into one. (I was headed to a club and wanted to just bring her for social proof)

Anyways at the end of the night, I kissed her, and that started all of this.

Fast forward to tonight, 6 weeks later, and we're going out for probably the 7th or 8th time.

Here's the problem, we haven't done ANYTHING more than make out.

I don't have oneitis, I'm seeing other girls, but honestly this one is a dime so I want to think about this before I just drop her and move on. I also have failed to really invest much time into relationships in about 6 years. I've been more so tailored to club game and ONS. I've been so scared to open up to women after being AFC for 20 years of my life. So I do like the idea of a relationship and investing in ONE girl.

Here's some info about our relationship.

- I don't talk to her everyday. I sometimes go three days without contacting her. I have never double texted her. I've only called her twice in a row on one occasion. I make sure to give her space.
- She's told me about how she really likes me and how she feels about me. She's told me how she describes me to her friends: "I made you sound like a god" She talks about how we get along so well etc.
- But she also randomly throws in "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" A LOT. It's like she's trying to convince herself. I'm not specifically looking for one with her, but I would date her if it came to that.
- She's young, 19, and has had two serious boyfriends (1 year and 3.5 years) and has only slept with them. While making out she mentioned she's really shy with guys. She's also mentioned to me that she likes a relationship to build up while two people get to know each other, because sex shouldn't be rushed. She thought it was weird that her ex slept with his new girl after talking for a week. She feels like sex is the biggest part to a relationship, and for this reason, she wants to let things happen naturally, which I guess means insanely slow.
- She also mentioned that when she's interested in a guy or talking or dating them, she doesn't mess with other guys. She wouldn't hang out with me before when she had a boyfriend even. As soon as she broke it off with him there was no hesitation however.
- I have told her that I want to sleep with her, but that's not all I was interested in.
- When we go out, we usually are either with friends or in a situation where isolation isn't simple. I'm fixing this on all future dates.
- This girl is a 10 and receives a TON of attention from guys. Also, she has yet to bring up any drama. Any bull**** that I've called her on, she's ceased immediately and apologized for.


So here's the thing, I enjoy spending time with her, but I would like your opinions on this one. I realize I enjoy two things, either a girl that I can hookup with, or a girl that I have insane chemistry with (i.e would want a relationship with). Right now, this girl isn't in EITHER category because she's holding back physically.

Like I said, she's very hot and is a fun girl, but I can't figure out if she's a shy prude-type genuine girl who is just doing things her way and taking things insanely slow (never invested this much into a girl like this) or if she's just using me for validation and really thinks she wants to be single now.

On one hand I think, ok drop her and move on. Find a girl who isn't so shy and will ****. But on the other hand I feel like I don't want to ruin an opportunity with an actual GENUINE girl.

 

[ohnoes]

Go on a date with her, just the two of you isolate and escalate. Date your other plates too because it seems like this one has you wrapped around her finger. Maintain emotional control.

 

[Iceberg]

On one hand I think, ok drop her and move on. Find a girl who isn't so shy and will ****. But on the other hand I feel like I don't want to ruin an opportunity with an actual GENUINE girl.

I don't know what makes her an actual, genuine girl?

Being prettier than other girls?

Sure she spits a good game, "I've only had 2 boyfriends." "I like to get to know a guy" etc, etc. But at the end of the day, those are just words. Channing Tatum can swoop into the local bar tomorrow, and make her forget all that nonsense....leaving you as some guy she made out with for 2 months.

I'm mostly kidding, as I'm sure Channing Tatum hangs out at better bars than you. But you get my point. If a girl likes you, then things happen. It would be foolish of you to assume that a woman has a set of hardcore rules that she abides by. Women abide by emotion. And in my personal experience, the longer you hang out with woman who you're not banging, the less likely you are to bang her.

Sure, some guys here will tell you stories of dating a girl for 8 months without sex, and then all of a sudden it miraculously happens. But most of the time, even "good, genuine girls" express their sexual attraction to you within the first month or so.

I'm not saying it's gotta be all about sex. But damn, at some point you wanna know "Is this girl serious or just looking for attention?"

 

[Spinning Spinning]

Or she could actually be a genuine girl that thinks things through a lot. Perhaps she realises how hot she is and it makes her uncomfortable that every guy wants to just get into her pants so if she finds a guy she really likes, she makes him work for it ie she's not prepared to give it up to just anyone. She may have been brought up that way or she may just be mega insecure about the whole thing. It IS possible that this girl is genuine but after 8 weeks I'd be putting it on her now to put out because she's had her chance to get to know you, if she's still undecided then there may be issues. I would try and intensify the relationship a little, speak to her more often, show her you mean business, see where it takes you IF you really really like her.

This is a long long shot but she may also be battling with her sexual preference ie not knowing what gender she actually likes. Have you noticed her looking at other girls or anything like that? Just putting it out there.

 

[betheman]

6 weeks later.....6 fcucking weeks later??? and you havent got inside her?

you are her friend, that is all, a friend who would like to bang her but with each passing week, the chances of that happening are decreasing exponentially!
ditch her, go NC, if she gets back to you and makes a big deal, play it down, be vague, if she suggests meeting up, do so, with alcohol, isolate, escalate ..

now, you will either bang her brains out or... she will indicate once and for all you are nothing to her than a FRIEND!