Here it is Fadero from the Tips forum.
SO YOU'VE GOT A GIRLFRIEND, NOW INVEST IN YOUR FUTURE
So you found your Dream girl. It wasn't easy, it took a lot of work.
All the time spent searching the clubs, pubs, shopping malls, and libraries. The money and effort put into all those dates with the Wrong girls. But now that you've found her though, things sure are great. You're happy, she's happy, the whole world is a wonderful place. But for how long?
Too many guys will get themselves into a relationship, and while things are seemingly going well they are falling into a trap. The trap is complacency. All the things the guy was doing before he found Miss Right seem to cease when the relationship begins. The focus goes from Women to Woman and this works for awhile but will eventually cause problems.
You have to take advantage of the fact that you have a girlfriend.
This is the prime time to work those DJ skills on other women. Albeit in a different way. I'm not talking about wheeling multiple women, cheating or anything like that. What I'm suggesting is that you use the social proof of having a girlfriend to meet, make friends and build rapport with as many women as you can.
While single we're taught NOT to make friends with women or else we end up in the friendzone. But when you have a girlfriend it is the smartest way to invest in your future.
Women love guys who have girlfriends or wives. All the other single guys are viewed as players, but not you. You are safe.
Every woman's guard goes down once she knows you have a girlfriend. You're off limits so there's no harm in chatting with you.
Its amazing what they will tell you too. They'll openly discuss their feelings, relationships, deep secrets, and sex.
The pressure is off you too. You already have a girlfriend so no more anxiety about approaching or being rejected. It all becomes very easy. This is a great time to practice your attraction and conversation skills.
Other benefits: You reduce the chance of developing oneitis. Also your girlfriend sees that you have many female friends and knows she better be treating you right, or else you just might be down the road. You become the type of friendly guy who chats with everyone. You do this from the onset of your relationship so that jealousy does not become a problem. Your girlfriend just accepts that this is who you are.
The women you befriend become your best allies. If they are friends with your girl then they boost you up in her eyes. They talk about you with their other friends too and tell everyone how great you are. You'll begin hearing things like, "Your girlfriend is a lucky woman" or "Do you have a brother?"
Like any investment you won't reap all the rewards immediately.
But if, and when you and your girlfriend split. You'll be miles ahead of all the other players that have been trying to impress those women you have already built rapport with.
So if you have a girlfriend, you're in a relationship, don't just let your DJ skills go soft. Don't become complacent and let things go stale. Keep on doing what you were doing before you met her. It will keep your relationship fresh and make your girl work to keep you interested. And if things don't work out. Thats okay too.
You've been investing.
. It's tough, you want to have fun, experience life and grow, but at the same time follow the golden rule.