wow this girl..... just WOW.

[Crazy Asian]

I've just met the most amazing girl.
We had an intense connection that felt like I knew her forever.
Our parents both move around a lot and she's lived in the same states that i have.
i'm asian, she's white.
she's lived in shanghai and knows a bit of manderin chinese (so do i)
so we've got that.
not to mention that she is THE HOTTEST chick i've ever seen.
even b4 i talked to her, i thought she was the hottest girl in the school.
her face is just like.... perfect.
soft voice.
I feel she's a little out of my league in the looks department since i'm only average looking.

SO in Chem.
last week i sat next to her and talked to her, but did get to know much.
got her laughing and comfortable.
then when we were assigned to work with a partner in the labs, i chose another girl and told this girl that we'd be partners next time and she said "do you promise?".... and this was the first time i noticed her goddess-like voice.

next week (yesterday)
i kept my promise and it worked out too cause my usual partner isn't here.
she asks "so since ur partner is gone, are we gonna work together?"
i'm like "aight, lets get this over with *hottest chick i've ever seen*"

we started with small talk to me poking her in the stomach while the teacher took a photo and she playfully pushed me back.
during the lab, we really connected and got to know each other.
the eye contact was intense. I dunno if i felt the connection because of what we had in common or because of how hot she was..... couldn't really tell.

while we were observing the chemical s it melted and refroze, i had the chair and i asked "do you want the chair now?"
she was like no its ok.
then i said "here, i feel bad hogging the chair"
she sat on it for a few minutes and i said " ok now i wanna sit too, lets share it".
so i got some more kino in there by basically being right next to her entire body.
we talked mostly about her experiences in shanghai and since i'm chinese, i tested her a little in chinese.

those of you that know me, i'm not easily impressed by a chick.
i could even say that i used to by a misogynist.
but this girl..... i really can't tell if she's feeling the same thing because what i may have felt is from how ridiculously hot she is.

So my question is, since i'm having this amazing interaction with her, am I slipping into the friend zone?
i'm genuinely having a wonderful time with her, but if i continue and don't ask her out, will i slip into the friend zone?

i can probably say that i've never felt like this for a girl b4.
and if this turns into a case of oneitis, i'm screwed, cause it'll be the most painful oneitis i've ever had......and i've had some pretty bad ones in the past b4 i found this site.....

fvvvcckk.

 

[Aragon034]

only one thing you really can do

Go for it. Otherwise you'll HATE yourself for not at least trying.

And i mean really hate yourself, like for the next 10 years you'll be kicking your ass everytime you see a girl that reminds you of her and you'll think "if i only had the balls to try and win her, even if there was only a slim chance.."

You'll wish there was a time machine, something you can use to go back and flog your silly past self to near death for being so utterly brain-dead to not act.

But you won't be able to, and you'll always remember "the one that got away" even as you get older, get married, have kids....

Act now, Don't hesitate. That's all i can really say,

Check the High School forum for more precise advice, i've been out of highschool for 4 years

You are YOUNG my friend, Life has barely started for you, you're off to a good start but don't get sidetracked here. Being a DJ is more than just a beautiful, matching woman beside you.

 

[DevanE]

Read this post carefully.

Look here bruh you already have her built up in your head like she's some celebrity so stop acting like a HO!!. Her face this...voice that blah blah blaaah. I bet you a 100$ if you saw my di** in her mouth and you found out how she likes it when it hits the back of her throat...it would change your mind. Then imagine once I got done raping her mouth I fuke* the living sh** out of this chick and she liked how rough, hard and nasty I was when I busted a gallon's worth of my precious nut on her face Peter North style. IMAGINE THAT!!!!!! :box:

Why do you feel she is out of your "league"...? Don't EVER again in your life think that EVER because anytime you come across some attractive girl this thought will go through your head and you will self-sabotage/talk yourself out of talking to her. I'm sure you have done that many times but you really need to admit this to yourself for you to move forward. Why would you fuk yourself out of talking to a girl because you THINK she is out of your league....? Don't ever THINK that EVER again, never for a girl, never in your life should you feel this way...EVER. Dude girls nowadays are so dumb that they can't even choose the guy's they like especially the right guy for them so screw all that league crap. If you want this chick and you think she is feeling you GO for it.

But since she is in your lab/class I suggest you gradually work your way to it because you don't want to rush things and it might get awkward if she rejects you...IF. However, since you have already established yourself with her and she knows you, continue to build some more trust with her but still hint that their might be more in the future between you too by keeping it semi-sexual and flirtatious. I highly suggest you exchange numbers next time both of you work together because who knows you might have some "questions". *wink wink*.

Most of all stop with this over the top bloated image of her that you keep constructing. You don't know what she is about, how much of a bit** she really is, princess, controlling etc etc. Find out what she is really about because you keep making her out to be someone she probably isn't. Don't do that from now on and grab your balls, play it safe and smart like the fox your are. A wise man once told me...

"...their are 2 types of girls in this world...those who want to fuk you and those who don't..." .

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

'Love is in the air... ', I guess that would be an understatement?

This sounds like another script from one of those teen high school movies. Nothing against you Crazy Asian. I say go for it, and I know you are gonna bang her and then put the videos up on redtude hopefully. I believe in you.

 

[JFun]

You're putting her on a pedestal. Numero uno AFC mistake.

Remember, she takes a dump like everyone else. Farts like everyone else. Has issues like everyone else.

But definitely go for it... ask her out to an out-of-school activity. And soon. You'll regret it if you don't. Just tone down your desire.

 

[Desert Fox]

I've felt exactly the same about an girl exactly just as beautiful and perfect etc.

Then years later you realize what a waste of time it was obsessing over her and how you should've made a move and either (a) got rejected and forgot about it, or (b) made out, and fvcked her.

You're making a huge mistake.

 

[Crazy Asian]

guys i KNOW that i'm having these afc thoughts.
but i did not make any afc mistakes so far.
and there ARE "leagues" in high school.

i'm gonna ask for her number.
i usually just say "i'd like to hang out sometime"
but as someone suggested, i might just say something about studying for chem together.


guys, i haven't felt this way in a long time (2 years)
although not exactly dj, i'm deff not an afc anymore.
i've built comfort and got her laughing.
made a unique connection.
lots of kino and eye contact.
and everytime we leave, i set something up so she has something to look forward to the next time we meet like working together or writing her name in chinese.
i'm not putting her on a pedestal like she's unobtainable.
but i AM thinking about her all the time.
and i ACCEPT that.

my main question is: how exactly does one land into the friend zone?
waiting too long to make a move right?
but i think that's only for people who are afraid of touching the girl, and are not confident.

before, i felt this way for other girls because they were my only options.
but now that i do have options, and i feel this way about a girl....i don' t at all think i can't get her.
i think there's a high chance, when before with other girls i though i had no chance, yet chased them.
i mean, i would've gotten laid on the second date last weekend if i had a condom...

also, i wonder if i jsut feel this way because she's hot.
i mean, if she was average, would i still feel this strong of a connection?

 

[decades]

she has these "once in Lifetime" intense connections with men every other Tuesday.

 

[RokyRoc]

Show your sexuality. Dont try to hide the fact that you like her by bsing that you are studying for chem, but that may just backfire.

also dont try to plan things to far ahead. live in the moment because planning too much will start driving you crazy. you will start to worry about whether she will like it or how its going to go.

get her number but dont initially qualify it is for chem something like this:

czyazn: hey whats your number?
she either gives it to you no questions asked (best choice)
looks at you for a long hard second then gives it (a challenge... not bad)
asks why, to which you say that you need to work on that chemistry (you need to run some more game)

 

[Desert Fox]

Again, you're reacting like this just as an AFC would, just like I would have 2-3 years ago. Give it up man.

You gotta make your move. Forget this "study chem" bullsh1t. Friends do that. Wanna know how to get into the friendzone? Ask her to "study chem."

NO

You ask her to "go on a date with you."

One day in class, you get her number then be like "are you free this weekend?" If she says yes, then you say "good, I'm taking you to BLAH BLAH"

If she says no, you say "aww that's too bad, I was goign to take you to BLAH BLAH with me, guess I'll have to take ANOTHER GIRL'S NAME now. have a nice one "

Then walk away w/o turning back, the b1tch will probably call you or tell you that SHE IS FREE SUDDENLY!!! HOHO!!!

But if this happens,you must not say "OKAY!!"

You gotta stick with your original plan and go with the other girl even if the other girl isn't hot.

This shows her she is not anything special and she gotta work foryour attention.

Then you say "oh well, I'm already taking BLAH BLAH to BLAH BLAH. are you free next weekend/thursday/friday/etc.?"

She will probably say yes, and then you agree and take her wherever.

Do NOT do this study bullsh1t. I've tried it and it is gay as hell...Study on your own, don't let some b1tch study with you when you're just wasting time thinking about getting into her pants.

DO YOU UNDERSTAND U GODDAMN AFC???

snap out of it

 

[Crazy Asian]

persistent is probably correct.
there are many guys that are lining up for her.
and i will get her number within the next 2 encounters

but seriously, b4 i talked to her.
she was THE cutest girl i've ever seen.
no lie.
it's ridunculous.

 

[Crazy Asian]

Again, you're reacting like this just as an AFC would, just like I would have 2-3 years ago. Give it up man.

You gotta make your move. Forget this "study chem" bullsh1t. Friends do that. Wanna know how to get into the friendzone? Ask her to "study chem."

NO

You ask her to "go on a date with you."

One day in class, you get her number then be like "are you free this weekend?" If she says yes, then you say "good, I'm taking you to BLAH BLAH"

If she says no, you say "aww that's too bad, I was goign to take you to BLAH BLAH with me, guess I'll have to take ANOTHER GIRL'S NAME now. have a nice one "

Then walk away w/o turning back, the b1tch will probably call you or tell you that SHE IS FREE SUDDENLY!!! HOHO!!!

But if this happens,you must not say "OKAY!!"

You gotta stick with your original plan and go with the other girl even if the other girl isn't hot.

This shows her she is not anything special and she gotta work foryour attention.

Then you say "oh well, I'm already taking BLAH BLAH to BLAH BLAH. are you free next weekend/thursday/friday/etc.?"

She will probably say yes, and then you agree and take her wherever.

Do NOT do this study bullsh1t. I've tried it and it is gay as hell...Study on your own, don't let some b1tch study with you when you're just wasting time thinking about getting into her pants.

DO YOU UNDERSTAND U GODDAMN AFC???

snap out of it

haha yeah i thought the study chem thing was kinda lame too.
i usually just ask the girl to hang out.
but you explained it in a really clear way.

 

[Desert Fox]

ALSO!

WHENEVER A GIRL ASKS WHY I WANT HER PHONE NUMBER:

I just laugh out loud in her face, and say "hmm gee, I wonder what people do with phone numbers? Could it be so I can call you? hmm help me out with this sherlock"

She'll feel pretty stupid immediately and then I have the upper hand.

She'll hand over the number to save face and then its all good.

if not, I'll just laugh again and be like " haha wow, I can't believe you didn't know what I wanted your number for...is this the first time an attractive guy has asked for your number?"

and just keep teasing the **** out of her making her feel like a dumb ass kid

 

[Darles Chickens]

but i did not make any afc mistakes so far.

Wrong. Yes you did...

i can probably say that i've never felt like this for a girl b4.

That soreness around your bumcheeks that you felt this morning that was from your Uncle Oneitis when he came to visit you last night to give you a good fuc*ing over.

also, i wonder if i jsut feel this way because she's hot.

You feel this way because she has your balls.

Dude you are well ahead of anything i would have done when i was your age. I wish to god i had the chance to find this forum when i was younger so don´t screw this up by doing AFC stuff like studying.

Listen to the advice Fox has just given you. Go hang with some other chicks the whole week before you see this supper hot chem chick, hang with other girls but do not let this little number screw with your head.

 

[Crazy Asian]

you guys are correct.
as the DJ code states, all girls are just numbers.



but guys, i think i've left what this site teaches in the past.
i've taken the teachings of the bible to the extremes b4 and learned a lot about how I should act and think.
i was a huge jerk.
i was very egotistical.

i no longer feel that i need to do some "special tricks" to get a girl.
i no longer feel out of anyone's league. (i just meant in the looks department b4)

of course i wont go giving her flowers and love letters.
i wont go giving her attention all the time.
i wont go thinking about her constantly like she's the only girl in the world
these are set rules that i agree with, and to be honest, I do naturally now.

I don't care about tactics.
and playing games.
these things don't matter to me anymore.

I've changed my mindset thanks to this site.
and i've lived on both sides.
and i've got to tell you.
the side of a confident guy who is just out to have fun in his life with lots of passion gave me a much better life than just memorizing tactics to use on girls at specific times.

Of course, i started out bad, as most of us did.
then i went too far.
i've learned so much in the 2 years i've been on here.
and my life has been a roller coaster of changes.
but now i've taken the teachings and applied it to a happy medium that i enjoy.

so i'm gonna go my own way on this one guys.
i'm not going to live my life in fear of getting hurt by some girl, because there are always others that'd love to be with me.

I need to prove to myself that the way i think is right or wrong.
with either one, i'll learn something new and change my mindset.
if this all goes to hell, then fine, you guys were right and i was wrong.
but i need to do this my way.

thanks for the support.

 

[Crazy Asian]

but darles, i'm just curious.
what mistake did you pick up on?

many on this site will think that thinking about a girl is wrong.
that we'll get oneitis and worship her.

but i think both words are out of my vocabulary by now.

is it just me, or does my writing not make sense at all.
i mean it does to me, but to u guys.....



WTF- 10 post limit??!?!?
response to ketostix: no, i'm not. i've actually never found asian girls attractive. only white girls.

 

[ketostix]

Weren't you the one that always says that white girls never go for asian guys and that white guys shouldn't pursue asian girls? I guess that isn't really true is it?

 

[verysuave]

the afc in you CAME OUT of the closet. No offense

 

[Telos]

I've just met the most amazing girl.
We had an intense connection that felt like I knew her forever.

...

while we were observing the chemical s it melted and refroze, i had the chair and i asked "do you want the chair now?"
she was like no its ok.
then i said "here, i feel bad hogging the chair"

Hahaha. Intense man. She's your soulmate.

 

[Darles Chickens]

hat mistake did you pick up on?

many on this site will think that thinking about a girl is wrong.
that we'll get oneitis and worship her.

but i think both words are out of my vocabulary by now.

is it just me, or does my writing not make sense at all.
i mean it does to me, but to u guys.....

It was you who said you hadn´t made an AFC mistake. I was talking about the words at the end of your first post about being wary about the oneitis and about it screwing you over.

Maybe this is just with me but the way i saw it was it seemed you were trying to say you were not going to obsess about her but in a way you already are. It just seemed the way you were writing it was trying to say you were cool with the possibility that this might happen! THIS IS NEVER COOL!

Then again, you will know where you are and how you feel. You seem to have got it pretty sorted in that last post. The journey you talk about and how you have acted in the past is similar to how i and many others will have felt...That´s a great thing to happen at your age.

But you need to try and distinguish between what you want from a girl and what you want from the girl in your life. And the effect this will have on you. Good or bad.

If you are cool with that and can handle it and like you said try and change from it then so be it. Don´t think though that by asking this girl out and (if she says yes) the two of getting it on and becoming Mr and Mrs Crazy Asian you will have somehow justified this intense connection and can therefore allow it to develop more intensely for you. That´s the cr*p you need to be careful of and that i was trying to point out.

At the end of the day the need to prove yourself doesn´t have to be done by getting hurt by a girl. On purpose!

Although at this point you are only going to ask her out.

Does this make sense?