Would You Stop Seeing a Girl For These Reasons?

[MG7592]

So met a girl online, so didn't know shiit about her, didnt look as good in person as pics but she was still okay and since I'm not getting the same amount of girls as in college I thought screw it why not ill go for it (graduated a year ago, only 5 women in the past year). Went on 3 dates, went well, same common interests, got along well. She did start to grow on me. But the girl has a very very young mom, divorced parents, her mom and her step dad both looked kinda trashy and like theyre on something cause of their eyes. Her mom doesnt have a nice job, so they live in a pretty crappy area, middle of nowhere, she does have 2 tattoos, her mom makes her pay rent every month and this girls 19. They dont have enough money to send her off to college so she had to settle for community college. On top of that, she wants to go into EMS. I hear divorce rates are so high among people in EMS AND women of divorced parents. Like women of divorced parents alone have a 65% chance of getting divorced as well. I've heard of women of divorced parents having have trouble with intimacy, which I could tell. Not good at making eye contact, not much emotion out of her, not smiling much, but I know she liked me. Texted me every day first, said she really enjoyed the dates, etc. And since her mom was so young when she had her, she didn't know what to do withher and didn't raise her well. This girl started partying and drinking, dont know if she did drugs or smoked, probably starting around 14 from what she told. At 17 she already got over the drinking and party phase, so she got it done at a very young age. Its just not what Im used to.

I feel like I basically answered my own question and made the right move after reading that but at the same time I didn't really give my self time to really get to know her that well before ending things with her.

And compared to me...I live in a place where theres tons going on, parents married for 28 years, upper-middle class family, plenty money, nice area, no one in my area really has tattoos cause its seen as kinda trashy, its also like because we were both raised and very very different environments that we just seemed too different from the start even though we got along great.

Basically just asking if you guys think those are pretty legit reasons to no longer see a girl.

 

[Bible_Belt]

only 5 women in the past year

The problem is your self-defeating over-analysis. Stop worrying about problems that you don't have yet.

By the way, I come from her side of the tracks, not yours, and have always had a chip on my shoulder towards anyone who judges me based upon my parents. I would like to encourage you to look beyond socioeconomic status as a criteria by which to assess people.

 

[MG7592]

only 5 women in the past year

The problem is your self-defeating over-analysis. Stop worrying about problems that you don't have yet.

By the way, I come from her side of the tracks, not yours, and have always had a chip on my shoulder towards anyone who judges me based upon my parents. I would like to encourage you to look beyond socioeconomic status as a criteria by which to assess people.

Not just that. I don't have a problem dating someone without much money. I'm just naming as much as I can about her. The main thing is the divorced parents, very young mom, started drinking and maybe drugs at a very young age, early teens, the very strong likelihood that it wouldn't be a successful relationship based off her environment growing up and future career, and just the way her mom and stepdad look. They aren't people I'd want my parents to meet or if I had children, I wouldn't want them to my the grandparents of my children. And that she just seems to have been raised so differently than I have and that she lives in an area where its just a whole different world and type of people. I felt like we were a bit disconnected despite getting along well, sharing a lot of common interests, and having fun every time we hung out.

But I get what youre saying. Ill admit it does sound very ignorant and just bad of me to say that in the original post. I guess its just cause I'm used to being with very good looking, wealthy women with great families, great job.

 

[parkthebus]

What's EMS and what's wrong with tattoos? I've heard the theories in the manoshpere and personally I think it's rubbish.

 

[Killakittie]

Are you looking for a relationship? Because if not who cares right? Just pump and dump or keep her orbiting for awhile and hit it whenever you want. You sound like you're of higher social status then her and that puts the ball soundly in your court. I'd say hang out with her DONT get attached and look for a girl that comes from a better off family. Just know regardless of someone's back ground it's impossible to judge them as a person based on that. They could have the best family and parents in the world and still be bat crazy. Tread carefully and have fun.

 

[MG7592]

What's EMS and what's wrong with tattoos? I've heard the theories in the manoshpere and personally I think it's rubbish.

emergency medical services. she wants to work as an emt. its just a shiit job where you work crazy hours and dont have much time to do much else...from what ive read. Just read a lot of bad things about dating people in ems. relationships going down hill fast due to lack of time together, crazy schedule, stress, always cancelling plans. and the tattoos, just where i grew up it was looked at as kinda trashy. i hardly knnow anyone at all with tats. but, as i get older i realize they really aren't. its more about the women, how she carries herself and who she is and not so much the tats. but if i had a choice tattoos or no tattoos id easily choose none.

 

[MG7592]

Are you looking for a relationship? Because if not who cares right? Just pump and dump or keep her orbiting for awhile and hit it whenever you want. You sound like you're of higher social status then her and that puts the ball soundly in your court. I'd say hang out with her DONT get attached and look for a girl that comes from a better off family. Just know regardless of someone's back ground it's impossible to judge them as a person based on that. They could have the best family and parents in the world and still be bat crazy. Tread carefully and have fun.

now that im out of college yeah id like a relationship but of course still dont mind banging girls on the side here and there. thing is that this girl lives about an hour and a half away. met online. she didnt look anywhere near as good as her pics, but still bangable. so i went with it. but she grew on me and i actually began to like her. which i dont like the faact that i did but couldnt help it and didnt even see it coming. most girls i get with im super attracted to right from the start but this was different. and yeah i already had sex with her. the last time we hung out. but like i said earlier, i wonder if her having divorced parents, shiitty mom, no father figure in her life is why she hardly ever shows emotions and has trouble with intimacy. sex was good but she wasnt as into it as pretty much every other girl ive been with.

 

[Killakittie]

She's acting indifferent. That's a defense mechanism for females when they have been emotionally traumatized or abused. Could have been her childhood growing up or a very bad experience with a dude that came along before you. And she's just not sure about you yet, I'd be careful because when a girl really likes you she will make it known! And if you don't know her and she decides she can "open up" she just might open up a can of crazy catching you off guard lol.

 

[MG7592]

She's acting indifferent. That's a defense mechanism for females when they have been emotionally traumatized or abused. Could have been her childhood growing up or a very bad experience with a dude that came along before you. And she's just not sure about you yet, I'd be careful because when a girl really likes you she will make it known! And if you don't know her and she decides she can "open up" she just might open up a can of crazy catching you off guard lol.

yeah, i think i made the right move. and she never made it that known even after 3-4 dates. which by that time it should be well known. I knew she did just cause we talked everday, she almost always texted me first and asked to hang out, but in person didnt show it at all