would you NEXT your LTR girl for this?

[DunSweat]

About a week ago she got up in my face screaming while in an argument. I told her do not speak with me like that and she said she'll speak however she wants. I no contacted her then 3 days later she messaged me asking to talk. We spoke and sorted things out - I warned her not to speak to me disrespectfully ever because disagreeing does not equal to disrespecting. She said sorry and she will not do it again.

Today we argued again and she hung the phone up in my face. I rang her back straight which was a mistake I know but I was in the heat of it and didn't want to make myself play any games or hold back and I said this is the second time you were rude this week, you are immature and disrespectful and you need to think about who you think you are and what you actually are. For first several months she was great but past 2 weeks we've been fighting and fighting.

What should I do?

 

[exhausted]

How old is she?

 

[LMFAO]

Don't chase her, let her come to you and she will apologise. It really depends how much you want this girl, she sounds pretty immature. There is usually something behind it.

I was in a similar situation once, we got along great but then we started arguing, it all started when she thought I was "cheating" on her by texting another girl, so she started acting like a b**** hanging up the phone and whatever else, she apologised, it eventually ended (because we moved to different cities).

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Don't scold her like a father does to his daughter.

Remember women respond much more to action/inaction than verbal warnings etc.

When she is disrespectful to you, punish her by disappearing on her like you did when she yelled in your face.

If it continues then you know you have a girl who's interest is low and you drop her.

Too many girls out there to stress over one girl who sounds like a brat all together.







PIMP

 

[TheCWord]

Don't scold her like a father does to his daughter.

Remember women respond much more to action/inaction than verbal warnings etc.

When she is disrespectful to you, punish her by disappearing on her like you did when she yelled in your face.

If it continues then you know you have a girl who's interest is low and you drop her.

Too many girls out there to stress over one girl who sounds like a brat all together.







PIMP

Reppppppped. As usual.

True, quit with the scolding. Works with girls who have daddy issues, but you don't want them anyway.

Withdrawing before worked, do it once more and see if she apologizes once again. If she does but then pulls yet another stunt then you walk away completely - not as some kind of strategy to get her to act right, but because you have enough self-worth to walk away from someone who consistently emotes like a child.

As Pimp said, so many girls out there - why waste your energy trying to turn this girl into the type of GF you want when there are those types of girls already out there who require no such behavior modification?

 

[TheException]

Don't scold her like a father does to his daughter.

This^

Quit being a chump. You getting into back and forth arguments with a woman will always result in a lose lose situation. Stop getting all emotional and worked up thinking you are a "bada$$" by trying to put her in her place. Withdraw and she will come crawling back. Fighting 101.

 

[narcissist]

dump

 

[MOTU]

Two heated arguments in a week doesn't bode well for the relationship. Were they about the same issue?

I am to the point in my life where I just don't want the drama and fighting. It creates negative energy I don't need. Disagreeing occasionally is ok and to be expected, but yelling, hanging up the phone and all that sh!t is just too much for me. I would NEXT and find a girl or three that brings positive energy to my life.

 

[Soolaimon]

You lost your value and her respect.

This is why she is disrespecting you.

Trying to be an authoritarian isn't going to help when she doesn't respect you.

She isn't going to listen to your lectures. She isn't going to care what you say. She is going to rebel.

What she felt before is not what she is feeling now.

Just like these guys who want to set boundaries with their woman.

She isn't going to follow the boundary when she loses interest.

She is going to break the boundary looking for other men then dumping the insecure boyfriend with the boundary.

Yelling at her does nothing except exacerbate the feud.

If you don't like how she is behaving then dump her.

That is the only thing she will understand.

No need to be aggravated with a disrespectful girl nearing the end of your relationship.

Fighting is a strong sign of her lack of respect.

I wouldn't put up with this at all.

Stop fighting and use some action by dumping her before she does it to you.
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She said sorry and she will not do it again.

Today we argued again and she hung the phone up in my face.

but past 2 weeks we've been fighting and fighting.

She lied to you. She did it again. It's getting worse.

Her disrespect continues hanging up the phone this time.

How long are you going to let this go on?

It's not going to get any better.

Phony apologies are useless words that mean nothing.

Just like agreeing to a boundary.

She will do it again.

Show some action here.

Dump her.

 

[DunSweat]

Thank you all. What I will do is the following:

I will not contact her until she contacts me with something substantial. So no flimsy sms or Facebook emoticon. Something which speaks volume/effort.

I will stop scolding. I am glad you all said that because I am looking back and I was doing this with her which I haven't done in years because I applied a DJ mentality when dealing with girls but this is the first serious relationship since my AFC days in my last LTR. I guess it's the hardest to maintain a DJ lifestyle for me at least when it's a serious thing because of the things you invest.

TBH, my senses are telling me to dump her. My heart and my experiences prior to the past 2 weeks is telling me to work it out. Also, my experience knowing every single girl who isn't a complete sl*t tells me that all girls are drama queens, it's just how bad they do it which is different.