Hi everyone,
So me and my Ex were together for two and a half years. The last 6 months of our relationship were very difficult and rocky. Now I realize that I did many things wrong: I always came up with past mistakes she made and threw it in her face. I emotionally and verbally abused her a few times, as I felt she is disrespecting me. Told her things like she is a bad woman, sloot, she is using men, she is a wh*re. I was just two times and I apologized but afterwards she thought this is how I really think about her and it hurted her self-esteem. I didnt really mean it and said these things out of anger but she never believed that. I disrespected her and argued with her when I was feeling disrespected. But there were many good times also in between. The most time was great. The sex was great and we had really much fun together. I gave her my whole attention and did nice things for her, were always there for her...
The last two months she was distant, what made me clingy and needy (I know that was wrong). I felt that the connection between uns is going down and I wanted to stop that. The last month was the worst: Our relationship was on the edge of a break up. Then she went on vacation and the day before we made up once again and had a good time. We decided to work on our problems when she is back. On vacation she started an affair with another man, didnt tell me about it. At the same time we once again got into a fight and broke up. But I wanted her back and we stayed in contact. It seemed like she also was interested in the relationship. She told me this, while she had the affair.
So to make this short: She started an affair at the most hardest and hopeless time in our relationship. She told me she lost hope that it would work out and went for this other man. But I didnt go for other women at this time. I also felt like the relationship can´t survive and was hopeless but I really loved her and wanted to work on us when she is back. I know I treated her like crap the last two months and made many mistakes but did I deserve to be cheated on? I mean I am feeling like it was my fault and I messed up. When she came back, we were broken up but stayed in contact, then she wanted me back. When I found out about the affair on my own, I wanted to run first. But she is begging and telling me that she felt abused, underappreciated and undervalued, thats why she was more open for other men.
So what do you think, would you forgive cheating under these circumstances? If you really messed up and treated your girl like crap, does she deserve a second chance?
Regards
So me and my Ex were together for two and a half years. The last 6 months of our relationship were very difficult and rocky. Now I realize that I did many things wrong: I always came up with past mistakes she made and threw it in her face. I emotionally and verbally abused her a few times, as I felt she is disrespecting me. Told her things like she is a bad woman, sloot, she is using men, she is a wh*re. I was just two times and I apologized but afterwards she thought this is how I really think about her and it hurted her self-esteem. I didnt really mean it and said these things out of anger but she never believed that. I disrespected her and argued with her when I was feeling disrespected. But there were many good times also in between. The most time was great. The sex was great and we had really much fun together. I gave her my whole attention and did nice things for her, were always there for her...
The last two months she was distant, what made me clingy and needy (I know that was wrong). I felt that the connection between uns is going down and I wanted to stop that. The last month was the worst: Our relationship was on the edge of a break up. Then she went on vacation and the day before we made up once again and had a good time. We decided to work on our problems when she is back. On vacation she started an affair with another man, didnt tell me about it. At the same time we once again got into a fight and broke up. But I wanted her back and we stayed in contact. It seemed like she also was interested in the relationship. She told me this, while she had the affair.
So to make this short: She started an affair at the most hardest and hopeless time in our relationship. She told me she lost hope that it would work out and went for this other man. But I didnt go for other women at this time. I also felt like the relationship can´t survive and was hopeless but I really loved her and wanted to work on us when she is back. I know I treated her like crap the last two months and made many mistakes but did I deserve to be cheated on? I mean I am feeling like it was my fault and I messed up. When she came back, we were broken up but stayed in contact, then she wanted me back. When I found out about the affair on my own, I wanted to run first. But she is begging and telling me that she felt abused, underappreciated and undervalued, thats why she was more open for other men.
So what do you think, would you forgive cheating under these circumstances? If you really messed up and treated your girl like crap, does she deserve a second chance?
Regards
