I am very new here and I haven't had time to read everything this site, and the DJ bible has to offer. I will, of course, but I do need urgent assistance, if possible.
I guess it would be wise to summarize my situation first... I had a girl-friend several years back and after we moved to different schools, we stopped speaking. I decided to send her a message through AIM (after 2 years) in August of 2002 and I figured I would try to befriend her. I befriend her once again and I guess, as so accurately described by the "infatuation" article, I am deeply infatuated with her. I hope it's not looked down upon too much here.
As I read more and more last night, I noticed that according to the articles, tips, and experience stories, everything I have done in attempt to having a relationship with her is exactly what I should have not done. Oops...
She is a very busy person. She is always working on school related material, and on top of it all, she has way too many friends. I find it hard to speak to her very long and very often.
I have expressed my "jealousy" numberous times to her and asked her repeatedly to call or message me once in a while. I always analyze everything said to her, and I always try to figure out how she feels about me. Sometimes I feel as if she hates me even. Other times she seems to like me. I don't really talk in a confident tone to her either, but I wouldn't say im nervous; just not confident.
This has been going on for months. I have only been able to see her THREE times since. It's that hard to do something with her and no, they weren't dates. I don't think she sees me as more than a friend.
Basically, I screwed everything up with her and now I want to see if I can fix it with some DJ skills.
I live in New Jersey, USA, north of the shore. In early April, during spring break, I want to take her and drive down to one of the nicer beaches to spend an entire day there. I have not invited her yet, but I want to, tomorrow. I am going to see her briefly later today (it's 3am) and I want to ask her in person, then.
Here is how I wanted to approach it. I wanted to point out that she's always busy, that she never has time to sleep, and that it's been a while since she has relaxed. I would point out that I want to bring her someplace (keeping the destination a secret of course, to make it more compelling to go) where she can relax, and take a day off from her everyday busy life. I would then tell her she'd have to dedicate an entire day to me though. So that's the basic idea.
After stumbling across this site (and yes I did find it accidentally) I wondered if maybe I should do it some other way. Basically, I want to invite her in the best possible way. I want her to definetely say yes.
So here is the question: Are there any better ways to approach this situation? How would you go about it?
Keep in mind that I really screwed things up with her already. So this isn't an initial 'we are seeing each other for the first time' approach.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
I guess it would be wise to summarize my situation first... I had a girl-friend several years back and after we moved to different schools, we stopped speaking. I decided to send her a message through AIM (after 2 years) in August of 2002 and I figured I would try to befriend her. I befriend her once again and I guess, as so accurately described by the "infatuation" article, I am deeply infatuated with her. I hope it's not looked down upon too much here.
As I read more and more last night, I noticed that according to the articles, tips, and experience stories, everything I have done in attempt to having a relationship with her is exactly what I should have not done. Oops...
She is a very busy person. She is always working on school related material, and on top of it all, she has way too many friends. I find it hard to speak to her very long and very often.
I have expressed my "jealousy" numberous times to her and asked her repeatedly to call or message me once in a while. I always analyze everything said to her, and I always try to figure out how she feels about me. Sometimes I feel as if she hates me even. Other times she seems to like me. I don't really talk in a confident tone to her either, but I wouldn't say im nervous; just not confident.
This has been going on for months. I have only been able to see her THREE times since. It's that hard to do something with her and no, they weren't dates. I don't think she sees me as more than a friend.
Basically, I screwed everything up with her and now I want to see if I can fix it with some DJ skills.
I live in New Jersey, USA, north of the shore. In early April, during spring break, I want to take her and drive down to one of the nicer beaches to spend an entire day there. I have not invited her yet, but I want to, tomorrow. I am going to see her briefly later today (it's 3am) and I want to ask her in person, then.
Here is how I wanted to approach it. I wanted to point out that she's always busy, that she never has time to sleep, and that it's been a while since she has relaxed. I would point out that I want to bring her someplace (keeping the destination a secret of course, to make it more compelling to go) where she can relax, and take a day off from her everyday busy life. I would then tell her she'd have to dedicate an entire day to me though. So that's the basic idea.
After stumbling across this site (and yes I did find it accidentally) I wondered if maybe I should do it some other way. Basically, I want to invite her in the best possible way. I want her to definetely say yes.
So here is the question: Are there any better ways to approach this situation? How would you go about it?
Keep in mind that I really screwed things up with her already. So this isn't an initial 'we are seeing each other for the first time' approach.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
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