Would it be wierd for me to try and make friends on my rez now that school has been in session for around a 2 months and a half or so? Stupidly I didnt really participate at the times when everybody starting going from house to house getting to know each other (due to depression/ other issues) and I kind of think people either see my as wierd or snobby or loner or whatever. And I also kind of think groups have been formed. How would I go about getting into a group. Would it be wierd for me to just say hi to one of the guys in a group and hope to somehow befriend him and get into the group? I feel like I might have missed that crucial period where its not wierd to just randomly walk up to someone or whatever.
Would it be considered wierd for me to try to make friends now in uni after 2 months
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Francisco d'Anconia
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Best to do it now before it becomes two and a half months and a day.
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Its never the wrong time to make friends.
Just go talk to someone.
Just go talk to someone.
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It's been almost a year that I've been in a new environment, and I still *try* to make friends daily. It's never too late. If in doubt, alcohol helps. Also, I've tried joining new clubs/activities.
The best thing I've learned so far about making friends is that to get great friends, you have to BE A FRIEND. You can't look at friendship as just getting something out of it. When I was down and somewhat depressed I thought finding friends would make me happy because it would give me "something." While, in fact, being a friend to others has given me much more happiness.
Some ideas...help someone out without them asking, say hello to acquaintances or even strangers, give an honest compliment...just be a friend to people and you'll notice others want to be in your company. They'll start calling you up to hang out. I promise, this has been my experience so far.
Good luck.
The best thing I've learned so far about making friends is that to get great friends, you have to BE A FRIEND. You can't look at friendship as just getting something out of it. When I was down and somewhat depressed I thought finding friends would make me happy because it would give me "something." While, in fact, being a friend to others has given me much more happiness.
Some ideas...help someone out without them asking, say hello to acquaintances or even strangers, give an honest compliment...just be a friend to people and you'll notice others want to be in your company. They'll start calling you up to hang out. I promise, this has been my experience so far.
Good luck.
insanity
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making friends use to be a hard thing for me but i figured out why. body language can be your best or worst enemy. when people did make the effort to approach and meet me, i would cross my arms, i would act like i was in a hurry, i wouldn't smile or my laugh was fake and here is the key.....when people talked and looked me in the eyes i would look down or the other way.
so i got a new job and tried a whole new approach. i walked with my head up, big smile and i said "hey how ya doing" to everyone i walked by. when people stopped to talk to me i would look them in the eyes and i would LISTEN to what they had to say and reply something about the same topic even if it didn't interest me one bit. fridays seem to be the greatest day to make friendships because it's the end of the week and people are more likely to be glad it's friday and fun is to be had by all. thats where you jump into the fray and say what do you got planned tonite. work from there.
so i got a new job and tried a whole new approach. i walked with my head up, big smile and i said "hey how ya doing" to everyone i walked by. when people stopped to talk to me i would look them in the eyes and i would LISTEN to what they had to say and reply something about the same topic even if it didn't interest me one bit. fridays seem to be the greatest day to make friendships because it's the end of the week and people are more likely to be glad it's friday and fun is to be had by all. thats where you jump into the fray and say what do you got planned tonite. work from there.
Roly
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Not to sound like a new age guru but
Here's a wise quote from a good philosopher:
" The world is abundant my friend. The ocean is vast and opportunities are many, some in different forms. What you shall seek, you will likely find."
Here's a wise quote from a good philosopher:
" The world is abundant my friend. The ocean is vast and opportunities are many, some in different forms. What you shall seek, you will likely find."