Would I be doing too much in this situation?

[TheManMasenko]

I want to tell this girl not to talk to me anymore after I was curved/friend zone.

Our relationship was cool, we linked up twice and chilled. The first date was casual, the second date was a little touchy (not at all sexual). I'm usually pushing the envelope, she usually reschedules twice before we can actually meet.

I'm not eager for her in all honestly, I was well aware of where this going due to her dryness outside of school setting. But now, I'm 100% aware I'm an orbiter or backup since I saw her with another man. She was shocked when she saw me, the guy even looked at me with what I felt was "Ohhh that's him" kind of reaction. Nothing crazy.

She told me she wasn't dating anyone, but I believe I can't get in her pants because the guy already is f*** and she'll most likely keep me as backup or ill probably stay in orbit for life.

Well...I say all of that to ask, if I tell her "do not talk to me", do you think that's too much? I don't like talking to women who I know for a fact I'm not f***, she does help me with school here and there but at this moment, she just seems annoying.


P.S. : I'm just going to keep the relationship the same. Not going to try to link with her and just let it be what it already is. Next gir.

This was posted for discussion.

 

[Dr.Suave]

if I tell her "do not talk to me",

If you are feeling like telling her this, I think you absolutely most. BUT, dont say it with words. Say it with actions. Stop pursuing her, spin hotter girls with higher interest. She will get the message.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

If you are feeling like telling her this, I think you absolutely most. BUT, dont say it with words. Say it with actions. Stop pursuing her, spin hotter girls with higher interest. She will get the message.

Exactly. If you say "don't talk to me", you sound like a butt hurt woman. Be friendly but aloof.

On to the next one. No pain no gain as they say.

Eventually (may take years). You will be the decision maker in these situations. You will be the one exiting these situations because she fvcked up. And, when/if you two cross paths again, you will be nice to her because you kinda feel bad for her. You'll exchange your pleasantries and be on your way.... without giving two fvcks.

So, for the meantime, try to take ^that approach. However, at the same time, don't lose site of reality.

EDIT: re-read

she just seems annoying.

Okay, there we go.

 

[Young OG]

I want to tell this girl not to talk to me anymore after I was curved/friend zone.

Our relationship was cool, we linked up twice and chilled. The first date was casual, the second date was a little touchy (not at all sexual). I'm usually pushing the envelope, she usually reschedules twice before we can actually meet.

I'm not eager for her in all honestly, I was well aware of where this going due to her dryness outside of school setting. But now, I'm 100% aware I'm an orbiter or backup since I saw her with another man. She was shocked when she saw me, the guy even looked at me with what I felt was "Ohhh that's him" kind of reaction. Nothing crazy.

She told me she wasn't dating anyone, but I believe I can't get in her pants because the guy already is f*** and she'll most likely keep me as backup or ill probably stay in orbit for life.

Well...I say all of that to ask, if I tell her "do not talk to me", do you think that's too much? I don't like talking to women who I know for a fact I'm not f***, she does help me with school here and there but at this moment, she just seems annoying.


P.S. : I'm just going to keep the relationship the same. Not going to try to link with her and just let it be what it already is. Next gir.

This was posted for discussion.

Don’t tell her anything. Just forget she exists and move on.

 

[Gamisch]

Lets keep it simple for starters; you "403 caught "her redhanded. Period. This is 403 ish behaviour and should be treated as such.**I say this as a initial reaction **

Because on second thought;The only thing that makes me say she didn't do too many things wrong is that you haven't slept with her. The rescheduled "dates" should already be a warning sign. The no kissing/ escalation confirms that you are "nothing " to her. Yes, she knows you like her but you haven't given her enough to work with, or she simply doesn't want you like that.

I even wonder if you should consider these meetings as real romantically fueled dates. Sounds more like hanging out than dating...maybe you missed out on a opportunity and you need to look for advice how to either escalate earlier, read the situation better, and /or you might need be more assertive.

Another thing; you sure that dude looled at you that way? What the heck does that even lool like? Especially when I am fecking her i would silently laugh at any orbiter she has when i meet them.