Worthy woman

[jhonny9546]

So, you actually want to meet women, and you can see that many people do this through their work, hobbies, social circles, or other avenues. They often settle for a woman they've found with whom they have something in common, leading to kids, marriage, and maybe after 10 or 15 years, a divorce because, when she changed her job, she met someone new and became attracted to him, or viceversa. Now, you can see this pattern everywhere: people enter LTR's based on initial attraction, cultural expectations, peer pressure, FOMO, or a lack of other options.
Since this scenario occurs due to biological attraction and the desire for something new, people often settle because of societal norms. As a result, they may find themselves unhappy in their LTRs after years of conflicts.


So how do you truly feel about someone who is worth an LTR?
How does a woman—whom you can only find after visiting many places, experiencing various circumstances, and going through numerous experiences—make you feel? How do you know you're not settling but have genuinely found someone who resonates with you? What qualities does this woman possess that make you feel differently as a man compared to other women with whom you also shared a connection? It's easier to discuss STR and ONS, but we are focusing on the perspective on LTR.

If we are here in the forum, I should not make this question, but sas this ever happened to you?
How does a "worthy" woman make you feel in a LTR in such a way that you can recognize her value when dating? How can you avoid cultural biases that pressure you to settle for someone for superficial reasons, and instead focus on the genuine feels this person brings/evoke to you? (This question is particularly relevant for those experiencing "oneitis.")

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Be less thirsty.

 

[Travel memoir21]

You can only attain her, when you’ve built a lifestyle and way of life that gets you more than one worthy woman worth your time.


So put your womanizing in the back burner over your purpose and pick your queen when it’s all set and done. Now that doesn’t mean not to date, but don’t waste your time on ho bags and learn the art of finding the quality women of your preference.

 

[jhonny9546]

You basically say the same thing.
1st Aboundance
2nd Selection
3rd keep your women friends while you're with the one.

Really look like a king life would have.

So many interactions with many different woman can only tell if you have a worthy woman in front of you, because you will compare her with your previous STR/LTR?

So this is so subjective we cannot make an objective thing?

 

[plumber]

If she is worthy it means that you trust her and she admires you.

Both trust and admiration can be damaged quick and easy. Worthy is like true. It changes based on new information.

This is why it is so important in the context of dating to be involved with SOMETHING that you can do well in. Well enough to earn admiration. The categories of things to choose from is endless. To find someone worthy, you must earn admiration.

 

[Vanderdonck]

How does a "worthy" woman make you feel in a LTR in such a way that you can recognize her value when dating? How can you avoid cultural biases that pressure you to settle for someone for superficial reasons, and instead focus on the genuine feels this person brings/evoke to you? (This question is particularly relevant for those experiencing "oneitis.")

She has to be 1000% on board with my mission in life and accept me for who I am as a person. That is more important than crazy feels, although chemistry matters too.

It's where I am now. I don't miss going out and philandering because I'm in a great spot. I've been in relationships in the past where they weren't on board, or were jealous, or used subterfuge to undercut my mission. Pink slip for them. I will live the life I want with or without you.

So point is if you meet a girl who's behind you and in fact encourages you when things get tough, that's the secret sauce, for me anyway. When I see other women in the field now I'm not as tempted because 90% are just a set of holes with terrible attitudes.

PS helps if she's hot and several years younger, lol.

 

[Vanderdonck]

As for avoiding cultural biases, if that's a powerful factor, it takes some strength to push back. In reality it's just one big illusion though. If family or friends are pressuring you it's more their problem than yours. People are going to criticize and talk no matter what you do, so you might as well look out for No. 1. That's my job in life, take care of me so I can enjoy my time on this planet. Once you have ironclad acceptance of the self (and that your self is subject to change as you see fit), the rest is just background noise.