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Master Don Juan
I’m currently 22 and I’ve been in college for a few years now. Ever since I’ve first arrived here it has been one of my greatest hopes to improve my luck with women, after having no luck in that department in high school. However, right now there’s more than a few things working against me, and I still have never even had a steady girlfriend.
1. The girls in my classes aren’t usually very attractive or interesting. In addition, when in the past there have been girls in my classes who actually were, nothing ever got off the ground. Every time I would try to talk to them it just felt very forced, and they never reacted with any degree of interest. I would watch as other guys would chat the same girls up, and make them smile/laugh, etc.
2. My social circle is very small. I only hang out with the other members of my band and a few other musicians that I know, and the majority of what we end up doing is staying home, smoking/drinking, playing music, listening to records, and watching television. I almost never go to bars unless either my band or my friends' band is playing, and my band hardly plays gigs in town anymore anyway. I’m also the quiet one of us all, so when there are women at/after shows I get overlooked by them while my more talkative guitar player gets all the attention instead.
3. My interests and hobbies are mostly solitary, or downright uninteresting to most people. I play/listen to more obscure sorts of music (though most of the stuff my band has put out is in the prog/psychedelic rock vein), brew my own mead, read and translate old books written in various languages (I know German, Latin, and Old Norse in addition to English), and practice a martial art that almost no one has ever heard of.
4. The little experience I have hooking up with women has been completely reliant on either Tinder or chance encounters in which the woman in question approached me. That said, I go literal months without any sort of prospects. I have met one or two women who were very attractive, but circumstance never loaned itself to these flings lasting very long. I’ve gotten ditched by these hotter ones for somebody else after 1-2 weeks. The women I met who didn’t end up doing that were less attractive and somewhat weird, so it’s not like I would have kept going out with them anyway. The current count of girls I’ve done anything with stands at a mere seven, and I slept with a total of three of that number. In terms of experience, I am a few years behind the curve. My first kiss was when I was 19, and I only lost my virginity at the age of 21.
5. I don’t have much time left in college, I’ll be out of here by the end of the decade. In the off chance I did get a girlfriend before I graduated I would only be catching the tail end of things before graduation would tear us apart (If it's one thing I'm good at, it's catching things right at the tail end). Additionally I'll be in Austria all of next semester, so during that time I'd be confined to only short-term things as well. Based on this, it’s almost more worth it to just postpone trying to get a girlfriend until I graduate and subsequently move back to the city I grew up in. However, I’ve heard it said numerous times that it gets much more difficult to find suitable women to date after college. If I cannot make it happen now, how in the sam hell would I even be able to a few years down the road? Even at this age I have such little relationship experience, and I would never settle for less attractive women or single mothers. In this regard I’m kind of in a bad spot. I can try my luck while I’m still in school only to have the days of any potential relationship I may find myself in be severely numbered right out of the gate, or wait until after I graduate and have even more difficulty meeting women than already is the case now.
At this point I solely feel that the odds are stacked against me. I wanted my lack of success to change, but things have not gone as I have hoped. I have tried to improve myself, and have read many thick books suck as Models: Attract Women Through Honesty and the Book of Pook, but to no avail. Has anyone been in a similar scenario to my own? I want so much for conditions to improve, but I’m not sure I can even get out of this one. Not having much experience with women in years past has really come to haunt me, it seems.
1. The girls in my classes aren’t usually very attractive or interesting. In addition, when in the past there have been girls in my classes who actually were, nothing ever got off the ground. Every time I would try to talk to them it just felt very forced, and they never reacted with any degree of interest. I would watch as other guys would chat the same girls up, and make them smile/laugh, etc.
2. My social circle is very small. I only hang out with the other members of my band and a few other musicians that I know, and the majority of what we end up doing is staying home, smoking/drinking, playing music, listening to records, and watching television. I almost never go to bars unless either my band or my friends' band is playing, and my band hardly plays gigs in town anymore anyway. I’m also the quiet one of us all, so when there are women at/after shows I get overlooked by them while my more talkative guitar player gets all the attention instead.
3. My interests and hobbies are mostly solitary, or downright uninteresting to most people. I play/listen to more obscure sorts of music (though most of the stuff my band has put out is in the prog/psychedelic rock vein), brew my own mead, read and translate old books written in various languages (I know German, Latin, and Old Norse in addition to English), and practice a martial art that almost no one has ever heard of.
4. The little experience I have hooking up with women has been completely reliant on either Tinder or chance encounters in which the woman in question approached me. That said, I go literal months without any sort of prospects. I have met one or two women who were very attractive, but circumstance never loaned itself to these flings lasting very long. I’ve gotten ditched by these hotter ones for somebody else after 1-2 weeks. The women I met who didn’t end up doing that were less attractive and somewhat weird, so it’s not like I would have kept going out with them anyway. The current count of girls I’ve done anything with stands at a mere seven, and I slept with a total of three of that number. In terms of experience, I am a few years behind the curve. My first kiss was when I was 19, and I only lost my virginity at the age of 21.
5. I don’t have much time left in college, I’ll be out of here by the end of the decade. In the off chance I did get a girlfriend before I graduated I would only be catching the tail end of things before graduation would tear us apart (If it's one thing I'm good at, it's catching things right at the tail end). Additionally I'll be in Austria all of next semester, so during that time I'd be confined to only short-term things as well. Based on this, it’s almost more worth it to just postpone trying to get a girlfriend until I graduate and subsequently move back to the city I grew up in. However, I’ve heard it said numerous times that it gets much more difficult to find suitable women to date after college. If I cannot make it happen now, how in the sam hell would I even be able to a few years down the road? Even at this age I have such little relationship experience, and I would never settle for less attractive women or single mothers. In this regard I’m kind of in a bad spot. I can try my luck while I’m still in school only to have the days of any potential relationship I may find myself in be severely numbered right out of the gate, or wait until after I graduate and have even more difficulty meeting women than already is the case now.
At this point I solely feel that the odds are stacked against me. I wanted my lack of success to change, but things have not gone as I have hoped. I have tried to improve myself, and have read many thick books suck as Models: Attract Women Through Honesty and the Book of Pook, but to no avail. Has anyone been in a similar scenario to my own? I want so much for conditions to improve, but I’m not sure I can even get out of this one. Not having much experience with women in years past has really come to haunt me, it seems.