Women with Children(It's getting worse fellas)

[women haze]

hey fellow mature men I have 3 friends who have met women with children, and they are seriously considering starting a good thing with them.

Now I somewhat object dealing with a woman with children, and I had recieved a talking to that involved saying various things like

a. "It's not right to single out a woman just because she had a child, that child is apart of her...."

b. "You are getting older man Women with children will be more prevalent"

c."Why disregard a possible good thing with a woman because she has a kid"

etc

I am feeling like it is getting worse and I believe that a greater number of women past the age of 25, 26 will be single moms

Pretty soon us single men will have no choice as I see it.....whom are older in age to seriously consider a woman with child. Me personally I am not ready to stare down the eyes of a child who looks at me with resentment wondering where is her real daddy.....

Women with child and the things we as men have to do

I don't know guys....i just don't know......

 

[vatoloco]

Now I somewhat object dealing with a woman with children, and I had recieved a talking to that involved saying various things like...

Shaming 101

Pretty soon us single men will have no choice as I see it.....
I don't know guys....i just don't know......

I was having this problem. Good-looking women around my age who are single/divorced have MAJOR baggage. Be it kids, money issues, loose screws, uptightness, etc., etc., etc.

I had a choice. I decided to go younger. Much younger. Unspoiled.

 

[backbreaker]

When I was in AA, there was this chick that hung around me, pretty cute. I had two sponsors, a real sponsor and a female sponser who I just plain looked up to. It was her mission in life, to hook me up with the chick that hung around me. This chick had a kid (the cute girl), that she got while doing her thing being young and wreckless.

She would tell me (the older sponsor lady), there is nothing wrong with a woman with a kid. In response I told her, you are right there is not, i'm sure there are alot of single guys out there with kids that would love to shack up with her.

I think single dad's or dad's that have kids in divorce, you are being a hypocrite if you say you dont' date single mommies. But if you have no kids, you are dumber than sarah palin if you settle down with a woman with kids. Why? you can do better.

It was funny, every guy the girl hit on, had no kids, had no real baggage like an ex wife or anything. yet she had an ex husband and a baby, then wonders why no man, even though she was pretty cute, took her seriously.

 

[Warrior74]

I think single dad's or dad's that have kids in divorce, you are being a hypocrite if you say you dont' date single mommies.

LOL. ahhahahaha. I've heard that particular bit of shaming from women. Well YOU have a kid. It ain't the same. The same downsides apply weither you have a kid or not. Two weekends a month is not the same as a woman with kids. And guess what? It's even more drama and headaches. You get to deal with your issues and your kid AND her issues as well. Twice the fun. No sir. You are dead wrong on that one. Trust someone who has been there.

That being said. I date single moms. I just don't care to commit to one, or marry one. Hypocrite? Maybe. Honest with myself, absolutely.

 

[Powerlifter]

BB most AA places will tell a alcoholic not to date for at least a year or more and your telling us this sponsor was trying to hook you up with another AA member? Good God almighty how freakin' stupid is that? I am surprised most in that AA meeting didn't continue drinking after leaving that place or become worst.

Now I do believe if you don't have kids don't be a chump and fall head over heels over a woman who does just because she looks hot and if she has a kid run for the hills the kid will wreck the romance and sexual tension if you were lucky to have any in the first place. I speak this to would be chumps who have the save the ***** mindset and for anyone who has that desire and has no kids themselves save yourself the headaches period.

Go after women with no kids if you don't have kids and if you do have kids then find a woman who has kids and be a Brady Bunch or just spend plates and live in reality not in fantasy.

Powerlifter

When I was in AA, there was this chick that hung around me, pretty cute. I had two sponsors, a real sponsor and a female sponser who I just plain looked up to. It was her mission in life, to hook me up with the chick that hung around me. This chick had a kid (the cute girl), that she got while doing her thing being young and wreckless.

She would tell me (the older sponsor lady), there is nothing wrong with a woman with a kid. In response I told her, you are right there is not, i'm sure there are alot of single guys out there with kids that would love to shack up with her.

I think single dad's or dad's that have kids in divorce, you are being a hypocrite if you say you dont' date single mommies. But if you have no kids, you are dumber than sarah palin if you settle down with a woman with kids. Why? you can do better.

It was funny, every guy the girl hit on, had no kids, had no real baggage like an ex wife or anything. yet she had an ex husband and a baby, then wonders why no man, even though she was pretty cute, took her seriously.

 

[Powerlifter]

Double post.

Powerlifter

 

[Scaramouche]

Oops!!!

 

[Scaramouche]

I pressed the button twice...crazy

 

[KarmaSutra]

I do NOT date single Mothers.

Ever.

They're too much work and believe they're more entitled to happiness because she shat out a kid or five.

Single Mothers are an excellent source of one vitamin; Vitamin P. It's so remarkably easy to fvck single Mom's than any other female demographic. They can have all of the "expectation" their little heart's pitter-patter, but the reality is they're too energy spent from listening to whiny brats, and the hum of their Hitachi Magic wand, to care about anything than a hard, strong cornholing.

 

[mrRuckus]

I think single dad's or dad's that have kids in divorce, you are being a hypocrite if you say you dont' date single mommies. .

That's not what hypocrite means.

hyp·o·crite
–noun
1.
a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.
2.
a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, especially one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.



Single dads in this situation aren't doing those things. They just don't want more kids hangin around. Why double up the "pain?" (in quotes because dealing with your own kids is one thing, but another's kinda blows) Besides, I think it's better for single dads out there because women don't care as much that you have kids.

 

[Solomon]

I do NOT date single Mothers.

Ever.

They're too much work and believe they're more entitled to happiness because she shat out a kid or five.

Single Mothers are an excellent source of one vitamin; Vitamin P. It's so remarkably easy to fvck single Mom's than any other female demographic. They can have all of the "expectation" their little heart's pitter-patter, but the reality is they're too energy spent from listening to whiny brats, and the hum of their Hitachi Magic wand, to care about anything than a hard, strong cornholing.

I agree that single mothers are easier to smash but I also noticed that a lot of them will use their puzzy as a baragin chip to "trick" a guy into a relationship. I have no qualms of lying to a women to beat it up but single motehrs b.s. stipulation test my patience, so hence I don't even bother

 

[runner83]

I agree that single mothers are easier to smash but I also noticed that a lot of them will use their puzzy as a baragin chip to "trick" a guy into a relationship. I have no qualms of lying to a women to beat it up but single motehrs b.s. stipulation test my patience, so hence I don't even bother

Yes, best not to make a habit out of it. Short-term flings only.

And if you do, be freakin' careful and use protection like your life depends on it (because it does).

Why would you want to help bring up some other dude's kid?

 

[Strelok]

I see no problem with the kid especially since it's not his fault if his mother does crappy choices,he is probably the one who suffer the most to be fatherless and to see dozens of men "visiting" a place reserved to his father.

The problem is the woman who made crappy choices while "seeking the thrill" and the situation that comes in general,I'm talking about the dynamic.
Your instinct annoy you because you're not supposed to waste your resourches on someone else kid and the instinct of the kid cannot do anything but make him hostile toward you,especially if you are part of countless queue.

 

[Solomon]

Yes, best not to make a habit out of it. Short-term flings only.

And if you do, be freakin' careful and use protection like your life depends on it (because it does).

Why would you want to help bring up some other dude's kid?

Yup Im 27 and have no kids, and a lot of women find it shocking(espeically since im black) ironically this topic was the 2nd most viewed topic ever in my blog

On another note, what if the women was married and has kids through divorce? does that disqualify her? what if her "baby daddy" died?

Would it change some of you guys mind with "being" with her

 

[squirrels]

Pretty soon us single men will have no choice as I see it.....whom are older in age to seriously consider a woman with child. Me personally I am not ready to stare down the eyes of a child who looks at me with resentment wondering where is her real daddy.....

Us single men will ALWAYS have a choice. Don't let any woman tell you differently.

Now if a woman has a kid and her husband died or something like that, I couldn't hold that against her. I'd still be VERY careful, but if she was cool enough AND THE KID was cool enough, I wouldn't completely rule it out. It'd be "two strikes" right off the bat though. (notice I said "husband", not "baby-daddy", as in the marriage was successful prior to the accident)

These couples, though, where the girl gets knocked up because she had unprotected sex with some dude, or where they were married or shacked up together, had a kid, and decided to split either because of drama or because of it "not working out"...THAT IS BULLSH*T.

The fact that you had a dysfunctional relationship to begin with and were either too dumb or too careless to bring a CHILD into that dysfunction without any regard to the CHILD's feelings just screams "irresponsible" to me.

I'm tired of these goddam kids "playing house", going through the motions of getting married and breeding and THEN thinking about whether or not they've done the right thing instead of thinking out these major life decisions BEFOREHAND.

These kind of people ARE WHAT'S WRONG with postmodern society. They KNOW they're not comfortable with following these typical patterns in life, yet they go through with them anyway. If you get married and decide you f**ked up later, it's become more acceptable to just divorce and you can usually make a "clean break" sooner or later. If you BRING A CHILD into the world, IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU any more.

You f**k up your own life because you were too stupid to think about what you were doing before you did it, then you learn your lesson and move on. When you f**K up a CHILD'S life because you were too stupid to think about what you were doing, I don't want you in my life. I would take your child away from you and raise it MYSELF before I'd invite you into my life. (I have no inclination to do either...I am making a point)

 

[romangod]

I found this topic interesting when I first read it yesterday. I'll add my 2 cents after giving it some thought.

a. "It's not right to single out a woman just because she had a child, that child is apart of her...."

Like Solomon mentioned, it depends on the circumstances. If it was a one night stand when drunk as opposed to a child of a divorce I wouldn't go near her. It still boils down to the woman's character. All single mothers are not equal in my eyes.

b. "You are getting older man Women with children will be more prevalent"

This is correct. At my age I'm meeting mostly divorced women with kids. The good thing is that their kids are grown and on their own path. The mother is now more free to date and relate with a clear conscience.

c."Why disregard a possible good thing with a woman because she has a kid"

This part I totally agree with. Many of the divorced women I'm meeting are still very attractive and now have their heads on straight. They're in their late 30s and early 40s and aren't looking for a sugar daddy or an ego boost. They have their own jobs and new freedom. They'd just like some male company and a few laughs.



Personally, I know the women I hang with will have kids. That doesn't bother me. I've already decided that I don't plan on marrying. I won't say never, but at the moment it is not in my plans. I love my freedom. There are plenty of cool chicks out there and a lot of them have children. Don't discount them.


Cheers!

 

[zekko]

As I got older (approaching 30, or even 40), I used to worry about running out of women to date that didn't have any children. Yet, somehow I kept running into them.

By the time most women get to my age, their kids are grown up and out of the house. I assume this wouldn't be such a horrible thing in a DJ's mind? I haven"t dated any women my age so I couldn't tell you

Generally, I would stay away from women with kids, but I wouldn't make it a hard and fast rule. I wouldn't necessarily completely disqualify a woman with a child if she was cool, and I got along with her kid. She'd have to be pretty special though.

 

[squirrels]

However I would think that after a certain age it would be hard to find much else

Yeah...God forbid you actually have to put in time or work to find a good woman.



Yes, women without baggage are rare at the "mature man" age. I know you guys think that good women should just throw themselves out you so you don't have to do any work on the issue (after all, "you're the prize", right??), but with that attitude, all you will get is single-mom whales off of PoF who are as "tired of the games" (read: tired of putting in effort and feel entitled to have what they WANT served up to them on a silver platter) as you are.

You can have 'em. I'll hold out for a woman with enough decency not to bring a child into a dysfunctional household.

 

[Warrior74]

I agree that single mothers are easier to smash but I also noticed that a lot of them will use their puzzy as a baragin chip to "trick" a guy into a relationship.

Yup. That's why I tell them upfront that I'm not looking for anything serious. They do their best to convince me otherwise with some of the best sex ever. I treat them like a queen except I keep my distance and my backbone. Eventually they see I'm not coming on board to play daddy and they leave. That's the game. Rinse and repeat.

 

[zekko]

I know you guys think that good women should just throw themselves at you so you don't have to do any work on the issue

I do think that, actually. Doesnt' make it so, but I do think that

As I was saying before, even though I expected the number of childless women to disappear at a certain age, I still managed to find them (though I haven't been looking in recent years).

I was curious about this so I Googled it. Apparently the number of women who never reproduce is about 20%. A little higher than I would have thought. I've known some women who don't have kids because of "plumbing issues".
Another article I found from the UK said that one of of three women who are university graduates don't have children. They put off motherhood, and it just never happens.