Women who always RECIPROCATE but never INITIATE

[STR8UP]

What do you think about this kind of girl?

She welcomes your advances, yet makes no effort to initiate intimacy. She ONLY follows your lead.

Shyness? Social conditioning? What?

Personally I like for a woman to take it upon herself to start things once in a while. It's a turn on.

It's like you always have to wonder whether or not she's REALLY into you if you have to do all the work.

 

[ChevyLover]

Isn't that how most women are that aren't drunk though? I haven't been with too many chicks who do any initiating... one that was drunk I suppose...

 

[WatchMeWalk]

I think it has a lot more to do with social conditioning. People are rewarded for desirable behavior, so HBs are rewarded FOR DOING NOTHING!

 

[MDgood]

Depending on the girl I think it can be a combination of both shyness and social conditioning.

More "traditional" girls like to be pursued, they like the guy to take the lead. Shy girls have no choice, really. It's a real pain in the butt when they're both shy and traditional!!!

 

[STR8UP]

Isn't that how most women are that aren't drunk though? I haven't been with too many chicks who do any initiating... one that was drunk I suppose...

I'm talking about after you get to know them a bit and have established a comfort level with touching and stuff. Not that I expect them to pick ME up.

The one I'm referring to is not the shy type. Now that i think of it it's probably her traditional upbringing.

I did date a shy one one time....that was painful. On top of that she had VERY little experience in the sack. Dumped her two days before valentines day. I guess that was kinda fukked up.

 

[Art Love]

Most women seem to be like this, unless they are public freaks (most women are private freaks.)

Matter of fact I've had sex many time with one of the girls who still acts like this, she has never initiated anything, but does talk one hell of a game. You just gotta believe that if she was the man and you were the women she'd be making the moves on you.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Shyness..social conditioning?? a lil of both I'm sure.

The walls of sexual conditioning are comming down though. I remember 10 years ago, a girl who initiates oral sex could be considered a bad/slutty girl. Today, oral sex is passay and is accepted by all of society.

I think the younger the woman is, the less inhibitions she has.

-HQ

 

[Dee-Zy]

there's sumthin wrong in your title.

women always reciprocate and never initiate

put it this way

Girls that initiate are desperate.
Technicly - girls that initiate have confidence
If they are confident, they usually know they can get what they want therefore they don't need to initiate - they just attract.

as a general rule, girls that initiate - are NOT interested. Keep that in mind, I learned this the hard way.

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by -HPNOTIQ-
I think the younger the woman is, the less inhibitions she has.

-HQ

Dunno about that.

Always been the older ones that don't mind taking some of the initiative in my experience.

I suppose as long as she is giving you positive feedback you might as well suck it up and have your way with her.

Hey, if she isn't going to make known what she wants, you're just gonna have to TAKE whatever YOU want, right? Come to think of it that's a pretty good position to be in.

 

[payaya]

they arent sluts!

 

[marqZAL]

Sounds like you need to find a BAD girl or a nympho, which are very hard to come by, and its a matter of chance. I was dating a girl not too long ago who was a certified FREAK. This was my second expereince with a true freak. She would be grabbing my **** all the time. It didnt matter where we were a reasturant, dance club,or even the grocery store, her hand would find its way to my dvck. I ended up getting it on with her in a bathroom stall in a bar, mall parking lots in the middle of the afternoon. I ended up dumping her for another girl I was dating. I liked the normal girl more cause she was more girly. But there are times I still wish I had that freak around. She wanted dvck, and wanted to make you *** time and time again until you were raw.

 

[DankNuggs]

Good thread, happened to me this weekend. Besides the fact she turned out to be a clingy psycho, she had no initiative at all. I thought it was a major turnoff. I'm not looking for a skank, you just have to be capable of original thought

 

[Bonhomme]

It's like you always have to wonder whether or not she's REALLY into you if you have to do all the work.

Exactly. That's the easy way for her. No risk of her being knocked back.

Girls who are interested will often throw hints at you. It's difficult if they make you go out of your way to chase them. I've never gotten anywhere with a gal who was that difficult. They turned out not to be interested.

Any of you guys get through to a gal who practically made you chase her to get her?

 

[bugsquish]

I met this french-canadian chick in a club once. I caught her looking at me a couple of times, so i went to talk to her. She was quite aloof and showed me no interest, so I went away - but I could still tell she was looking. I kept going back and she kept refusing my advances and acting all disinterested. I was an AFC at the time, or I woulda nexted her (she wasnt that hot) - but I was out of my face so I didnt care . And then out of the blue she asked me back to her place for sex.

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Exactly. That's the easy way for her. No risk of her being knocked back.

Girls who are interested will often throw hints at you. It's difficult if they make you go out of your way to chase them. I've never gotten anywhere with a gal who was that difficult. They turned out not to be interested.

Any of you guys get through to a gal who practically made you chase her to get her?

Great observation.

If she doesn't do anything she doesn't expose herself to rejection.

This one showed up at my house 20 minutes early for our first date....so no, she isn't making me chase her or anything, the interest is there. At the club I grab her and move her close, all is fine. No resistance whatsoever when I sit close or kino.

We were sitting at my place with a group of her friends and mine. She did lean onto me when I put my arm behind her back and my hand on the side of her ass, then she moved her hand CLOSE to mine (barely brushing against...I guess that was the hint) a couple of times letting me massage her hands. But it's like you said, she doesn't want to take the chance of being rejected, especially this early on.