Most women I see that are over 35, attractive, and dating are focused on their careers. They have high standards and are not interested in locking down a man. If a woman wanted to lock down a guy in a relationship she would... there are plenty of fools out there willing to give women half their sh!t for female attention.
They are not easy to date because they really don't work for it, they go for younger guys and really use men like flesh and blood vibrators. I know a few that I see here and there and typically they will call me to go with them to some event because the need to show up with a man that is more age appropriate. One, early 40s,... she is a business celebrity of sorts in my city, everyone knows her. She calls me her "arm candy" she always invites me to fund raisers, social events, upper crust parties, because if she brought the dudes she usually hooks up with (20 something empty headed studs) she would be laughed out of town.