Women from your past suddenly becoming interested in you again

[MatureDJ]

I had this happen to me and an acquaintance of mine, and have read about it, so I think it is a popular meme.

The idea is that an old girlfriend who initiated a breakup way back when - when her sexual market value was high and she felt the need to see if she could do better, etc. - suddenly becomes interested in you, either by tracking you down, or meeting through a chance physical meeting, or nowadays via Facebook, etc. Typically this happens once she goes through a divorce (almost always because she initiated it for some stupid reason like she wasn't "feeling it", etc.) or becomes widowed.

In such a situation, the woman seems to have the idea that because she broke it off back then, that if you're available, she can easily put it back together. I suppose if a man is sexually frustrated at that point and considers women her age (which would be his age as well) - and her attractiveness to be what he should be shooting for, then he would go for it.

Me - I have a different attitude. First off, as I age, the age in women that I am interested in gets to be more & more younger than me, so that in and of itself would be a cause for no interest. But then I figure that I would somewhat be like a cuckold for allowing her to leave me during her best years, with me only getting the deteriorated leftovers. With this said, I suppose that if she were decent enough looking that I would have no problem with having a 1NS with her, I'd go for it - but I would not allow myself to be drawn in emotionally anymore than I would with a wh0re.

 

[fuko2007]

haha. i like this post. Im in my mid 20's and the girl that i was seeing is almost 40. She is quite the looker but i have not seen her in a while and my emotional connection with her has faded alot so she might not be that appealing to me anymore ..but any way she texted me the other day saying hi bc we passed each other driving. I texted back hey,...no reply. Lastnight she sends me a facebook message at 4:27 a.m. saying "nice pic". I didnt respond to that but it sounds to me as if she is either trying to see if i will talk to her again and maybe want to hang out/bang or she is playing mindgames. When we first started out we were nothing more than FB's so ive been pondering what her motive behind this is haha. But i have to agree with you sometimes they come back..but to hell with a relationship with them.

 

[The Duke]

Almost every single girl I've been with has tried to come back at some point. Some I dumped, the others dumped me. Some of them have made multiple attempts of reuniting over the years. Its actually quite comical.

One that stands out was a girl I will call "Tropic" who dumped me. She was very attractive(HB 9), tight curvy little body, olive skin, fake boobs, and fake hair who also happened to be quite narcissistic. She was mid 30's and had already been divorced twice. It was actually 3 divorces, but she didn't like to admit to the one and never volunteered that piece of info until I did a little internet search and confronted her on it.

I had a FAKE facebook account and kept tabs on her just for entertainment value. She had no clue. I'd monitor her facebook and keep up to date with her latest lovers. I'd watch all of her relationships start out, see the infatuation grow, hit their peak, and then see the abrupt decline exactly like ours did. It usually played out in about 4months. After each relationship ended, she would be single for about a month and find a new victim and start all over again. It was highly predictable.

Each time she would break up with whatever guy she was with I would start to get emails/texts wondering how i was doing. The first time I took the bait and we got back together for a brief stint. The 3rd, 4th, and 5th time she tried to get back together I had finally wised up. The more I rejected her, the harder she tried.

She was one of these types who lived for the thrill of a new relationship and is constantly seeking self-validation to keep her fragile ego intact. She is now close to 40 and all tho she is still hot, the wrinkles are starting to appear. She has finally realizing her sexual market value is on the decline so she conned some guy into marrying her. This will be her 4th marriage.

I saw her become infatuated with this new husband(Poor Guy) while they were still dating. It went just like all the others. They even broke up at some point and she went out and found a replacement shortly after. After that failed she went back to Poor Guy and married him within 3months. She became infatuated again and the infatuation has now tapered off. She has now closed her facebook which leads me to believe there is trouble behind the scenes. I predict she will be divorced at some point.

Her mother went thru life much like she has. Imagine that. Now her mother lives a lonely life single, wrinkled, and old. Her mother often mentions how she made some bad choices with men and has lived a life full of regrets. Her mom was a looker in her day as well.

Another thing that I found interesting was this girl goes to church from time to time and likes to put up a good front. She even told me one time that I was not close enough to god like she was! So I got to thinking about all of the cahk she has had in the 4years I've known her. I'm guessing she has had 16-20 men in that time. Wonder what God thinks about that? She puts on such a good show that you wouldn't ever suspect it. She will even try and make you feel guilty for all the women you have been with. She questioned me about std's. Basically she was just trying to paint me as the bad guy to make her self feel and look better. She never led on to all the men she had been with.

I hope some of you that read this can learn something about these types of girls. This girl was the hottest girl I had ever been with and I was pretty wrapped up in her. The good thing about her is I finally reached a point that a hot girl is no more special to me than and ugly one. It gives you a lot of power in all your relationships when you truly Stop letting them get away with bs just because they are hot and you want to make them happy. I thank that selfish manipulating skank for teaching me that.

 

[Alvafe]

well I don't see a reason to take back a girl who break up with you one time, if the first time failed what would change now?

@Fuko don't bother with her just keep ****ing her if you feel like if anyday she complain she feel cheap, find a replacement

@howiestern why lose time checking her life over and over? just move on

 

[WoodB]

Really enjoyed your post, Howiestern.

Getting back together with the ex never worked for me. First of all, I never had the desire to reconnect with anyone I dumped because all the ingredients that called for boot are still in place in some fashion. Thus, I have no desire to revisit the old battlefield.

For the ones who dumped me, yes, there are times when I got back together for all the wrong reasons - horny, lonely, still confused, etc.
But it never worked past the first month or two for the same reasons why it didn't work the first time.

 

[TheBrutalGourmet]

Howiestern, you pretty much described the woman I'm divorcing. I was a stooge. At least I can say she never, ever seems to look back. Always onto a new branch. One day regret is going to tumble down onto her and smother her.