women aren't attracted to men

speakeasy

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Don't know if somebody has posted this already but found this on craigslist and though it was quite interesting. Make of it what you will. Personally I agree about 90%.

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/pit/453035602.html


Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

A woman basically is a greedy materialistic prostitute. Although that sounds vulgar, it's true. She trades her physical self to buy into the success a man has created for himself.

As a man, I fall in love with how a woman is physically. I fall in love with simple parts of a woman. Like the way her hair falls around her face, the line of her neck, her shoulders. They way her ears might peek from her hair. Her eyelashes. The size and shape of her hands, her fingernails. The way she walks, the way she looks when she is tired or annoyed, the sound she makes when she sneezes, coughs, or cries. The way she sits in a chair. The way she breathes while experiencing different emotions. The way her lips move. A million little things.

Sure, a huge part of my attraction is mental, but the powerful seed of love that builds within me and crystallizes is based greatly on visual things that set off torrents of emotion and need.

It seems to me that women almost cannot think for themselves. Their estimates of worth are based on other peoples' estimates of worth. They don't really find an object beautiful on their own. The object becomes beautiful when other people let her know that it is beautiful.


I'm completely unable to reconcile the differences between men and women. It seems like success with women is equal to spending half of your life working to create a giant illusion, something vastly tiring and annoying, while sacrificing your own true self and your own interests. We construct our lives around nest-building. We're like male birds building nests and showing them off to attract mates. It's pathetic. Everything we do is to get women. It is a ****ing **** deal.

Someone needs to invent a drug which has no hormonal imbalance side-effects but is able to erase a man's sex drive and attraction to women. It would increase productivity rates to incredible heights. I'd be free and happy. I'd feel complete. I'd be able to concentrate on my biochemistry studying.
 

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speakeasy said:
Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

Good stuff man.
 

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yes, but it's not only women. It's people in general. If they perceive you as having higher value they will try to suck it from you.
 

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many men only have status, wealth, and power to offer. women who are constantly surrounded men like that may end up thinking that's what they want.

but truly charismatic guys are attractive, despite not having much of this. they're just so rare, most women never are able to get involved with guys like that.
 

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Friend_ofa_Friend said:
"women almost cannot think for themselves. Their estimates of worth are based on other peoples' estimates of worth. They don't really find an object beautiful on their own. The object becomes beautiful when other people let her know that it is beautiful"



That is so true, and so annoying, and stupid...why are they like that???
I'd say there are some women who fall outside of that mold. Some women are more unconventional than others and walk to the beat of their own drum. Girls from creative or artistic social circles, or girls that are unusually intellectual tend to not be like that. Or hippyish chics too of course...if that's your thing. But your typical status-seeking girl is more like the guy described.
 

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You know, this was written by some guy who doesn’t get women. The guy is essentially saying, “boo hoo, women aren’t attracted to me, They’re just stupid idiots that only go after the guys with money and popularity. Oh woe is me.” It’s the talk of a loser.

There are and have been women attracted to me, for as far as I can tell, by looks alone. No social proof, display of wealth or power, just the presence of myself, completely in contradiction to the OP.

Just the other day, I was out for a walk, wearing my coat and a knapsack. I stepped into a Taco Bell, mostly just to use their bathroom. As I walked through the door there was this woman, blonde hair, early 30’s, very pleasant face, thinish – one look and her eyes lit up, she squirmed around in her seat, becoming ever more skittish as I approached. She was very attracted to me and very surprised and delighted that I took an interest in her.

Women are attracted to men, real men that is.
 

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if you're going to get into a status battle with other men then you're going to lose, unless you really are extremely rich, handsome, etc.

if you are, i doubt you're on this board.

so we develop personalities instead. we become fun to talk to and be around, and then girls follow us around.

why do girls eat chocolate? why do girls do coke? because it makes them feel good. chocolate makes them fat and coke is dangerous, and yet it's that feeling that draws them to these substances.

become the guy that makes them feel good - makes them enjoy life, or have fun, or feel good about themselves - and no matter what your status, they will want to be around you.

THAT'S what this is all about.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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