Women are wierd!

[mahon83050]

I recently ran into this girl I used to know back in college. This girl used to have the hots(so I hear) for me a few years ago. I was in the mall and she came up to me. This girl used to be heavy and she lost some weight and maybe had some cosmetic surgery. Basically, she looked pretty good and I told her that she looked good (maybe once too many).

In conclusion, I asked for her e-mail (she was w/ a friend and I felt awkward going for the #) She gave me her business card and said, "Ooh, let me give you my cell number too! (wrote in on the back of the card). She then said, give me a call.....and then I left.

I called her 3 days later and left a message on her cell. ( I did not leave her my #) I then tried again two days later (which was last night) and left my number. She still has not called back. I do not really care, because my interest level is not that high. My point is, you can NEVER really tell with women if they like you are not. You may think you are "IN THERE" because of great body language, phone number with out asking (my case) etc. It just frustrates me that girls do this **** (can u call it indecisive?) Well, she still may call back, but I will try maybe ONE more time in a few days. If I get nothing, NEXT!!

 

[FlyGuy]

Don't forget that you have somewhat of a history with this chick. She could be pissed that you didn't give her the time of day back when she was a bit heavier and now is getting a power trip off of making you the pursuer. Or maybe she's out of town. I think you're probably right though, I bet she's just being flaky. You're definitely right - you can never tell based on the first impression. I've had more than a few girls that seemed to have high IL only to have them flake out on me later.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by FlyGuy
Don't forget that you have somewhat of a history with this chick. She could be pissed that you didn't give her the time of day back when she was a bit heavier and now is getting a power trip off of making you the pursuer. Or maybe she's out of town. I think you're probably right though, I bet she's just being flaky. You're definitely right - you can never tell based on the first impression. I've had more than a few girls that seemed to have high IL only to have them flake out on me later.

Yes, very good point FLYGUY! However, I do not know if SHE KNEW that I KNEW she had a thing for me. It does make perfect sense though, let me blow off this guy like he did to me. This will make her have the last laugh and feel good about herself. Like Louis and Copeland stated, it is ALL a numbers game.

 

[becker]

Interesting...has anyone had it go the other way where a girl just did not seem interested in you but it turned out that she actually was? Basically, what seemed like low IL, but later turned out to be high.

 

[Donjuanpablo]

I don't understand what having her friend there had to do with not asking for her number. You have to get over what people think of you and be a bit bolder in these situuations my friend.

 

[1hepcat]

Originally posted by Donjuanpablo
I don't understand what having her friend there had to do with not asking for her number. You have to get over what people think of you and be a bit bolder in these situuations my friend.

I couldn't agree more. If there's other people around, hell with 'em! Besides, if you do something wimpy like asking for e-mail, then you're doing something wimpy in front of multiple people. Why not do the gutsy thing instead? Maybe her friend would have got turned on by the fact that you had some serious cojones.

As far as compliments go, limit it to one per encounter! And don't linger on it. Just say hey you look nice and move on. Otherwise she'll think you're about ready to cream your jeans.

 

[Starman]

I find whenever I ask for a girls number in front of peoplel.I always get some lame response..

Take her to the side and ask her in private.

I say in this situation, the girl showed high IL to you then flaked because

1) She was using you as a confidence booster to herself (kinda like a collection of men who are pursuing her) women do this ALOT. even if they have no interest..they'll keep a guy around just because they feel "wanted"

2) She is BUSY..you should be BUSY too.

3) Out of sight , out of mind. A human phenomenon..when you see a girl..at that moment , you are interested..when she is gone..interest level goes down.

4) She is playing hard to get.