Woman that never believe what you say.

[Earhustler]

Hey its this woman that I really love and care about. I always be honest with her. When ever I say something to her she never believes me or have faith in what I say. I never got busted in a lie with her mainly because I never lie. She never calls me a lier but the statements she make after I explain something to her indicates that she dosnt belive me. Example: We were on the phone one day ( I have sprint so I get lots of dropped calls ) well when the call dropped I decided to use the rest room to release my self while in the rest room she called four straight times but I didnt answer because I was releasing my self. once out of the rest room i called back and she said what are you doing i called you four times and you didnt answer the phone I told her I was in the rest room releasing my self.( Her Responce was ) Yeah right------For twenty minutes. no one stays in the rest room that long. That statement means she dosnt believe me I dont care what anyone says. These type of things happen every time I say something. She never has any faith in anything I say. It could be something small or something big. She says she love me everyday and she knows I love her. But im sick of telling the truth and keeping it real all the time when she dont believe me. Is there somethng im doing wrong or is there a problem with her maby shes guilty of something that is the only thing I can think of. please help me out on this people Im willing to try or do anything.

 

[junglist]

Relationships are founded on mutual trust. Find out why she doesn't trust you - she can't deny that she doesn't, and from you've said, justify it either. If you can't work this out to YOUR satisfaction, NEXT her.

 

[Earhustler]

I asked her why she dosnt trust me she says she dont know.

 

[CRooK]

Originally posted by Earhustler
I asked her why she dosnt trust me she says she dont know.

Look, if you guys don't trust eachother, then it's basically over. Don't try to make her understand either. I just broke up with my GF of 8 months because of trust issue. I've never trusted her from the start. I guess you can say my case was different because i was the one who didn't trust her. No trust = NO LOVE.

 

[junglist]

Ever notice how chicks don't make sense? Well, yours is a perfect example. Girls act on the basis of their emotions, then rationalise their actions after the fact. Hence, arguments in which their logic is demonstrated to be massively flawed, yet they persist nevertheless b/c they have convinced themselves. They're "right" b/c it feels "right" to them. Yes, they're nuts, but that's just how it is.

So, it seems to me that she's got some emotional issues. But she's not THAT fuct. At least she doesn't argue with you incessently on the basis of absurdities and inconsistencies. You need to decide whether she's worth working this out with. But bear in mind: it's not your responsibility to prove your trustworthiness b/c you haven't done ****. She's the one with the problems - you can be there as she works them out, preferably after having agreed to stop accusing you of ****, or you can next her. It's your choice.

Do what's best for you. Are you happy with the relationship? Notice I didn't ask if you're happy with her. These are different things. If the relationship gives you more pleasure than pain and seems workable, go for it - if not, leave her.

 

[Earhustler]

Im happy with her the relationship and everything. she's really a great girl. Im just was sick of being honest and she not believing me. so I came here to get answers to see if any one else had ever been through anything like this before. And your right it is her problem but I want to help her out with it but it seems as I cant figure out what to do. When I asked her the question do she trust me she said she dont know. That istantly let me know that she dosnt trust me because if she did we all know her answer would be Why are you asking me that I trust you or she would just say yes. Right or wrong.