Woman talking about other men.

[Demodulate]

I have this girl I am interested in, and she is continously talking about this other guy that will not leave her alone.

He is constantly calling and texting her, telling her to come over. telling her he loves her and wants to be with her. When she doesnt comply he calls her all sorts of ****.. She tells me shes never talking to him again, etc.. then a few days later he comes back up in convo.. same **** again..

Guy is complete a AFC as far as I can tell..

3 weeks ago she would make no mention of him.. and now its like every time the dude is fighting with her shes calling me to talk about..

this weekend we went out, and he freaked out on her.. we made out in the parking lot before she went home.. the next day shes like im never talking to him again.. then last night shes like "blah blah blah" talked to him today, cause he was being nice..

The girls mom is even making fun of this guy.. I guess they where having a good laugh about it last night before she called me.




So why does she keep bringing this loser up to me?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If the guy's a loser why should you care? Just preoccupy her mind with other things.

 

[Chrispy]

i have been in this situation years ago. back then i was a grumpy afc. As such, I lacked the confidence to compete, but at the same time I thought the girl had some esteem/attention seeking wh00re issues.

Yrs later i found this girl still had that, after marriage. Needless to say that marriage came into problems!

 

[Demodulate]

I am not trying to compete with this guy..

why would I?

anyway the girl is 22 the loser isnt much older..

 

[Colossus]

So why does she keep bringing this loser up to me?

Because you keep allowing it. Tell her you dont have time for this nonsense. I would just say "look, I like you a lot, but frankly this is annoying. We can hang out when you get this situation squared away."

That's it. Your a grown-ass man. She'll get the picture.

 

[jophil28]

So why does she keep bringing this loser up to me?

You really want to hear the obvious?

OK- it goes something like this.
She is trying to create a rivalry between you and the other guy by telling you that she is DESIRED by another guy who is soooooooo hot for her that he is harrassing her and pestering her to the point of stalking.
She is playing him against you in order to 'prize' herself and provoke you into chasing her, fawning and worshipping her. If you do, you give her most of the power in this relationship. She understands (as most wonmen do ) how to play the jealousy card and she is playing it.
Women do this habitually..

Any commodity "in demand" attracts a higher price than it would from only one buyer.

Secondly - this is all DRAMA - the female drug of choice.
You are playing the leading male part in her little personal soap.

If she really wanted this guy to go away she could make that happen in two seconds flat by telling him DIRECTLY to quit harrassing her or she will take this situation to the cops.
SHe WANTS you to know that he is harrassing her also to try to trigger off your Capt Save a Ho mentality. Why? so she can manipulate you into becoming a partner in her in her drama and hopefully you will volunteer to protect her . The problem with that is that whenevr she wants you to do some "protecting" to feed her need for ATTENTION she will pull the other guy back in her life and tell you that he is back again and bothering her.

Ya dig ?

What do you do about it ? Read the post above from Colossus. His advice is exactly my advice.

 

[Demodulate]

Thanks guys..

 

[LoneSilver]

Most girls this age are drama...The 23 year old I hang out with now and then doesn't bring other guys up unless it's her dad or brothers a totally different thing plus she is mature beyond her years as she has a small business of her own which attracted me to her. I was really impressed by her as this babe has her own money has a good head on her shoulders and is successful at what she does and at such a young age plus I was drawn to her firm butt and cute little titties the last thing I needed at my age is a air head.

You've got some great advice from posters on here take it or leave it and save yourself the headaches.

LoneSilver

 

[STR8UP]

You really want to hear the obvious?

OK- it goes something like this.
She is trying to create a rivalry between you and the other guy by telling you that she is DESIRED by another guy who is soooooooo hot for her that he is harrassing her and pestering her to the point of stalking.

Yea, one of my "plates" is doing the same thing. She says to me "I'm so tired of all these guys coming up to me and telling me how hot I am. I want a guy to notice me for OTHER things."

Stuff like that sends a couple of messages, one being that she is desired, and she wants you to know that.

On the flip side of the coin, you gotta be careful cause a woman with HIGH interest won't risk losing you by pulling something like this. It's a high risk move, and she's only going to pull that card if she's lukewarm about you or if she has plenty in the pipeline.

 

[decades]

there will Always be another guy in the picture she is trying to get rid of. and you will Always be made aware of it. that's going to be your life if you choose this "prize" to hang out with. Guess what? you know that AFC chump she talks about? Every day, she talks to him about how you are so "into her" that you just can't leave her alone.

 

[Demodulate]

there will Always be another guy in the picture she is trying to get rid of. and you will Always be made aware of it. that's going to be your life if you choose this "prize" to hang out with. Guess what? you know that AFC chump she talks about? Every day, she talks to him about how you are so "into her" that you just can't leave her alone.

I doubt shes telling the other dude I am so into her.. She knows im just there for her body, lol..

so whatever..

she wants to hang out tonight.. well see what happens.. if she brings the dude up again, ill tell her whats up..

 

[Nelford]

Why do you care, she is chilling with you. I am dating a girl that does that and I pay it no mind because she soon realized that I don't care and change the subject.

 

[SharpGame]

If the guy's a loser why so you care? Just preoccupy her mind with other things.

I agree with this. If she brings it up just change the subject. Keep the frame. You're not one of her girlfriends.

--Dramatization--

AFC
Girl: I can't believe how [insert sucky situation here]!
AFC: Really? How can I serve you to make your world better?

DJ
Girl: I can't believe how [insert sucky situation here]!
DJ: That's too bad, but leave that sh!t at the door. Welcome to MY reality.

 

[Demodulate]

Wow... she put me through it tonight..

met up at a bar after work.. everything was fine.. her friend wants to switch locations, so we all agree go to go another bar.

before I get there she calls to say the other guy is going to meet us there.. wtf.. she says he is just a friend, yadda yadda yadda..

anyway.. I order some food.. she shows up.. she all over me.. saying lets make this guy jealous, etc..

he shows up, and he is clearly not happy.. trys to get a kiss.. she says no.. anyway.. im actually starting to get pissed.. and a friend of mine texts me.. says he sees my car.. I was like **** this **** test.. pay for my dinner and just leave, after telling her I dont play these games... shes mad now.

say whats up to my boy.. talk for a few, anyway.. I walk back by the bar, and her friend is outside.. I am talking to her about it.. and she says she cant believe she pulled this stunt..i was like whatever.. her choice..

anyway the friend texted the girl to come outside.. she does and drags the guy along.. she doesnt know im out side. shes like what are you doing here.. I thought you left. I was like I am.. anyway the dude is like "do you smell that stench, smells like BO".. trying to neg me I think.

Anyway my game goes out the window. The girl comes around to the side of the bar I am on and wraps her arms around me.. starts talking in my ear, yadda yadda yadda.. she can already read what I am about to do.. please leave.. I dont want you to fight him. I say fine and walk back to my car. put the **** from my pockets in the car, and walk back to the bar.

I make a B line for the guy, and the girls friend starts in on him.. you need to leave. hes like can I finish my drink.. shes like no.. you need to fvcking leave now.. nobody wants you hear.. "we where all having fun before you came, she wouldnt say it, but she doesnt want you here"

all this time the other girls has her arms wrapped around me from behind and is looking at him.. she doesnt say a peep to him.. the guy slams his drink and walks off..


so I almost beat the guys head in.. I train 4 days a week in muay thai.. I was itching to pound his head in. both the girls knew it.

I also totally lost my cool over a girl I am not really even seeing.

we spent the better part of an hour talking in the parking lot, I told her if she ever played a game like that again.. I wouldnt be back.. we made out, she told me she loved me in a text on my drive home...

I came home and puked..


WTF just happened...

 

[( . )( . )]

So why does she keep bringing this loser up to me?

WTF just happened...

Your join date says FEB 2003 ..... Are you serious?

A whole bunch of drama of the retards just went down, and your the latest King of it sitting atop spastic castle with a sh!t eating look of total stupidity.

Welcome to HER world bozo.


Real question is wtf is this doing in the mature section.

 

[decades]

dude you may know how to beat innocent people down, but you're a tool. she is USING you to make the other guy jealous and using him to make you jealous. Now she isn't just telling you about him she is putting him right in your face. You're the chump. "let's make this guy jealous". I told you this yesterday but of course you didn't "get it". This guy is NOT GOING AWAY. If he did by some miracle, go away, there would be another guy rolled in pronto, to replace him, for the sole purpose of messing with your mind and creating drama for this attention starved user.

So you wanted to beat the guy down whose only "crime" is that he is a poor sucker just like you who is being used by the A-hor? I told you. This is going to be your life if you hang out with this Triple A grade Attention hor. She doesn't believe your empty threats that you would leave if she did it again. Your threats are weak and so are you because you just accept her making you look like a chump.

 

[Demodulate]

sigh...

I did leave.. her friend snared me back in as I was walking back to my car..

anyway.. your all right..

 

[mrRuckus]

You beat up guys because they say you smell?

What are you, king of the playground?

What you smell of is mental weakness.

 

[Demodulate]

You beat up guys because they say you smell?

What are you, king of the playground?

What you smell of is mental weakness.

lol..

ouch..

I admit it.. I lost my cool.. thankfully I didnt touch the dude...

what else can I do.. it happened..

 

[KarmaSutra]

33 year old guys don't say "like" after every third word.

I call shenanigans on you and this whole thread is a unique example of how boys act when they haven't been ritually murdered then reborn as men.