WIP-FR: Building Rapport (and using it)

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Discovering my need to meet many new people, combined with a day that doesn't start until 6:00pm, I decided to venture out and get things done. My laundry needed a landromat run. Walmart had my socks, my latest copy of Maxim (because hey! It's a cool mag), socks, underwear....Antifreeze and WishyWashy Fluid.

Awesome. Went over to the mall to pick up two more shirts and here's where this begins.

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I found a sunglass booth, you know the ones that span a third of the width of the big halls in the mall? Yeah, one of those. I tried on a few sunglasses, and noticed the booth was unoccupied. Sure thing, kept trying to find a pair, and I had one in my hand and the girl that was running it came back. Solid 8/10, a real cutie. I thumbed around a little bit more, and we made EC, and I got her to start helping me find two pairs of sunglasses that work for me.

So, I run very little chitchat (very odd for me, seeing how I'm a high-energy chatterbox), little bits about sunglasses and stuff, and she dropped the 'I can't find a pair of sunglasses for me'. Well I be damned if I didn't help her out now. So, we spent a good 10 minutes helping each other out, testing all of her sunglasses she was selling. I found my two pretty quickly, and spent the better part of 10 more minutes helping her find hers. All in good spirits, I finally found the pair for her. Sweeet!

So, I told her to buy her pair, and she said she was broke. I asked her why, and she says bills. I say what ones, she says rent...and bills. I say, so what about clothes? Haha, she says she really wanted to shop for clothes. Well, I just about set this up, so I finish signing my receipt and ask her when she's off. She says she's been on since 9am, works until 9pm, I'm like ouch! But, I ask her for her number so we could go shopping, she says she dropped it in the snow, or lost it or something, BUT she suggests email. (And I ain't no dummy to see this as a lack of interest, see end notes) Fine, she also says she works almost everyday if I wanted to visit her, and I leave.

Round two, I had to go to the furniture store to get my table delivery date set, so I head out there, and head in. The girl that likes to help me (and I have her email) isn't there, and the manager there says she's around...thinks she went out for a smoke. Well, I head out the store, and look at the vehicles parked. She's sitting in her van, and I walk on over and she motions to get in. Bummed a smoke (Ima bum :D) and asked her what's up. She says she's been busy and stuff, getting ready to move because she's gone up in her job, (so..a city 40 minutes away), but she says she's going back to school in September so she'll probably keep her place here too. Asked her what the hell was in her car (aside from empty beer bottles, blankets, etc), she says ex-fiance's towel from the summer last year, whatever else is there. I'm like, what! She believed she could love him and marry, but she found out she couldn't.

Mmhmm, off that topic, we headed in to get my date sorted out, and we do that (it seems things go wrong when I appear, because she always has to call the other store for help with me), and get that finished. She says to shoot her an email about going out next week. Sweet.

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End Notes.
Feel free to raise your hand if you believe HBSunGlasses has no interest. Now, out of the people that didn't identify that they are in fact, retards, raise your hands if you believe she's giving me signs of interest by suggesting herself email. Thank you.

And...the HBFurniture girl, prior established rapport is running that show, I'm just building on it now :)

I would of set up dates for tonight, but I work all weekend. The joys of life, lol.

More to follow as I set up the dates.
 

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And here's an except of a convo I just had with the same girl that dropped her phone in the snow.
HBSunGlasses: where do you work?
Moi: I do [blah], and I deliver food
HBSunGlasses: oooh i see... do u like it?
Moi: Which one?
HBSunGlasses: both
Moi: Well, [blah] is pretty good, I met a lot of people, I get to do things I don't normally do, and delivery is a way to kill time and have a little bit of extra cash (and it's also a slack job!!).
HBSunGlasses: thats pretty cool.. seeems like a good job to have
Moi: It is.
Moi: I can actually take people along with me for delivery, but my friend bails on me all the time
HBSunGlasses: aww that sucks.. well i'd go if i wasn't working all the time
Moi: That's very sweet of you! *hugs*
HBSunGlasses: :D
I just set it up on purpose and she hooks herself. Not bad. Also, notice (if you can) that I'm retaining my high energy state with her, and I also drop compliments.

HMMM...

More to follow as I run with this, off to [blah] (yes, I edited it out) job! :D
 

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Updates:
HBFurniture is offically a cold case. She moved, not a response though MSN or email, but she's always been a pain to get ahold of. Bah. Maybe she'll go warm again in the future.

HBSunGlasses however, has counter-offered my suggestion of doing something this afternoon with a Sunday possibity of a coffee or something. Maybe...just maybe...muhahaha.
 

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She says it's still on.
She also says she'd be happy to see me tomorrow night if we run into each other.
Sweeet.
 

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And as expected, she didn't come on MSN to let me know what was going on. So, a flake, (or passive memory loss, OR lack of knowledge of turning on zee computer)! :D

Not cold yet, I can still drop in on her and reset another day.
 

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Man....brutal.

She's impossible to get ahold of, but she's talking today. Anyways, seems like she wants a coffee date, and a job riding shotgun doing deliveries with me..


Mmmk. Looks like the coffee date is tomorrow, but I know delivery will be dead. Bah.
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Seems like she remembers my inital sarge, and...

Interest level at this point...it's hard to tell. I'll say it's existant, but not any crazy level. Fvck I hate no contact.

-So I introduced the Point system, she got 1 point for not taking the incentive to call me cute, and what does she do, she gives me 5 points...

That, and I'm running the secret I have that she can't find out, so she started going nuts, asking questions. She passes the first test when she says she has no one to tell. More tests to follow.

Ohh...qualification, nice.

Damn routines.
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Bah, looks like I'm teethering on geting friended, nothing online is working real well. Thank god she came up with the coffee idea for tomorrow, I'll need the person to person contact to turn this around.

Ohh..and I got her Facebook. At least she's got some hot friends....
 
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Last night, flake. I knew my gut was feeling rather poorly yesterday.

Opened a few girls, but nothing solid, I must of been missing my touch last night.

This one's cold.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Hmm, this chick is a odd one.

I got up way too early today (730), and I wandered on the computer and shes on. I shoot her a hey, and she asks me if I'm working today....and asks me if she can tag along.


Who's got opinions, because this makes her extremely hard to read for interest. Bah...I'll probably have to run game on her.
 

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What's wrong with running game on her? It makes you a better player (not in the PUA sense), right?

Besides, the fun is in the chase. If only Queen's girls let me chase them instead of macing me...
 

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There's nothing wrong with game. I shouldn't be wondering why she asked out of the blue, instead, I should be focusing on the present, what am I going to do about it.

Run game. Period. As with the C&E theory, chance is completely random, and the next one is infinitely impossible to determine when, so embrace the current and hope for the next.

:D
 

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So, I walk in about 15 minutes early (didn't realize..) and walked up to her, and I thought for a second 'holy shyt, she's hotter then I remembered'. She's a solid 8, cross over to a 9 with her wicked personality, a touch taller then me and light brunette hair. Yes! That thought passed off quickly as I started conversation with her, she asked me about music, and let me listen to her mp3 player and cycle though the songs as her shift time wound down. I have to say that this is one of the really cute girls with a brain, I'm amazed.

So her relief comes, and we hit the photography shop (because I just got my hands on a 35mm camera), and I buy some batteries and film. Good times, she seems very inclined to do delivery with me, a double good. We get in the car, let her talk on the radio (she needs to speak louder) and we hit the Timmies nearby for mine and her large triple triples (she was startled that I could remember that far back). We got those and I show her my new camera, and loaded the film and took a picture of her (unfortunely, I'm a 35mm noob, and didn't load the film right, unknown to her..). And I get my first call, so I blow half way across the city (after assuring myself she didn't mind a little nuts driver), and get the first delivery down range. She's asking me questions about everything, delivery, me, etc. Gets to talk on the radio, kino here and there, nothing too fancy.

We do a resturant where her friend works, so she came in and chatted to her quickly, and I do the delivery and oddly enough, I get the call to call the resturant back.....and her friend if off work and wants to tag along. Ahhh...why not? (remember, end state is not a focus) So we nip over and pick her up, and she starts asking me questions. I find out she just got robbed (that sucks), and that she lives with her boyfriend. She's also a HB8, and a little more flirty. Anyways, between the bathroom break, the pickup order of food and me having to leave them to catch an order (TakenHB was taken aback at how I was leaving her, and how I did a back turn when she said she doesn't eat pasta (CLASSIC), and I offered her a hug, she opens her arms but doesn't move, I move HALFWAY (key), she stays there, I take her arm and pull her in for the hug. (DHV via KINO to TakenGirl). They hit the washroom again as we await the pickup orders and I had to take off to catch 2 more orders and leave them at resutrant number 1. Picked them up right after and drove my nuts off to get my delivery off.

They did a few deliveries too, and then they wanted to call it quits around 8, so I drove them home and booted them out. HBSunglasses AND HBTaken want to do this again (especially HBSunglasses), and I suspect that since HBTaken tried feeling me out and I didn't go stupid...they might be talking...and we all know how girls are when a valuble guy comes along. Hopefully this is the case, but I'm still going to roll this the way I always roll things.

I guess this is now back to Warm :D
 

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lol.

So to update tonight, she came along again, picked her up around 8 tonight because she had a few things to do. She said she'd call, and she called (as compared to not calling or cancelling, so we got a + sign).

Because rapport needs a build, I started conversation to get to know each other, (like where we were born, what we did today, and I intruded onto the past relationship conversation). Now, a lot of you are going to think, no! Never talk about past relationships! Guess what, shut the fvck up and listen. She asked me about my ex, and I explained my ex to her, how long we dated, crap like that. Turning it over to her, she wasn't comfortable talking about it. Alright, tried a different approach, and she tells me guys are *******s (hmm...), and that she'd rather be friends then date guys.

There is a KEY KEY NOTE here, and it's not that it's a LJBF stance directed at me, rather, it is indirect information as to her dating stance. She comfirmed yesterday that she was single, and thus the ******* comment and would rather just be friends with guys opens up a door that I'm going to abuse. She is looking for the right guy, or rather, a non-******* to catch her. The way I asked about it, completely under the radar. I haven't made any signs of...interest, but I'm under the radar otherwise.

Other notes to add.
For a HB8, she is quite tense. I noticed that her sitting stance is tight and closed in (and that's probably due to her not being a totally open person (hence...the not wanting to talk about exes, and also, I haven't gotten her completely comfortable with me). She wants to keep working, so I'm going to continue to use comfort kino (Yes, there is such a thing), so Hugs, Hands, etc, and I'm going to get her more comfortable talking and acting with me, and finally, I'm going to find out what makes her tick (ie: massive attraction), and well, I think it has to do with acting just a touch nice enough to make her wonder.

At least, that's the plan here. As for interest in general, she called me back, and wants to keep helping me out with the delivery, so I'm off to a start. Really got to crack that bubble of comort for her....

- She's also living solo.
- If she's with me almost every night....lonely(ish) with guys and girls
- She hasn't driven, EVER.
- Her 19th birthday is next Thursday.

Driving = Kino + Tenseness Knockdown

This will be fun. Hoping for the complete crack of emotion and her wanting me, but I'll more then settle for the social proof and her company she'll bring. (work is already like, WHAT?!), and she's coming to my party next week...so...another giant step of social proof.

Stay tuned, this could get interesting.
 

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Ohh, here's an update.

It looks like I got some interest. Any girl that can hang out with me for 11 hours (and that is a feat indeed..), and wants to do it again, as much as possible, Yeah.

Anyways, she's warming up to me, cracking jokes, talking, met the whole work peoples. She wanted to learn how to drive (how the fvck a 19 year old has never touched a steering wheel...I dont' know). Nonetheless, I gave her control of the car and let her shoot around the mall. She loved it and wants to do it again. Sheesh. Novelites -_-

Her Birthday is Thursday, and I booked the day off so I could introduce her to a bar or pub (hopefully, backup is to go have a beer at the other work). Getting her a fleece blanket (for she gets cold easily), and a driver's handbook. Work is shifting to a 3am close time, so I want her to be somewhat capable of driving so I can sleep so I can be functional at my other work when I pick up contracts.

That, and we discovered we're both part blonde. Mmmmhmm good.

As for attraction, I ain't doing sweet **** all. A little bit of Kino, some jokes, a few other things, but I'm not making a solid move on easily the hottest chick in my hands. Why? Because social proof will blow the flood gates open, in between work, and my kegger next Saturday, people will be asking, a few girls will probably end up trying to play hookup, so I don't need to do anything except look cool.

Remember, End State is irrevelent. She'd make a wicked girlfriend, but an awesome friend. I don't care where it ends up.

Adios for now. Another update...sometime! :D
 

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hmm, I'm intrigued by your willingness to keep chasing after a girl who seems so inconsistent. I usually don't tolerate flaking whatsoever. I'll stay tuned to see how this turns out.
 

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I'm not chasing her now. SHE is calling me to see when I'm ready to do delivery. SHE is the one that doesn't mind seeing me for ungodly amounts of a day, and SHE is the one that wants to do this as much as possible.

No chase involved.
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The best part is, I'm not making moves. Work assumes we're together, so they get on my case about me being whipped and everything (right..), and I already have a few friends that will raise a few eyebrows when they see this smoking hot hunnie, and surely will be asking about. Social proof at it's finest.

On that note though, I am making suitable moves. She hasn't had a guy treat her properly, and not in the normal AFC self, but as someone that will hold ground, that will not step down in the face of fear (her), presents that touch of ****iness, but still able to not be an idiot about it. Do I care where this ends up. Not really. I'd like to date her, her personality is almost impossibly in perfect alignment with mine, she's hot to boot, but on the other hand, she's good company.

Meh :)
 

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To update...
She was with me every night until she took a few days off (yesterday, today (THURSDAY)) to catch up with life a little (laundry, etc). Starting to warm up to me. Found out she has never touched a vehicle in her life, so I let her shoot around the mall parking lot. Other small things, such as a bit more teasing between us, more talk, etc. Nothing too majorly noteworthy.

Tonight was her birthday, so I called her up to chat with her, she's got two dinners, and her friends are taking her out, but nonetheless, wished her a HBD and let her do the rest of her work. Says she might work tomorrow, and I thought of a little present for her.
- A blanket, for she complains of the cold
- And a driver's manual.

Stupid Simple Cheap. :)

That's about it, aside from the fact I need to really control the err... she's not around thoughts... going slightly stupid by myself.
 
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