Windows of Opportunity

[guitaronfire411]

Help With Windows of Opportunity

Do they even exist? I've read countless stories of guys approaching a girl that they expressed sexual interest in a helluva long time later and they can get a date.

Does the individual girl and her attitude affect the window of opportunity significantly?

Thanks in advance.

 

[PRMoon]

Sure there are windows of opportunity that open and close with the passing of time. Not just for dating but for life itself when it comes to opporunities to advance. Recognizing these windows is crucial for advancement in all aspects.

 

[Socialreject]

Indeed...

Infact, recognising these windows of opertunity is CRUCIAL to your game. You can't just force your way into a womans heart. You have to watch for the small frames of time in which she opens her heart and you can slowly move in there.

There are windows for everything going from the first encounter to the first kiss to sexually charging the conversation...

The clue is to look for signals, things she says, her body language etc. If you want to kiss a woman and make it seem like it 'just happened'. Taking steps at the right time is very important, if not it makes you seem clumbsy, perhaps you will come on to strong and scare her off.

Charging in isn't always the best approach. It's better to charge in after a minimal amount of confirmation!

And yeah ofcourse it's an individual thing. Women ARE individuals after all! Some women will be ready for a kiss very fast, or for a shag. Others won't. Being alienated in an interaction because you're thinking tomuch of your gameplan or strategy is the perfect way to kill any chemistry. Be THERE, at that time and place, tur up the fire, see how she reacts, have your next move depend on her reaction.

ex. You are looking for a window to kiss her. It doesn't come and you decide to charge in anyways, she might let you but you are overwhelming her... if you move the conversation in a sexual direction at this point you are more than likely going to scare her off!

 

[guitaronfire411]

It's been a week since we last talked, and normally we see each other at least once or twice when I go to her work (it's a gym). I came on a bit strong at first, so this break in time might be a good thing.

If I don't see her by Wednesday should I phone her to let her know that I've been really busy lately (the truth)? Instead of counter-offering with a different day for a date, she left it at, 'I still want to talk to you the next time you come in." (We haven't built up rapport yet; I tried establishing my sexuality first.)

That doesn't appear to be high interest to me, but then again, I find she's harder to decipher than any other girl I've ever met.

 

[guitaronfire411]

It seems like this has been forgotten in lieu of the many new posts. Any input would be appreciated.

Mods, I won't bump this again.

 

[So pimp its scary]

I'm not sure exactly how you mean 'windows of opportunity', but I'll try and answer as completely as possible, as I've seen in my experience. Unfortunately I'll have to use examples.

In the clubs, you spot a girl sitting solo that looks like she's fishing (waiting to be approached), your window of opportunity is about as long as she is sitting alone.

If she's talking with friends, the window of opportunity is any lull in the conversation.

If your waiting at a bus stop and you see her, your window is about 5-10 seconds after she notices you checking her out. OR, if you see her repeatedly at the same busstop, that chance can be taken more or less any day... sooner rather than later is better.

If you're turning a friend into a lover, the window of opportunity is the moment that the sexual tension between the both of you is raised.

What you should be more concerned about however, is taking the chance AS SOON AS YOU SEE IT!!! Hesitation never got any guy anywhere...