Will this chick do the smart thing?

[Deep Dish]

Today I bumped into an old female friend of mine, whom I hadn't seen in almost a year and hadn't talked to for six months longer. When I was talking to her, which was very fun, her interest in me seemed through the roof. Laughing with many things I said, even though I didn't mean to be funny; constantly looking at me with 'warm eyes', smiling. I even stuck around longer than I had intended, simply because things were going so fun, though I did cut things off after about ten minutes. This is the same woman who I mentioned in the 'Book of Woman', of blowing me off.

At the end I gave her my e-mail address, because I don't want to lose contact with her, and to put the ball in her court, as I have no intentions of romantically pursuing her, again. At least not anytime soon.

Now here's the thing: I don't expect to her ever email.

Her interest was high. She readily accepted it. She even said that I'd be hearing from her. I don't think she'll ever email. I figured to put the ball in her court and get on with my life, and if she were to email, great, but otherwise so be it.

The point of this post is that based upon conventional logic, women are counter-intuitive -- a complete mystery. Based on a different set of logic, women are rather predictable. I don't think she'll ever email because I don't think she'll ever make a move, for it's not in her 'Book of Woman', despite her interest.

I've made this poll and if I turn out wrong, I'll let you guys know.

 

[gt95ab]

Buddy, by the sound of it, your so far in the friend zone that she wouldn't even hook you up with one of her friends for fear of ruining your friendship, let alone herself. Your first mistake was misinterpreting her attention for romantic interest. I guarantee you she just had the "Oh my god, I just ran into a good friend that I haven't seen in such a long time" reaction. She was just being overly friendly, rather than romantically interested. She probably was reminded of the fact that you were interested in her, and decided to get her flirt on and wrap you around her little finger again. Even if she does e-mail you, it's probably just as friends, so don't even consider it, and forget about her being romantically interested, your just seeing what you want to see..... Just my opinion.

The ethical DJ - gt95ab

 

[Deep Dish]

gt95ab
Your first mistake was misinterpreting her attention for romantic interest.

I think it could really go either way, but I don't think she'd even make a friendship move. That's what's key.

 

[MDgood]

Too hard to tell with the info you gave us. How long have you known her? What's your past history with her?

 

[Deep Dish]

I was friends with the women for five months; not close friends, just 'prolonged acquaintences'; until she broke up with a boyfriend and for about a month before the breakup it became clear she had the hots for me. I tried dating her, went on two dates, but things fell apart. In her words, I needed to 'develop a little bit of a wild side', which naturally was putting it lightly. I was a boring stiff, who chumped out on her. Afterwards I realized some things in life and incidentally I realized I really was a boring stiff. The problem, naturally, was I was focusing on her, not myself.

For the next six months I'd see her on occasion, and she seemed to have obliged me. Pay me some attention, but otherwise cold. I would come to throw it all away, get on with my life, and start focusing on myself.

This was all years ago.

I now look completely differently, act in a completely different mindset. In times past friends would ask me if I'd ever try again, being different and all, and thus far my answer has been "no", because once a woman loses interest in you she never gains it back... unless you completely change. I have interest in another woman, who I certainly will still go for, but nonetheless I still desire the friend, who I never did completely stop thinking about from time to time.

I still don't think she'll email.

 

[MDgood]

She didn't give you her e-mail address? Hmmm, doesn't sound good, but the other night I gave a girl my number, she didn't give me her's, and she still called.

Still, on the surface it sounds like a friend zone thing for you, buddy. But only for the fact that you knew this girls years ago, there is a small, very small chance that she's willing to give you another go around.

Let us now what happens. In the meantime, just go out and date other chicks!

 

[STR8UP]

I wouldn't count on it, but I HAVE had a woman who rejected me look me up a couple of years later to hook up. It's one of those odd planet alignment things I suppose.

Stranger things have happened....