Wife Dancing Solo Poll

[everywomanshero]

My friends wife wants to go out dancing solo.

He says it's feminism, balless wussies who allow it under the guise of not seeming jealous, and that secure men aren't afraid to tell their ladies what's up pimp style.

She says he's not an enlightended, modern man, and that his stone age ways must change.

You decide.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

from the title, i thought your wife wanted to pole dance...

if she is ballroom dancing, whatever. just make sure their relationship is strong and she'll be fine. If she's talking about clubbing, thats not what a good wife does.

if she wants to shes a selfish bit(h and i wouldnt want to be married to her.

 

[Tomatoes]

I dont have a wife and dont want one....not for atleast another 5-10 years.

Null vote


Sarge On!

 

[Weak_Game]

i voted no i dont even understand the question till after i read the other posts its also 6am and i havent slept

letting your girl out for "girls night" its retarded, letting her go to the meet market to suplicate to male attention, great idea, your just her option at that point

 

[Ace of Flames]

Of course she says that. The "modern man" isn't a man at all. She's thinking of the majority of guys out there, the guys that would let their wives do anything they want, out of fear that saying no might make her leave. Who are these guys? We all know the answer. The AFC's.

Too bad your friend's wife has had her view of the world clouded by society. I hope he can set her straight on that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

My friends wife wants to go out dancing solo.

He says it's feminism, balless wussies who allow it under the guise of not seeming jealous, and that secure men aren't afraid to tell their ladies what's up pimp style.

She says he's not an enlightended, modern man, and that his stone age ways must change.

You decide.

I say he wouldn't care if he truly felt that his wife was happy. My gut says that it's not that he doesn't know whether she's happy, I don't think he even cares. As long as he says she's happy, she should be happy.

 

[flyspy]

Ya, I hate to say it, but modern society wants to cut the balls off of men. I mean if you dont feel comfortable with it then you should definitly say somthing to her and pretty much put your foot down. It may get stepped on, but that comes with the territory.

However, might want to take into consideration what kind of dancing it is and may even want to meet this "dance partner." That is, if the type of dancing is an artform and not the club scene.

Personally I think guys are starting to wake up and say, "dude, wheres my manhood?"

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Why shouldn't a guy feel comfortable with it? Are you saying that once he's in a relationship, he too forgos hanging out with his buds?

 

[wayword]

My friends wife wants to go out dancing solo.

He says it's feminism, balless wussies who allow it under the guise of not seeming jealous, and that secure men aren't afraid to tell their ladies what's up pimp style.

I totally agree...

A REAL man knows that a woman wanting to go out to social functions/activities ALONE - wants more attention from either YOU (to draw a boundary and stop her) or other men whom she will then cheat on you with. Going out alone is INAPPROPRIATE in a committed relationship and a sure sign of intentions of cheating on you.

So, FVCK all this feminist BS. Men had to become "chauvinistic/chivalrous/patriarchal/protective" cavemen because THAT's what women NEEDED as proven over time.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

A REAL man knows that a woman wanting to go out to social functions/activities ALONE - wants more attention from either YOU (to draw a boundary and stop her) or other men whom she will then cheat on you with. Going out alone is INAPPROPRIATE in a committed relationship and a sure sign of intentions of cheating on you...

A real man would be able to hold a woman's interest enough so that he needn't worry nor be paranoid about what she does when she's either by herself or with her girlfriends. A real man's woman knows that she is with the best man for her, is happy and would never stray; but real men already know this.

 

[wayword]

A real man would be able to hold a woman's interest enough so that he needn't worry nor be paranoid about what she does when she's either by herself or with her girlfriends. A real man's woman knows that she is with the best man for her, is happy and would never stray; but real men already know this.

That's a self-defeating belief you have there - equating "real manhood" with naivete and a false sense of security.

Reality is, even a "happy" woman (or man)...could always be happpier. Just like the richest man...could always be richer.

You ever hear of a gambler who wins a jackpot...and then suddenly loses the urge to gamble anymore?

No? Well, cheaters are the SAME WAY. "Rich" and "happy" are both relative - and both could always be increased no matter what level you're at. So, the only thing stopping some people is risk of negative reprecussions - whether they be STDs (now far lessened with condoms) or belief in spiritual karma, etc.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

So...if you're married, you can't go out alone?

That's the weirdest thing I've ever heard.

 

[JonJack]

You ever hear of a gambler who wins a jackpot...and then suddenly loses the urge to gamble anymore?

You ever hear of the same gambler who suddenly loses the urge to gamble anymore because his wife tells him he can't gamble?

If you ever feel that your wife is straying and you can't take it, you've married the wrong person. Especially when you honestly believe that you've done no wrong and have always been the man of her dreams. If you ever feel that you need to control your wife, you've married the wrong person. Why settle for someone that requires so much more effort in being happy with?

The equation is simple really. You marry some girl because she's the one. I'm assuming that the marriage wasn't an act of desperation but a seriously thought out plan that was put into action because both of you really loved each other. Now, if this new wife of yours all of a sudden decides to have an interest in going out to social functions alone, and you are not happy about it, then this wasn't the type of women you wanted to marry, thus leaving her should be easy. Even though you are a bad judge of character or you've been deceived, what's the point of controlling a person you wouldn't have married in the first place? If this new wife clearly had an initial interest in going out for social functions alone, then controlling it after the fact of marriage is just an indication of desperation. The kind that says you wanted to still be with her even though you didn't like her interests in socialising but thought that with time and marriage, you would have a legitimate reason of trying to change her ways.

Hope you see that you have no good reason for controlling another human being. Just ask for a divorce. Don't even have to tell her what's up pimp style.

 

[wayword]

You marry some girl because she's the one.

:crackup:

There is never just "one," just like there is not ever any hard limit for "happy" that anyone ever reaches. There could always be others and "happier." Quit watching chick flicks and reading Harlequin romance novels, dude.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

That's a self-defeating belief you have there - equating "real manhood" with naivete and a false sense of security.

Reality is, even a "happy" woman (or man)...could always be happpier. Just like the richest man...could always be richer.

You ever hear of a gambler who wins a jackpot...and then suddenly loses the urge to gamble anymore?

No? Well, cheaters are the SAME WAY. "Rich" and "happy" are both relative - and both could always be increased no matter what level you're at. So, the only thing stopping some people is risk of negative reprecussions - whether they be STDs (now far lessened with condoms) or belief in spiritual karma, etc.

Sounds like you're just bitter from past relationships and aren't able to trust women or you simply don't understand them. It's either that or you just enjoy bringing up rare exceptions just for the sake of being argumentative.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So...if you're married, you can't go out alone?

That's the weirdest thing I've ever heard.

That's usually a rule made by husbands whose own lack of self esteem and/or self control makes them feel that his wife is as susceptible to temptation as him.

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

Usually Francisco gives good advice, but I'm going to call him out on this one. Saying that a husband is "insecure" or somehow not a "real man" because he has issues with a wife who wants to make a habit out of going out alone is ridiculous.

Let's not act like real life is always so cut and dry. Most women these days are *****s. That's not bitterness from a previous relationship, that's just a fact. Why is he being less of a man merely for calling his wife out on her disrespectful behavior? There's a fine line between being secure, and being a chump who lets his significant other do whatever the hell she wants under the guise of being "secure".

Guys like Francisco seem to think that every husband should be so perfect, that they'll never have to worry about their wives straying. The fact is, NO MAN is perfect. No matter how in control you want to be, life doesn't always play out that way. It's not insecure to put your foot down when someone is exhibiting bullshyt behavior. And you're not less of a man for letting her know about it. My suggestion to the original poster:Tell your friend to confront her about it, and let her know his displeasure. If she insists on continuing, then he should think real hard about the future of his relationship.

P>S Before the whining starts, I never said married couples shouldn't have time away from eachother with their friends. But it's a whole other story when one of them makes it a habit, or starts taking it too far.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Usually Francisco gives good advice, but I'm going to call him out on this one. Saying that a husband is "insecure" or somehow not a "real man" because he has issues with a wife who wants to make a habit out of going out alone is ridiculous.

Let's not act like real life is always so cut and dry. Most women these days are *****s. That's not bitterness from a previous relationship, that's just a fact. Why is he being less of a man merely for calling his wife out on her disrespectful behavior? There's a fine line between being secure, and being a chump who lets his significant other do whatever the hell she wants under the guise of being "secure".

Guys like Francisco seem to think that every husband should be so perfect, that they'll never have to worry about their wives straying. The fact is, NO MAN is perfect. No matter how in control you want to be, life doesn't always play out that way. It's not insecure to put your foot down when someone is exhibiting bullshyt behavior. And you're not less of a man for letting her know about it. My suggestion to the original poster:Tell your friend to confront her about it, and let her know his displeasure. If she insists on continuing, then he should think real hard about the future of his relationship.

P>S Before the whining starts, I never said married couples shouldn't have time away from eachother with their friends. But it's a whole other story when one of them makes it a habit, or starts taking it too far.

Then I question the type of women you choose to go out with. Is it that you choose disrespectful women or is it that you forgo qualifying her until you "get to know her better?"

Could it be the age of the women who are disrespectful or is it the way that you treat women which causes them to disrespect you? There's something to be said about the type of filter you use to view women. Mine may be overly optimistic but you have to understand that I can't remember the last time that I actually spent any amount of time with women like the ones described here. I 'm willing to chalk it up to my own senility...

None the less, it may be my lack of concern of what a woman does when I'm not around. Is it over confidence, perhaps. But then again I trust my capability of spending time with women who don't do these types of things.

 

[wayword]

I can't remember the last time that I actually spent any amount of time with women like the ones described here.

What age women are you dating, and have they had any kids?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

This is a retardly open question.

a) What type of dancing?
b) Where is she going (some bar/sleezy club)?

I have no trouble with her going out to have fun, but if she is going out to have "fun" in a sleezy meat market, then I would have a problem with that.