Wierd feeling about x..........

[CLOONEY]

I went out with a girl for about 2 years on and off. We were TOTALLY in love at the time, both of us, but we had our problems and broke up. I still kept in contact with her regularly for about 3 months after the breakup. Then over the next few months we slowly started talking less and less. Only a quick email about once a week.

So yesterday she rings me, we spoke for about an hour, and it was sooooo WIERD, it was like we didnt have much to say to eachother, and pretty much ALL the feelings had just totally gone, both from me, and from her it felt like. Just thought I would post this cause it felt so damn strange, have you guys or girls ever experienced this?

 

[jbbrain]

cloons,

Man, I think youre smart enough to realize whats happening here. It's all really just a natural product of not being in eachothers lives as much as you once were. In many ways, I know it may suck..I mean, you were with this person for a good amt. of time and really got to know them and now...well.. things are different. Embrace it. You guys broke up for I'm sure a good reason and now time will move forward for you with or (most probably) without her. Be prepared for many instances exactly like this one in your future.

 

[Supaman]

I experienced the exact opposite, I haven't talked to my ex in 6 months and the other day I was walking through the gym and saw her. I almost started hyperventilating. She is the one that brought me to this site, but the ironic part is she was overly obsessed with me the 3-4 years that we dated. I calmly walked by (childish, yes I know) and she disappeared within minutes...so either she was hyperventilating as well and had to leave or she really didn't want to see me that bad. The weird thing is I have slept with 12 girls since we broke up and I still think about her on a daily basis. and now she works out at my gym....man that sucks

 

[Cremasta]

Originally posted by CLOONEY
it was sooooo WIERD, it was like we didnt have much to say to eachother, and pretty much ALL the feelings had just totally gone, both from me, and from her it felt like. Just thought I would post this cause it felt so damn strange, have you guys or girls ever experienced this?

Yeah, I think most of us have. For me it's usually accompanied by the thought "God, what the hell was I thinking?!?". It's good to hear that we won't be getting any "Hey guys, should I get back with the ex?" questions from you.

 

[Reto]

Hmm....

I'm at month 3 with my Ex. She want's to be friends and calls me every monday at 8:15am at work. Sometimes a couple of times on the week-ends.

I finally told her you want to be friends? Friends are people who have common interests, who enjoy hanging out together, doing things, etc. We have none of that, so why do you keep calling me? She had no answer. We aren't enemies, but we aren't friends.

I don't expect any more calls. NEXT !!!!

Supaman- I have an ex who works out at my gym. We were together 9 months. I see her about 3 times a week at the gym. We have not spoken in over a year! She doesn't acknowledge my presence, so I play her game. What's funny is all my friends at the gym know this and think she's wacked and won't touch her! What a flake!

 

[CLOONEY]

jbbrain, yeah I realised this, just felt wierd, and as most of the guys on these boards experience the opposite OBVOIUSLY, with so many "how to get the x back" threads, I wanted to see if anyone experienced what I had.

Supaman, yes this is why I posted this thread as I explained above.

Cremasta, u certinly wont be getting any of those questions from me.

Reto, good call, dont need the x calling you a couple of times a week, makes it harder to move on.

I also spoke to a friend about this, and he experienced the same thing with his x, it is just like the person you once knew the BEST out of everyone you know, u had the same sense of humor, could talk and laugh with for hours and hours and hours has just changed, and so have you. Like all the Chemistry has just vanished and now you two hardly know eachother again. A very wierd experience.

 

[ManOMan]

Hey Clooney,

I could relate. When I broke up with my ex 1 year ago, the calls just got less and less, then eventually nothing.

We used to talk on the fone for hours, the last time I spoke to her, I didnt even know what to say.

I had mixed feelings about that. In one instance I really missed what we had. But then I remember her dissing me, rejecting me and it was like talking on the fone with someone you love, hate, care for, mistrust, have anger, etc

its also like that with friends and family I have had fights with. Then when we make up, its awkward, then eventually we pick up where we left off.

Its like that when 1 or the other person in a relationship doesnt nurture it, eventually it just withers away and dies like an unwatered plant.

but I totally get you about how you expect things to be the same , and are kinda shocked when it doesnt even resemble what once was.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by ManOMan

its also like that with friends and family I have had fights with. Then when we make up, its awkward, then eventually we pick up where we left off.

Its like that when 1 or the other person in a relationship doesnt nurture it, eventually it just withers away and dies like an unwatered plant.

but I totally get you about how you expect things to be the same , and are kinda shocked when it doesnt even resemble what once was.

Yeah this part is REAL true. And your situation resembles mine. Although I cut off contact for quiet a long time at first. It was a mutual breakup in the end. But yeah, this part u wrote is EXACTLY what I have been thinking!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Clooney,

How old are you? As you get older, your ex means less to you, especially if you don't see her for ten years

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Clooney,

How old are you? As you get older, your ex means less to you, especially if you don't see her for ten years

Yeah I know. This was not the point of my post. I mean I love her, she was a HUGE part of my life, and I only wish the best for her. But it is just things have TOTALLY changed both emotionally and in the way we interact. It has nothing to do with how much she means to me, just that it is strange that a girl u once knew SO WELL now seems like a complete stranger. Nothing in common, no chemistry and a totally different sense of humor!!

 

[CLOONEY]

Sorry PRL, didnt answer the question of age, I am 21.

 

[Trance]

I have experienced the same as you clooney, a 1 year old LTR, and now after 4 years i see her like once every 3 months, and its a bit odd.. That girl used to be someone i would be with for doing about everything, talk about everything, etc.. And now when i see her, we dont want to be in eachother arms no more, we dont have much to talk about, etc..

Yea, its an odd feeling.. Its like you feel nothing for her, but cause you know you once felt, you imagine if it could happen again.. But then again you just imagine, cause you know it wouldnt happen.