Why'd she break the date?

[dj-apprentice]

First off, this is like the third topic I've started today. I won't always be this bad... I've just had a few things on my mind and I figure this forum is as good a place to sort them out as any. I won't keep bothering you guys so much in the future. *lol*


OK... so I'm in Nashville a few weeks ago and I run into a girl I was interested in when I lived in Indianapolis. I moved away about 8 months ago and hadn't seen or talked to her until our meeting in Nashville.

She's with a friend, so I go up and talk to her. She acts very happy to see me. I chat it up with her for about 3 minutes (I wanted to keep it short). She gave me a few what I thought to be good buying signals:

1. I told her I heard that she was dating someone, but she kept downplaying the relationship. She said they "weren't serious" (even though she also told me that he asked her to move to NY with him when he finished school but she turned him down), they "weren't sure," and so on.

2. She invited me to come spend some time with her and her friends, but I had already made plans with some other girls and I told her that I was busy (my idea of adding a little challenge into the mix).

3. When I asked for her number, I got a very enthusiastic response.

Then, here's the "signal" I was really banking on...

4. I asked what she was doing the next day. She told me that she had to take her boyfriend to the airport early that morning, then her friends were flying out. Then, she said something to the effect of, "Yeah, I'll be all alone tomorrow and have absolutely nothing to do." She very strongly emphasized that she was going to be alone the next day.

So, I just said, "Let's have lunch then. I'll call you." She gladly accepted, I said bye and left.


I call her the next morning around noon and get her vmail. She doesn't call me back until over an hour later, she left me a message and said that she isn't going to be able to go and gives me some lame excuse. So, I called her back to let her know that I got her message. I acted like I didn't care about the cancelled lunch and talked to her for a couple of minutes.

What's the deal with this chick? I know I should next her, but I'm just curious if anyone's gotten great buying signals and then gotten burnt like this.

Just to let you know, she and I do have a brief history, and she's given me this type of crap before. Also, she's a very beautiful girl, but she's been afraid to date guys for some reason. I actually think the guy she's with now is her first relationship (she's 20).

Is she scared of me?


What sucks is that I cancelled lunch with a great looking girl that was in from Illinois so I could have lunch with this other chick.

Do I just suck at reading signals, or does anyone see any mistakes I may have made?

Thanks...

 

[Walden]

Happens to the best of us (chicks are weird). Any one of a bazillion things coulda happened tho , so in your position I'd find three pther women , call her a few times more. Maybe work in some C+F about how you're not going to take any more lame excuses, giving the vibe that you know she's playing and you're still confident cos a dozen girls have done that and succumbed to your charms before.

This also at least it forces her to decide wether to pee or give back the dixie cup.

 

[dj-apprentice]

Thanks.

I definitely hear you on putting your eggs in one basket. I wasn't doing it then, though ... I had two dates set up for the next day, I stayed out all that night with a third girl, and I still have my girlfriend on the hook over in Arkansas (long distance relationships DO give plenty of space. )

All that said, I have put everything into one girl before, and got MAJORLY burned. That sucked. Big time. Won't ever do it again.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I think the fact that you guys had a brief history in the past pretty much sealed your fate. She probably knew you liked her back then and all those thoughts and feelings came back to her head when she saw you again.

I assure you if this was a cold PU on some random broad she wouldn't have flaked on you like that. I know I wasn't there but aside from when she emphasized that she'd be "all alone" the next day it seemed to me like she was treating you like a old buddy from the past.


I would have called her out on her lame bull**** excuse when I called her back if I were you. Actually scratch that idea, after she flaked I wouldn't have even called her back. Dumb girls don't deserve quality men.


PIMP