Why the World Doesn't Need Superman

[Vypros]

Do you believe in fate?

You know, "fate"!

As in the events of your life are such that they brought you to this exact spot at the same time that the events of my life brought me to this spot, and that there is a REASON why we are sitting here talking to each other?

Well, I believe that fate has brought you to me today because you are on a spaceship careening towards a planet and you have no idea what it's going to be like!

What? Now I'm just talking crazy aren't I?

Not really. They say that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, don't they? Well you are just a tiny little Martian about to crash land on the plush soils of Venus and they simply aren't going to know what hit them!

You all are familiar with the story of Superman. He's been a part of our world for several years. He's taken the form of movies, comics, cartoons, posters, wrapping paper, cups, plates, stuffed animals, and action figures. We all are drawn to the story of Superman because he defies our reality and does things that break all our rules.And I'm here to tell you that our world NEEDS a Superman.

In the movie "Superman Returns", there is a scene where we discover that Lois Lane had written a Pullitzer Prize winning article entitled "Why the World Doesn't Need Superman". We never get to read that article, but the idea behind that was to key on our dramatic senses and shout out:

"WHAT?? A MAN WHO IS INHERENTLY GOOD AND GOES AROUND SAVING PEOPLE? OF COURSE WE NEED HIM!"

And then the movie ends, and she changes her mind. Yay!

Superman has saved the day again!

But you never hear about that other guy. You know who he is because he is an essential part of Superman's life, and you love Superman. But you don't get bent out of shape over him. Most of the time he creates tension and you just feel sorry for the poor sap! His name?

Clark Kent

The very fabric of what we here call the "nice guy".

How is it that such a smooth and powerful hero can turn into such a bumbling weasel???

The answer? A WOMAN!

You say that Kryptonite is Superman's weakness, and I say rubbish! If a woman can turn a hero like Superman into a Zero like Clark, then she most certainly is a creature to be reckoned with!

But it's like that with us isn't it? We go about our lives daily. We hang out with our friends and have a blast. We go to the market and shop. And all the time we are comfortable. But put us within 20 feet of a hot girl and what do we do?

WE GET SICK TO OUR STOMACH, TENSE, AND START SWEATING PROFUSELY FROM ALL OUR ORIFICES!

You tell me that isn't Kryptonite!

You ever wonder why woman make you behave the way you do?

You ever wonder why you can be fine with your friends, strangers, dogs, cats, kids, etc. but as soon as a pretty girl comes into your bubble you turn into a bumbling idiot????

Let me ask you a question:

Why did Superman disguise himself as Clark Kent?

Anyone?

Anyone?

Bueller?

Bueller?

Hello! The answer is simple:

To disguise his power!

He understood that he couldn't live among people as Superman, or he would be THRONGED on a daily basis. He knew that he would never have a life of his own if he made his entire life as Superman. He understood that to do great things, sometimes you have to humble yourself and become common and RISE ONLY WHEN THE OCCASSION WARRANTS IT!

That's why Superman became Clark Kent. And that's why a Don Juan becomes Joe Schmuck.

If you spend your life being a Don Juan. If you make this your life and you spend your days just focusing on picking up women, you are going to get THRONGED by something worse than people! You are going to get THRONGED by life! Life will eat you up and spit you out!

I read a post recently where someone said: "When you become a Don Juan, you can't be anything else BUT a Don Juan" in response to a guy who hits on girls in front of his girlfriend.

I say rubbish! That's absurd!

If being a Don Juan has become your life then you most certainly are no Don Juan!A Don Juan, like Superman, must leart to CONTROL his "power". A Don Juan, like Superman, realizes that it's not his POWER that defines him. It's not his ability to control people that defines him. It's not his ****y and funny attitude that defines him.

Oh no!

The true Don Juan recognizes that his "power" is to be used for his own pleasure only. And his life is not defined by that pleasure. A true Don Juan is simply a manifestation of the MANY different natural abilities that are found within a man, and that life is so much more broad and rich than chasing after women day in, day out, for years and years and years.

So Superman donned a persona: Clark Kent. And you need to take a tip from that. I'm not saying that you need to "don a persona", I'm saying that you need to recognize that your life does not consist of chasing tail!

There is so much more for you to do! There is so much more for you to acheive! Don Juan is just a byproduct of a life lived natural and rich.

But beware! You also need to know when to shed that Clark Kent persona!

That's your trouble isn't it? That's why you are here. You can't shake mister Kent out of you and become that Superman you always wanted to be with women. That's why you are failing with women, because as Superman recognized that he need to shed his Clark Kent life to go do great and marvelous things, you too need to recognize that there is a time for you to become Don Juan and woo the ladies!

So many of us are stuck in a 'Clark Kent' role when the situation calls for a 'Superman', that when the situation is past we only find loneliness, destruction, and even bitterness.

Stop being a chump!

Stop being afraid of your power! That's the whole crux of your problem. You've become ashamed of your power for some ungodly reason! The world, the media, the news, the movies, the commercials, and the radio are all dumping their garbage into your mind of an "image" that they want everyone to be. And if you are part of the elite few that fit that image naturally, then you are just naturally successful!

But most of us DON'T fit that image, and we spend our lives trying to conform to that image. We change our hair. We change our clothes. We change the way we walk. The way we talk. And like sheep, led to the slaughter, we destroy everything that makes us who we are!

YOU ARE DIFFERENT! SO DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!

You are you, and that's all you can ever be. Stop trying to PUT ON your persona. Clark Kent didn't go into a phone booth to put on his suit! He went into the phone booth to shed off that fake, phony, persona and came out being himself!

And what happened?

Well, you've seen the movies. You've read the comics. He did spectacular things! He made a real difference in the lives of those around him and people lauded him as a hero for just being himself!

But he learned to control that power. He recognized that he couldn't be that "superman" all the time. And in the same way, you gotta learn a thing called "tact". You gotta learn when the situation calls for it, that you don't fail to act, of course. But more importantly when the moment is over you go back into the phone booth and you get back to your life, which is the most important thing.

One persona leads to being a symbol that all can look up to. And that was great.

But the other lead to being a man who affected the people he was close to, and that was life-altering.

I believe there is a hero inside of you, waiting to get out. He's in there, and he's only a phone booth away. Don't let another opportunity go by. Time slips away so quickly and before you know it you wake up with regret and "what if" gnawing at you.

Go out and do what you have to do. Go be Clark Kent and when the situation calls for it, don't be afraid to show us your full potential.

The world doesn't need a Superman. The world doesn't need a Don Juan.

The world just needs a Clark Kent who isn't afraid of being Superman.

 

[Nighthawk]

Superman is adopted, that's why he's all Captain Save-A-Planet.

Brian Singer, director of Superman Returns is also adopted, as am I. The creators of Superman were Jewish, and were fantasizing about being able to shed the meek and polite jewish stereotype - using Nazi language indeed - and earning the love of their adopted country by being an indispensible force for truth and justice.

Yet more women get wet for Smallville's Lex than Clark, and only found Chris Reeve sexy when he got turned into bad-boy Superman. Chicks, huh?

Give it a few decades and we'll all be downloading super-powers off the internet.

 

[Nighthawk]

Also, while adopteds make up only 2% of the population we make up 40% of the people in prison or receiving psychiatric help. And 20% of murderers and serial killers. Both Ted Bundy and The Son Of Sam were adopted. Yay us!

 

[Vypros]

Yet more women get wet for Smallville's Lex than Clark, and only found Chris Reeve sexy when he got turned into bad-boy Superman. Chicks, huh?

I've got the first season of Smallville on DVD, and it's all I've watched of the series so far, but I can definately see why the girls prefer Lex over Clark.

I know, that sounds crazy but hear me out.

Have you seen the way Clark acts in that first season? He's a snivelling weasel. At least to Lana he is. She says jump, he says how high. The world says jump, he says how high. He had no personality of his own.

Lex, on the other hand, was DIRECT. You always know where you stand with him. He didn't pull punches and he didn't back down, and he ALWAYS, ALWAYS kept coming back for more until he was successful.

Who WOULDN'T want someone like that in their life?

 

[da_hunter]

Nice job of taking the title from a movie, but this is just another boring rehash post of the same shyt you can find in the DJB. Vypros, you are the biggest AFC on here, everybody knows it. Instead of writing up these huge essays, why don't you try getting out in the field. These long winded forum posts will not get you laid.

 

[Vypros]

Vypros, you are the biggest AFC on here, everybody knows it. Instead of writing up these huge essays, why don't you try getting out in the field. These long winded forum posts will not get you laid.

Not that I feel compelled to validate myself on an internet message board, but I'll address this post.

I come here because I work a boring job during the day and I like to write and give advice.

If you don't like what I write, that's ok, move on.

If you do, then take what I say and APPLY it. Don't let it slip past you without putting it to good use.

As far as being a chump. I was the biggest chump of them all. Key word being WAS. I found something that has literally changed my life, inside and out, and I feel I would be doing a great disservice to the man who inspired that if I didn't shout his message from the rooftops (ala Pook). I don't consider myself a chump anymore, because I have found happiness in my life for the first time in YEARS.

I feel like I've awaken from a great sleep and have really discovered what life is all about. And that excites me, so I come here while I work to tell others about that life.

 

[da_hunter]

bla bla bla.

you sound like a brainwashed cult member. until you leave the board for more than six months, then come back with a bunch of lay reports i won't believe any of this 'reawakening' shyt.

you're no pook, buddy.

 

[Vypros]

until you leave the board for more than six months, then come back with a bunch of lay reports i won't believe any of this 'reawakening' shyt.

you're no pook, buddy.

lol @ lay reports

The difference between me and you is that I don't spend my life qualifying myself to women anymore. I've done enough of that in my 25 years to fill 2 lifetimes. In fact, I'm willing to assert that I've accomplished more in my life than over half of the people here. But you know what? I've also failed harder than half of the people here. Divorce is no treat, after all. Especially when there are two kids involved (and that's ALL I'm saying about that--I used to talk about it incessantly and I've resolved to NOT talk about it anymore).

The one thing I WILL say, is that my ultimate failure has resulted in my ultimate success. I spent a lot of time wondering "what if". What if I had done this? What if I had done that? Would she still be here? Only after reading the stuff Pook wrote did I realize that I was spending my time looking backwards and at my failures instead of looking forward and at my successes.

Do I want to be like Pook? Hell no! In fact, I disagree with a lot of what he wrote. The stuff about Testostorone and "What ever skinny guy should know" was a load of crap in my opinion!

What he did do for me, though, was open my eyes to the man that I wasn't being. I learned that I spent too much time focusing on "getting laid" or find a new woman to replace the one that left, when I should have been focusing on the things *I* was doing that lead to my failures and fixing them.

And that's exactly what I've done. I've cleaned up my life and started living again. I took up a hobby I had left dormant for 10 years. I got out and started walking and exercising. I cleaned out all the garbage in my house that had accumulated over the years. I made a clean break, and as a result I've never been so happy.

I'm a long way from being where I want to be, but I know where I'm going and I know that I won't stop to get there. And that's the attitude I try to convey in my posts to others here who are so focused on immaterial things like "****y and funny" and what to do with what girl.

The result? I've shifted my focus off of females, and focused on myself and have made myself the prize. And when that happened, I noticed an increase in female interest in my life. In fact, I've been REJECTING girls more often lately because I'm not out to get laid right now. I don't WANT a girl in my life right now and because of that focus I have lightened up and have noticed an increase in female interest in me.

This stuff is pretty powerful stuff, and it's changed my life. And for another 100 posts I'm going to shout it. I said that I would make 500 posts as a sort of gratuity to the stuff in the Book of Pook, and I'm almost there. So, you really only have to put up with me for what? Like another week or two as I've been putting out a lot of posts.

And that, my friend, is all the time I am going to spend talking about myself. I'd rather talk about you guys and about things that are inspiring.

 

[The Juan and only]

Nice job of taking the title from a movie, but this is just another boring rehash post of the same shyt you can find in the DJB. Vypros, you are the biggest AFC on here, everybody knows it. Instead of writing up these huge essays, why don't you try getting out in the field. These long winded forum posts will not get you laid.

Sry Vyp, but I'd have to agree with him. You remind me of guys like ethnomethodologist and that dude who used to call himself krassus.

To be fair, some of your posts are pretty good, but it's all pop psychology and it's coming from the wrong angle. It's not difficult to tell the difference between observations developed from practice in the field, and pure theory that has either been pieced together from self-help books, or written with the deliberate intention of inspiring people rather than giving them information or an example to work from (the latter of which is impossible for somebody with limited experience). Of course a mix of the two is fine.

.02

 

[Vypros]

Sry Vyp, but I'd have to agree with him. You remind me of guys like ethnomethodologist and that dude who used to call himself krassus.

To be fair, some of your posts are pretty good, but it's all pop psychology and it's coming from the wrong angle. It's not difficult to tell the difference between observations developed from practice in the field, and pure theory that has either been pieced together from self-help books, or written with the deliberate intention of inspiring people rather than giving them information or an example to work from (the latter of which is impossible for somebody with limited experience). Of course a mix of the two is fine.

.02

Eh, I just post what I think. You can either accept it or reject it. Keep in mind that we're on a message board here, so ANYBODY can make up ANY kind of crap about how their theories work as "validation".

I don't do that. I don't try to validate what I post, I just post. I don't call myself a guru, but I know what's worked for me, and I know that it can work for others.

 

[The Juan and only]

Eh, I just post what I think. You can either accept it or reject it. Keep in mind that we're on a message board here, so ANYBODY can make up ANY kind of crap about how their theories work as "validation".

I don't do that. I don't try to validate what I post, I just post. I don't call myself a guru, but I know what's worked for me, and I know that it can work for others.

Ok, that is fair enough. Although u should understand why people criticize you, when all you do is post fairly abstract analogies like some wanna-be writer, who never really anchors his posts to the real world.

I think you have some decent ideas and beliefs but this kind of shiat really isnt of much use when macking on the dancefloor. I wouldn't want you to lead anyone astray with your -- "don't give a crap, don't worry about success with women"; sounds nice, but it won't get you anywhere most of the time. You've just got to be fun, confident and SEXUAL with them. And not blatantly verbally sexual, which many peeps (after reading some dyd crap) think makes them look ultra-confident, but in reality makes them seem nothing but immature.

 

[Vypros]

Ok, that is fair enough. Although u should understand why people criticize you, when all you do is post fairly abstract analogies like some wanna-be writer, who never really anchors his posts to the real world.

I think you have some decent ideas and beliefs but this kind of shiat really isnt of much use when macking on the dancefloor. I wouldn't want you to lead anyone astray with your -- "don't give a crap, don't worry about success with women"; sounds nice, but it won't get you anywhere most of the time. You've just got to be fun, confident and SEXUAL with them. And not blatantly verbally sexual, which many peeps (after reading some dyd crap) think makes them look ultra-confident, but in reality makes them seem nothing but immature.

I can agree with that. I'll try to ground myself a little more from now on and give more REAL examples.

That's the bad thing about the mindset of someone who writes a lot, though, is that we go off on tangents. lol

But I'll take that criticism to heart.

 

[Fenderules]

Superman is adopted, that's why he's all Captain Save-A-Planet.

Brian Singer, director of Superman Returns is also adopted, as am I. The creators of Superman were Jewish, and were fantasizing about being able to shed the meek and polite jewish stereotype - using Nazi language indeed - and earning the love of their adopted country by being an indispensible force for truth and justice.

Yet more women get wet for Smallville's Lex than Clark, and only found Chris Reeve sexy when he got turned into bad-boy Superman. Chicks, huh?

Give it a few decades and we'll all be downloading super-powers off the internet.

the old lois lane i found sexier cause she was kind of a *****. Not as good looking as the new one, but the character in the new one is damaged goods lol

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

bla bla bla.

you sound like a brainwashed cult member. until you leave the board for more than six months, then come back with a bunch of lay reports i won't believe any of this 'reawakening' shyt.

you're no pook, buddy.

Forget about pook he makes money from other dudes insecurities, he must be a great man.

 

[ObieJuan]

Vypros, it is good to see someone else around here who "gets it". There are still many bitter, angry, miserable men on this site who do not. It is amusing the amount criticism you receive when you merely offering your perspective on how your thinking has changed. Sadly this site has turned into a barrel of crabs since I first joined and doesn't seem to be getting any better. Judging by your replies you let go of the negative feelings and have no need to justify yourself.

It isn't about getting women, it's about being happy in life and accomplishing your dreams- success with women will follow once you are on your way to acheiving what you want in life. It's easier to become the prize then to pretend and convince yourself you're the prize.

 

[Vypros]

Vypros, it is good to see someone else around here who "gets it". There are still many bitter, angry, miserable men on this site who do not. It is amusing the amount criticism you receive when you merely offering your perspective on how your thinking has changed. Sadly this site has turned into a barrel of crabs since I first joined and doesn't seem to be getting any better. Judging by your replies you let go of the negative feelings and have no need to justify yourself.

It isn't about getting women, it's about being happy in life and accomplishing your dreams- success with women will follow once you are on your way to acheiving what you want in life. It's easier to become the prize then to pretend and convince yourself you're the prize.

Good post, man, and thanks for the support.

The key with me was that I had to "get over myself" and actually ADMIT that I had a MOUNTAIN of insecurities and that I WAS a giant chump. That was the hardest thing and the hardest realization I ever faced. It's not easy facing the truth about yourself, but once I DID, it seemed like it just sort of "dissolved" and I started moving forward again.

Sort of like getting stuck in the mud.

 

[ObieJuan]

Good post, man, and thanks for the support.

The key with me was that I had to "get over myself" and actually ADMIT that I had a MOUNTAIN of insecurities and that I WAS a giant chump. That was the hardest thing and the hardest realization I ever faced. It's not easy facing the truth about yourself, but once I DID, it seemed like it just sort of "dissolved" and I started moving forward again.

Sort of like getting stuck in the mud.

True- once you can be honest with yourself then half the battle is over. I used to have deep feelings of hatred and negativity that I had to learn how to let go of. After realizing how my way of thinking was wrong it was much easier to transform myself- now I am much happier than I've ever been and have found some peace. I think people make things out to be so complicated because they don't want to come to terms with their inner demons so they continue to be plagued by them no matter what they try to do.

 

[The Juan and only]

Vypros, it is good to see someone else around here who "gets it". There are still many bitter, angry, miserable men on this site who do not. It is amusing the amount criticism you receive when you merely offering your perspective on how your thinking has changed. Sadly this site has turned into a barrel of crabs since I first joined and doesn't seem to be getting any better. Judging by your replies you let go of the negative feelings and have no need to justify yourself.

It isn't about getting women, it's about being happy in life and accomplishing your dreams- success with women will follow once you are on your way to acheiving what you want in life. It's easier to become the prize then to pretend and convince yourself you're the prize.

You are right of course, however, I'm at the stage in my life where I want to have a few ONS and so forth, just for the experience. Concentrating on getting women doesn't automatically mean that my success in that area defines me or my happiness. Wherever we go, we'll live our lives inside our heads -- so sure, you can always have happiness regardless. But that DOES NOT mean you shouldn't chase tangible success or let go of opportunities because you think you don't need them. I want (not need) results with women, and I shall go for it, whether you think that makes me insecure or not

We should all work on ourselves and our dreams, but that is not mutually exclusive with trying to get results with women.

 

[Vypros]

But that DOES NOT mean you shouldn't chase tangible success or let go of opportunities because you think you don't need them.

I think you are missing the point here.

All I've ever said is that you need to be NATURAL and not don some "persona" (which is the whole point of this thread and why I related it to Superman (who is someone that EVERYBODY has heard of).

Just because I am not out chasing after girls at this time, doesn't mean I am telling others to do that. I'm saying this stuff because I am finding that with this stuff GIRLS are chasing after ME.

 

[The Juan and only]

I think you are missing the point here.

All I've ever said is that you need to be NATURAL and not don some "persona" (which is the whole point of this thread and why I related it to Superman (who is someone that EVERYBODY has heard of).

Just because I am not out chasing after girls at this time, doesn't mean I am telling others to do that. I'm saying this stuff because I am finding that with this stuff GIRLS are chasing after ME.

To be honest I only skimmed the post, but if this is a "just be yourself" thread then I'm afraid I have to disagree on some points. In almost every scenario, I couldn't agree more -- you should be who you are, say what you want to say, crack a joke if you think it's funny (regardless of the opinions of anyone else around you,etc). However I can assure you the club scene is different, most people are looking for casual hook-ups, and there are definately styles and techniques which are more effective at picking up women in this arena. It doesn't matter if they are a good personality match, that is not the goal, and you may never see them again.

I suppose in a way, I am being myself in as much as this is what I want to do at this point in my life. But often, I know I'm "acting" but I can also see it working. Like I said, this is just experimentation for me, I'm not implying anybody should base their happiness on results with women.