why the incosistency?

[rogue_status]

I just wana get your guys take on this, its a problem I've had for quite a while. Basically when m being myself an not really giving a damn what the chick thinks of me, she ends up friggin being in love with me tht night but when its a girl Im actually interested in, I get nothing.

Like I'll be hanging out with a friend or group of my friends an they'll bring a girl that theyre either friends with or interested in an for whatever reason they love me. 2 or 3 times the girl goes home an thinks about me all night an has a dream or some crazy sh!t about me(- only know that actually happened cuz they told me later, or their friend did)

But then Ill be hanging out with or see a girl that I could actually be interested in, an I think I'm being myself but somehow I totally screw it up.

Obviously Im not being myself around the ones I'm interested in, but any ideas why?

 

[Badmannaz]

the key is to never be interested in a girl...your losing right there because she already has a sense of control over you..instead see it as "a PET i would like to make my own" play with her as you would play with a puppy dog tease play and neglect....

confidence your looking for will naturally come from you when you feel you are having natural fun with her...but dont forget the KINO!!

 

[horaholic]

You're putting these girls on a higher pedestal than ne of two things. I think it is this first one:you, therefore coming off as, not as confident as you really are. Im not sure how to counter that, but with more approaching. You need to tell yourself "Im the baddesst motherfvcker on the face of the planet" and REALLY believe it.

i do the same thing. I bang chicks I dont like all that much, cuz Im a dyck to them. Then they next me. I understand why, but I cant explain it.Just go with it, and try to act like that with girls you really like, until you can learn some real game.

 

[SuavePlaya]

Why don't you mess with these chicks that are actually thinking about you all night it could boost your confidence over time with the girls you are interested in and want to hang out with. I think your problem is you are thinking too much, when you should be flowing with the mood like you do when you hang out with your friends. I hate when guys say show no interest, how can you get any girl if you never show interest in her lol. I would say show interest, but not to the point where she comes first in your life.

 

[rogue_status]

Thats kind of the route Im starting to take. Im gona take more of an interest in some of these other girls, probably lay a couple of them an get the confidence built up.

I know for a fact Im way deep in my head when Im talkin to these other girls. how do you get past that, get out of your head so you can naturally flow? I do that a lot actually, not only with HB's but with just about everybody in general

 

[SuavePlaya]

Well you know 99.9 percent of the time when you are deeply in your head it's mostly fvcked up situations running in your head. The trick is to realize none of that happened yet for you to be freaked out about it and 10 out of 10 times it won't happen either. In your head it could be the worse thing that could possibly happen in the world, but it didn't happen to you in real life. What you gotta do is stop reacting to your mind and pay attention to what is right in front of you. This is why guys say they have anxiety and stuff like that, it's all bullsh1t they just create these bad situations in their minds and believe it. None of the bullsh1t is true unless it happens in real life. When you do this you realize how silly most of your fears are.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

We only chase what runs from us

Look at the 'consistencies' of both situations. When a woman is put into a position of having to earn and qualify for your attention, she is attracted to you. When you put yourself into a position of having to qualify for her, and freely give away your unmerited attentions, those attentions become common and valueless to her. Thus, she refuses you. Women want a challenge, not a free lunch.

 

[SuavePlaya]

I should ignore every woman on earth and I bet you a million dollars they will all come knocking on my door that's a good one. If you are talking to a girl you don't think she knows you are interested in her already? this is funny how you guys back this never show interest thing. It changes only when the girl is falling for you from the start(looks,money,front) that's when the game changes that's when you can distant yourself from the very beginning. If you aren't the best looking guy then you are going to have to game her(she will know you are interested because you did approach) and once you build that attraction that's when you distant yourself.