Why so many repeated threads about GF talking to EX-BF or guy friends??

[GotED?]

Lets get it straight here, all you men (and boys) who have made every other 5 threads about what to do when your woman (and girl) still talks to her EX-Boyfriend or a guy friend?

THE ONLY ANSWER HERE IS:

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*** Establish your FRAME from the beginning of the relationship. ***

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You are THE MAN. Which means:

1) You are empowered to make decisions where your woman (and girl) can't do because she's afraid and confused 90% of her entire life.

2) You set the RULES and BOUNDARIES of the relationship from the start. If you don't, you will have an uphill climb establishing it later.

3) Women - like little girls in an adult's body, are raised to be conditioned for good and bad behavior, just like in front of daddy during childhood. You are THE MAN. If she misbehaves, put her in the right place - be ready to walk if necessary.

4) You have the CHOICE to have a happy or miserable experience. Do you choose to be with miserable masculinized/feminist women who argue and power struggle with you all day/night long, or do you prefer to be with a feminine/submissive woman who RESPECTS you as a man??

5) Are you in the mindset to be a leader and LEAD? This means LEADING your woman where you want your relationship to go. If you don't want to put up with sh!t in ex's or other men worrying you, then tell her like it is and lead the relationship. Walk if she doesn't like it.

6) Do you have options? Even if you don't - act and live it in front of your woman because no woman wants a man without options and behaving like a man that no other women want. This is the secret of it all. Women are by nature extremely competitive against each other in getting the man that they ALL want to have.

The prevalent of these threads over and over again about the same thing has me thinking, some of you just are not getting it. Hope this helps. :box:

With respect,

Exodus

 

[ScottMustaine]

4) You have the CHOICE to have a happy or miserable experience. Do you choose to be with miserable masculinized/feminist women who argue and power struggle with you all day/night long, or do you prefer to be with a feminine/submissive woman who RESPECTS you as a man??

This is the only problem here in my opinion.


I still have to find a submissive woman in this century. The one's I found to be submissive are the one's who will backstab you most likely. Not only women, but people in general.


Sure thing it's good to lead. But be careful.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I'll always throw the golden rule down whenever things start getting serious. First naughty behavior, and i'll have a little chat with her. I'll ask her what kind of relationship she wants. I'll tell her that it's her choice, she can have an open relationship or hang out with her ex if she wants to either way I don't care. All i'm worried about is that things are fair. If she wants to hangout with dudes, I can hangout with girls maybe my ex too. This is a great convo to have at the beginning of a relationship, I have never had bad results with this.

It says that you have female friends you want to hang with.
It shows her you are not so much in her pocket by wanting exclusivity with her.
It shows her you are more in control of your emotions than she thinks by being so dismissive of monogamy or whatever.
It's a neg because you just told her that you really don't care what she does as long as you can do it too.

It really sets you aside from all the insecure little kids she has been dating in the past. Quite honestly I do care, but the purpose of the convo is to make her care too. It's too easy for a girl to be offered something free from some dude think it's innocent enough and take it. But when you put yourself in the scenario by telling her that you plan on buying girls lunches or planning something to do with your ex things change. And she has to understand that the door swings both ways, and it may swing a little wider for you because after all you are the one with the bread to spend on dinners and such.

It also changes the nature of her deception, she's not keeping a secret because you are so irrational and insecure for your own good, or because she knows it's just an innocent thing between friends. You have a deal that is based on fairness, almost a relationship oath and if she breaks it she is being dishonest with your relationship. There are no excuses now of just friends or any other BS she may use to justify her actions.

If she can do it, I can do it too.

 

[VladPatton]

↑↑↑ 110% Agree on this approach. Man up early, not when shıt hits the fan.

 

[dangdang]

I'll always throw the golden rule down whenever things start getting serious. First naughty behavior, and i'll have a little chat with her. I'll ask her what kind of relationship she wants. I'll tell her that it's her choice, she can have an open relationship or hang out with her ex if she wants to either way I don't care. All i'm worried about is that things are fair. If she wants to hangout with dudes, I can hangout with girls maybe my ex too. This is a great convo to have at the beginning of a relationship, I have never had bad results with this.

It says that you have female friends you want to hang with.
It shows her you are not so much in her pocket by wanting exclusivity with her.
It shows her you are more in control of your emotions than she thinks by being so dismissive of monogamy or whatever.
It's a neg because you just told her that you really don't care what she does as long as you can do it too.

It really sets you aside from all the insecure little kids she has been dating in the past. Quite honestly I do care, but the purpose of the convo is to make her care too. It's too easy for a girl to be offered something free from some dude think it's innocent enough and take it. But when you put yourself in the scenario by telling her that you plan on buying girls lunches or planning something to do with your ex things change. And she has to understand that the door swings both ways, and it may swing a little wider for you because after all you are the one with the bread to spend on dinners and such.

It also changes the nature of her deception, she's not keeping a secret because you are so irrational and insecure for your own good, or because she knows it's just an innocent thing between friends. You have a deal that is based on fairness, almost a relationship oath and if she breaks it she is being dishonest with your relationship. There are no excuses now of just friends or any other BS she may use to justify her actions.

If she can do it, I can do it too.

This was really good. I'll have to try this, thanks!