Why not just stick to one night stands only

[Dhoulmagus]

We all **** about women on this site, but still continue to pursue relationships with one. Once we find one, the average life span is about a month or two until we are back on this site asking for advice. Are Dj tactics just not right tactics for relationships or are girls just that bad.

 

[jurry]

You're projecting your own reality with women onto everyone else on the forum so as to avoid taking responsibility for yourself.

Stop writing posts and trolling for sympathy like a child. Go out and live your life.

 

[bukowski_merit]

ONS is lonely business man. I try to avoid them if possible.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

You're projecting your own reality with women onto everyone else on the forum so as to avoid taking responsibility for yourself.

Stop writing posts and trolling for sympathy like a child. Go out and live your life.

Just look at all the topics and jaded posters on here. There's literally a topic about the bible against women. Plus, our cure is to jump from one woman to another. Like switching poisons to take lol.

 

[jurry]

Just look at all the topics and jaded posters on here. There's literally a topic about the bible against women.

Thats their problem. There are many good posters on here too.

Anyone can register and post nonsense, it doesnt mean they have any idea about being a DJ. What does it have to do with your relationship success?

 

[zekko]

There's literally a topic about the bible against women.

Stop right there. I do not see those bible verses as being "against women". Those verses define that the woman's place is to be submissive to her husband - the man MUST be the head of the family. But to lead the family is a RESPONSIBILITY, you can't use that position to be abusive and do what you want. Also, some of the verses are against immoral and argumentative women - a warning to men to avoid them.

We all **** about women on this site, but still continue to pursue relationships with one. Once we find one, the average life span is about a month or two until we are back on this site asking for advice. Are Dj tactics just not right tactics for relationships or are girls just that bad.

I've been living with my girlfriend for 11 years. PUA tactics are specifically designed as short term mating strategies. That's why they tend to the "bad boy" route. Because that's the kind of guy that women who want a quick, meaningless lay are looking for.

If you want to find a steady girlfriend, quit playing stupid games, and be yourself. But IMPROVE yourself so that you have value as yourself, and you know it. That's not to say improve yourself so you can get women. But if you are a young man, you want to improve yourself so you can be the best you can be, meet your potential, and enjoy the fruit of your labors.

 

[Vulpine]

Why not just stick to one night stands only

Night club cover charges.
Cost of drinks.
Chinese made contraceptives.
Warts.
Herpes.
False rape charges.
Psycho stalkers, and their exes.
Time.

 

[LMFAO]

Because most people want to eventually end up in happy fulfilling relationships...

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Do what makes you happy, because at the end of the day everything that vulpine wrote can happen to you in a "fulfilling" relationship. Monogamy and marriage is not for everybody, its your life...your choice

 

[Vulpine]

Do what makes you happy, because at the end of the day everything that vulpine wrote can happen to you in a "fulfilling" relationship.

That's true, however, the odds are greatly reduced. And, qualification insures the likelihood of exposure to ills is reduced even further.

Without the vehicle that is qualification, "dating" is nothing more than sportƒucking. When the sport of it is gone, then what else do you have to show for your efforts? An empty wallet, funk on your junk, child support?

People age. Energy wanes. Priorities shift. When you look ahead to the future, why not stick to one night stands only? Perhaps misandrist bombed-out barslüts with kids at the babysitters and a sore on their lip is what lies ahead for most guys in terms of future options.

My final answer?
Some guys have goals.

 

[Vulpine]

I just DP'd the forum. OOps.

 

[MOTU]

OP, I'll give you an example of why I like being in a LTR. Yesterday I was h0rny so I txted my GF to come give me a booty call before she picked up her kids after work. She came over, fvcked my brains out and left. Friday we'll play racquetball then go to her company Christmas dinner, both of which I will enjoy.

Like Zekko said, the PUA stuff is about building attraction and getting laid. Once you find one worth keeping around you switch to relationship game, like Rollo and Athol Kay talk about.

Most of the guys who end up jaded either don't learn how to screen properly, have unrealistic expectations of women, or are not willing to put out the effort to get what they really want.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

An older buddy of mine pretty much does this. I've known him 4-5 years, he just stacks them up I guess. Some broads call him up, 3-6mo later some a year later just looking to hook up.
One admitted to him she just ended a relationship & wanted some action. Do what works for you man.

 

[In2theGame]

I have done this many many times with very attractive girls and at first it's great but overall, It ultimately leaves you feeling pretty empty inside and unfulfilled.

 

[jurry]

I have done this many many times with very attractive girls and at first it's great but overall, It ultimately leaves you feeling pretty empty inside and unfulfilled.

Thats the tradeoff.

Security and consistency on the one hand or spontaneity and newness on the other.

The question is how do you combine the two. Can you be secure and comfortable enough on your own that you do not need a woman? Can you be with a woman in an LTR and keep it fresh and exciting?

If the answer to either question is no, then you've got changes to make.

 

[mangotot]

You are forgetting the guys who, for whatever reason, can't get one night stands let alone a steady relationship with a hot woman. I suspect there must be quite a few of those too.

 

[skinnyguy]

You are forgetting the guys who, for whatever reason, can't get one night stands let alone a steady relationship with a hot woman. I suspect there must be quite a few of those too.

It's the 80/20 rule. Also, now that online dating is prevalent, even ugly women only want top tier guys.

 

[Bingo-Player]

ONS are great for confidence and experience in banging women

however in reality at age 35 + , all your buddies are whipped your ridin solo and tired after a hard week in work

do you really wanna be up till 4am hunting a potential ONS down

i know i won't

my plan when i hit 35 is too select around 8 women whom i enjoy spending time with and banging and then cycle through them

rinse repeat

 

[Jaylan]

We all **** about women on this site, but still continue to pursue relationships with one. Once we find one, the average life span is about a month or two until we are back on this site asking for advice. Are Dj tactics just not right tactics for relationships or are girls just that bad.

I usually find a girl I like and date casually. I don't get risky in my sexual behavior anymore, and I keep things simple with 1 chick. Its light, no commitment, and if things don't work, I move on.

I haven't been in a relationship in a long time. I just cant do one night stands anymore because of the health risk involved. And the pregnancy risk as well. Nothing is 100%, but at least sleeping with someone I've vetted decently will protect my health better. Plus after vetting, I can know more if the chick is itching to be a mommy or not if things mess up and she gets pregnant.

ONS is lonely business man. I try to avoid them if possible.

This too. Depending on your personality, a ONS leaves you feeling empty and awkward after you satisfy your sexual needs.

I feel much better sleeping with a girl I at least like as a friend. It just feels more comfortable. After being single for so long, I know for a fact that one-off, empty sex just doesn't work for me.

Stop right there. I do not see those bible verses as being "against women". Those verses define that the woman's place is to be submissive to her husband - the man MUST be the head of the family. But to lead the family is a RESPONSIBILITY, you can't use that position to be abusive and do what you want. Also, some of the verses are against immoral and argumentative women - a warning to men to avoid them.
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I wouldn't use the bible as a life guide on anything...especially considering some of the other things it teaches and advocates. Its not a perfect book, and I don't expect a centuries old book to be. Its written in a different time, when men and women were different,--had different roles and rights.

If it were up to the bible, men would be getting laid less and getting trapped in marriages.